Best way to reconnect with this family member?
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Anonymous
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I’m feeling really bad about the disconnect with this family member and feel Thanksgiving is the perfect time to reach out again.
It’s DHs now deceased grandfather’s much younger wife. She was outcast by the rest of the family for the whole time of their marriage, but my DH and I found her to be a pleasant, wonderful woman. We saw her a couple times a year and I would occasionally talk to her on the phone. She was “grandma” to our kids. When grandpa passed away last year, life got crazy for me (family medical issues) and work hectic for DH, and we just sort of lost touch. I don’t think our relationship will ever be the same, obviously. But she cared for grandpa and was wonderful to our children and I don’t want to forget her. I’d like to send a card for Thanksgiving, but I don’t even know what to say that articulates all of this. Should I even bother? |
Anonymous
| I would. I probably would call - Hey, Clara, how are you doing? We've lost touch after Grandpa died but I am using my Thanksgiving to call the people I'm thankful for and you are one of them. How are you doing? ..... |
Anonymous
| +1 for call instead of card |
Anonymous
This is a great script. And definitely call. |
Anonymous
| This is a great idea, OP. I always regret that, after my grandfather remarried after my biological grandmother died, we always treated wife #2 as something less than. We weren’t disrespectful, we were just dumb middle schoolers. My mom loved her and as an adult I now see why. She died after a few years and if I could go back and tell her we appreciated her, I would. I bet your MIL would really appreciate hearing from you. |
Anonymous
Agreed. I am betting she will appreciate it so much. |