What would you do if your adult son who had depression...

[Anonymous]

refused to get treatment, go to college or vocational school, search for job postings, or do chores? They could become homeless if you told them to move out. I am concerned about the possibility of this happening in the future.

[Anonymous]

How old is he?

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Anonymous wrote:refused to get treatment, go to college or vocational school, search for job postings, or do chores? They could become homeless if you told them to move out. I am concerned about the possibility of this happening in the future.

If you really thought they would become homeless if you told them to move out, then obviously don't tell them to move out. You're stuck with them until things improve. How old are they?

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Anonymous wrote:refused to get treatment, go to college or vocational school, search for job postings, or do chores? They could become homeless if you told them to move out. I am concerned about the possibility of this happening in the future.

If you really thought they would become homeless if you told them to move out, then obviously don't tell them to move out. You're stuck with them until things improve. How old are they?

Yes--telling him to move out would not be an option. He is 16.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:refused to get treatment, go to college or vocational school, search for job postings, or do chores? They could become homeless if you told them to move out. I am concerned about the possibility of this happening in the future.

Okay, I understand he's 16. Give him time and space. It's 2 years until college/vocational school. Obviously too soon to ask him to move out.

Is he in therapy?

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Anonymous wrote:refused to get treatment, go to college or vocational school, search for job postings, or do chores? They could become homeless if you told them to move out. I am concerned about the possibility of this happening in the future.

Okay, I understand he's 16. Give him time and space. It's 2 years until college/vocational school. Obviously too soon to ask him to move out.

Is he in therapy?

Thanks for your post. Telling him to move out would not be an option if what I described were the case. Currently, he is not experiencing depression, but he will see a therapist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:refused to get treatment, go to college or vocational school, search for job postings, or do chores? They could become homeless if you told them to move out. I am concerned about the possibility of this happening in the future.

Okay, I understand he's 16. Give him time and space. It's 2 years until college/vocational school. Obviously too soon to ask him to move out.

Is he in therapy?

Thanks for your post. Telling him to move out would not be an option if what I described were the case. Currently, he is not experiencing depression, but he will see a therapist.

I'm a bit confused. Is this your son?

[Anonymous]

Why are you wasting time on this? The kid is 16. He will change a lot in the next 2 years. Calm down.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell him to take action first, and the feeling like it will happen later. He is thinking in reverse. So he either gets busy going to a part-time job and doing chores, or he can be grounded or worse go to boarding school.

[Anonymous]

BTDT. I arranged treatment and I completed job applications and set up all interviews. Getting meds and a schedule of something productive to do was really helpful.

[Anonymous]

At 16?

You seem to be a piece of work, OP. Your kid is not adult. My prayer is that you do not have guns readily available for your kid to become a mass shooter.

You do everything to support your child in a healthy way and you go to therapy yourself so that you can learn how to be a good parent.

[Anonymous]

OP, get yourself some help for your anxiety first. Two years is a long time, enough for him to get on the right path, provided that your anxiety doesn’t get in the way.

[Anonymous]

If he's 16 he's not an adult. Get him treatment, see how things go

[Anonymous]

Thanks, PPs. I meant that I am concerned that this may happen when he is several years older. I am definitely not saying that he is an adult now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you wasting time on this? The kid is 16. He will change a lot in the next 2 years. Calm down.

Exactly. How dramatic!

How about supporting his teen years now OP?

If he has depression, have you seek treatment for him? Therapy? How about sports?

How are you connecting and encouraging your teen now?