DH keeps turning off the heat
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Anonymous
| This is an ongoing argument of ours. He runs warm but I try to explain to him that we need to keep the heating system on. I never turn it above 72 since he always complains so it’s never actually hot in the house. Every time anyone comes over, they talk about how cold it is. He even runs two fans in our room at night and I just do my best to bundle up and not complain. Once again, I wake up to a freezing cold house and coughing children. I check the system and he tuned it off again once we all went to bed. How can I get him to understand and stop doing this? I’m the one having to deal with coughing and irritable children each time he does this. Heck, I’m even coughing myself. Sounds small but I’m irritated. |
Anonymous
| He’s selfish and a cheap mofo. |
Anonymous
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My FIL does this. It's like he doesn't understand how a thermostat works and that you don't turn it off when it gets to the desired temperature.
Do you have a programmable thermostat? Does it go down at night? 72 degrees is much too warm for sleep, so your DH might be reacting to that. |
Anonymous
Selfish, yes. Cheap, not so much. I tried to explain to him that the system has to work harder to heat a 5,500 sq ft house every morning and it’s more affordable to keep the system at 72 but he doesn’t care. Just wants himself to feel comfortable while the rest of us have stuffy noses and are coughing. |
Anonymous
| I go down to 64 at night. I would sweat at 72. |
Anonymous
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He's being a d!ck. That said, get him a bed cooling system: https://sleep.me/
Not an ad, I promise -- this is just the one I know about. I'm sure there are other similar products out there. |
Anonymous
OP here. I appreciate this solution. I can have it adjust at night. What is a better sleeping temperature? 68/69? |
Anonymous
| 72 is really high. We literally never turn it up that high, day or night. Your husband is right to complain. |
Anonymous
| 72 is too hot to sleep. And what does coughing have to do with anything? |
Anonymous
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He’s an idiot if he doesn’t understand that when you turn the system OFF, it takes tons of time and energy just to achieve base temperature again. That said, two things:
1) There’s such an easy compromise I can’t believe it hasn’t dawned on you—agree on a “nighttime temperature” of, like, 68 so that it’s not OFF, but it’s also not 72. 2) 72 is high. You might want to consider 70 as a daytime temp. |
Anonymous
| I met my future spouse when I was 18 and he was 19. I wasn't worried about families, medical history, shared values about religion etc. I DID tell him that if we ever got married, that I would control the thermostat however I gd pleased because I refuse to be uncomfortable in my own home. He was young and in love so he agreed. Best move I ever made. |
Anonymous
Agree with PP that 64 is nice for night. Get a blanket for each bed, though we don’t really need one at 64. We tend to keep ours at 68 during the day. |
Anonymous
| 72 is too high. And turning the heating off in the night should be standard. Most euorpean countries have now the rule that you can not heat above 67 degrees. Find a compromise. Our heaeting ist set on 68 and this is a healthy and comfortable temperature. Nobody has to walk around in shorts and sleeveless shirts during wintertime. But I don't understand why your husband turns on two fans at night??? |
Anonymous
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72 is way too hot to sleep. Sorry, but the person who runs hot always wins this. Because you can always add layers and blankets, but the hot person can't do anything.
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Anonymous
| how cold is it at night? we set ours no warmer than 62 night, 68 day. |