Three kids, only want to put one in private school

[Anonymous]

We have 2 boys (1st and 3rd graders) and a girl (preschool). I would like to put our daughter in an all-girls school. Our district public schools are highly rated and the boys are happy. I think DD will do much better emotionally and academically in a single-sex environment, however. Are there issues with splitting siblings between private and public due to gender?

[Anonymous]

This situation seems like a fine one for a split. I have two boys and feel much more conflicted about leaving one in public while his brother goes to (coed) private.

[Anonymous]

My only advice is to wait and let your daughter grow up a bit and see what environment is a good fit for your particular kid. I went to an all girls school and it was not a good fit for me. I think the benefits of all girls are greatest at older ages, but only for those girls that need it. For me, it was limiting (I was an outgoing kid and not very influenced by trying to impress boys, but it was a good fit for my sister).

[Anonymous]

I would wait. You have three kids and the real need for private schools is if a kid has some level of disabilities. A kid who is far ahead can get additional classes or programs outside of school.

At this age you just can’t tell which of the three need help. With luck it’s none of them!

[Anonymous]

Smart thinking OP! There is sadly - still so much discrimination vs. girls. Good girls get lost in public. All of the attention is on boys- especially misbehaved ones. You will be setting your DD up for a lifetime of success by sending her to an all girls private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have 2 boys (1st and 3rd graders) and a girl (preschool). I would like to put our daughter in an all-girls school. Our district public schools are highly rated and the boys are happy. I think DD will do much better emotionally and academically in a single-sex environment, however. Are there issues with splitting siblings between private and public due to gender?

Have her start in public and if she’s unhappy the girls only schools start in 3rd or 4th grade here and Madeira later. Or go to stone ridge for K, or apply later.

She’s not even 5 yo so don’t worry.

[Anonymous]

Idk, I used to think that about my DD when she was in preschool. But then I ended up sending her to a co-ed private and she is doing great. I love watching her interacting with her boy classmates at birthday parties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Smart thinking OP! There is sadly - still so much discrimination vs. girls. Good girls get lost in public. All of the attention is on boys- especially misbehaved ones. You will be setting your DD up for a lifetime of success by sending her to an all girls private.

This does not resonate with me. Girls do better than boys score-wise in public and are the model students. “Misbehaving” boys are treated poorly.

[Anonymous]

Is it your baggage that you are projecting on her not doing well in integrated schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would wait. You have three kids and the real need for private schools is if a kid has some level of disabilities. A kid who is far ahead can get additional classes or programs outside of school.

At this age you just can’t tell which of the three need help. With luck it’s none of them!

Private school is not a safe haven for kids with disabilities. They have no legal obligation to serve kids with disabilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Smart thinking OP! There is sadly - still so much discrimination vs. girls. Good girls get lost in public. All of the attention is on boys- especially misbehaved ones. You will be setting your DD up for a lifetime of success by sending her to an all girls private.

The data pretty much says the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have 2 boys (1st and 3rd graders) and a girl (preschool). I would like to put our daughter in an all-girls school. Our district public schools are highly rated and the boys are happy. I think DD will do much better emotionally and academically in a single-sex environment, however. Are there issues with splitting siblings between private and public due to gender?

Wow. I would never so obviously favor one of my kids that way. How else is this manifesting itself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have 2 boys (1st and 3rd graders) and a girl (preschool). I would like to put our daughter in an all-girls school. Our district public schools are highly rated and the boys are happy. I think DD will do much better emotionally and academically in a single-sex environment, however. Are there issues with splitting siblings between private and public due to gender?

I'm really curious what made you think your daughter would do better emotionally and academically in an all-girls school when she is only in preschool? Not meant to be a confrontational question, but I am genuinely puzzled how you decided this when she is so young.