When did you tell your office you are pregnant?

[Anonymous]

I am currently 8 weeks pregnant with my first child. I am waiting until 12 weeks to tell my office, but a couple people have been looking at my chest and stomach funny lately. My bbs have gotten big and I am very bloated (almost look several months preggo). I am overweight, so it is not clear if I have fat belly or preggo belly (ha ha).

It is also getting to be spring, so less layers of clothing.

What did you all do? Any advice? I don't think my boss has any idea.

[Anonymous]

Not knowing your office atmosphere, I would still hold off. If people make comments, just laugh them off... saying you are gaining a bit of weight. You can all chuckle about it later once you tell everyone after the first trimester.

[Anonymous]

I waited to 5 months which is about when I started showing. I couldn't hide it because I was skinny to start with, plus it was spring/summer time. If you're overweight, then that's good because you can camouflage it for a little longer.

[Anonymous]

If ANYONE in your office knows and it's important to you that YOU be the one who breaks it to your boss, you may want to consider sharing it with him/her sooner rather than later. I told my boss very early on (@ 7 wks) for a number of reasons, and he kept it to himself until I announced it more publically at around 4 months.

[Anonymous]

When I got pregnant, my husband told his department immediately and later happily posted sonograms on his office door. I waited as long as I could to tell my department at another university -- they had just hired me -- and then when I told my colleagues I felt as if I was apologizing to them. I was an academic and planned the pregnancy for the summer so we were able to handle the time off with no problem. But I was very worried about how my heavily male and middle-aged department would respond. This was back in the early 90s. Might be different today. Or not.

[Anonymous]

I waited 4 1/2 months, but only because I was waiting for amnio results first. I would have probably done it a couple of weeks earlier otherwise.

Definitely tell your boss before anyone else at work - he or she will really appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

there was a post on this same topic not too long ago. You may want to search for it for more helpful ideas.

[Anonymous]

I waited until 14 weeks. Would have told at 12 - I was soooo excited - but my boss was out of town and I wanted to tell him first.

[Anonymous]

I told my immediate supervisor pretty early on because I was so tired and nauseated and didn't want him to think there was something else wrong with me, like I had a bad attitude, etc. It was pretty easy with him, because he is such a great, caring guy--had 3 yo twins at the time and kind of a new agey guy--we had a good relationship and I knew he'd be supportive, and he was--the first thing he said was, "You'll be a great mom!" which was nice because I was freaking out! With other supervisors I've had, I probably would have waited.
Told the rest of the crew (higher up bosses, other colleagues) probably around 3-4 months.

[Anonymous]

I was a couple weeks into my second trimester when I told my boss and coworkers. I tried to hold off as long as possible because I had two prior miscarriages in the first trimester. I didn't want to have to tell people at work I lost the baby if something went wrong again. (I also work at a big company and word spread fast when I finally did tell. People I barely knew were congratulating me.) I work with all men, and even though I was gaining weight, I knew they wouldn't question me. All the men I know don't ask women if their pregnant.

[Anonymous]

I waited til 5 months - I went away for a two week vacation and came back a lot heavier and definitely needed to tell