Is this weird? I find it weird.

[Anonymous]

We have a new PT nanny who is great and works for our very weird schedule. She lives less than a mile away and her DD is the same age as my DD (by two weeks.) We are very happy with our arrangement and really enjoy her flexibility and think it’s great my DD (who will forever be an only child) has a playmate and substitute sibling to help her with social skills etc.

What’s weird to me, is nanny came and helped us out last minute with DD in tow and I offered to babysit her DD so she and her DH could do a date night (they have no local family). Nanny said, “oh, that’s a sweet offer but we don’t let anyone watch DD.”

I was a bit taken aback. We’ve only known her for a month or two, but… she watches my kid? Something really odd about a nanny who doesn’t let people watch her kid. Makes me think of when actors say they don’t watch tv. Like? It’s your industry? I am just super weirded out and slightly offended.

[Anonymous]

First time parent? How old is the kid? I do think it's odd, but to each his own.

[Anonymous]

She probably doesn't think that you're that great of a babysitter

[Anonymous]

This exact scenario was posted here before.

[Anonymous]

It's weird to offer to watch your nanny's kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This exact scenario was posted here before.

Yes, it was.

OP, it's weird for you to watch the nanny's kid. Either she really doesn't use outside people, or she has good boundaries and didn't know how to explain that without offending you. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This exact scenario was posted here before.

Yep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's weird to offer to watch your nanny's kid.

NP. Out of curiosity, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's weird to offer to watch your nanny's kid.

NP. Out of curiosity, why?

Because that's not the nature of your relationship. You pay her and have a professional distance.

[Anonymous]

Not weird at all. I wouldn’t want my boss to babysit my children. Weird power dynamics.

[Anonymous]

This was posted here already. Get some new material.

[Anonymous]

Not weird for the nanny to say that. I also have somewhat complicated boundaries about who watches my kids that I would not want to get into with my employer.

Weird that you're offended, honestly. The nanny is a professional caregiver. You are (I assume) not. Would you take her up on it if she offered to do your job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This exact scenario was posted here before.

Yes, it was.

OP, it's weird for you to watch the nanny's kid. Either she really doesn't use outside people, or she has good boundaries and didn't know how to explain that without offending you. Let it go.

I remember that. Same scenario, but much younger kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This exact scenario was posted here before.

Yep

Trolls are running out of topics.

[Anonymous]

You’ve posted this before.