How to bring up concerns
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Anonymous
| One of my adult DC is really struggling. I think there are mental health issues. How do I gently start a conversation about this? Is there any way? I don't want to sabotage my relationship with them, but I can't stand by and say nothing either. I want to be helpful and come up with a plan of action, etc. I know it can be scary to hear but something is not right. How can I bring this up, or should I? They're 20. Maybe they will outgrow it? |
Anonymous
| I’d list the things that concern you, and ask if these concern your child too. If yes, ask if you can help with it. If no, ask them to humor you by seeing if a professional is concerned. Neutral third party and all. |
Anonymous
| What kinds of things are they struggling with? Mine started with MH issues at around 15 so we’re used to talking about it. When I check in, I usually start by what I’m seeing as not going well. It’s a conversation starter. |
Anonymous
Meet them for a walk or drive or some activity where you two aren't sitting across and still. Talk to them about things in general. Ask if something is bothering them? Share your observation and ask if they may want to talk to a therapist to have some neutral insight. No judgment, just connection and discussion from you. |
Anonymous
| Are they holding a job? Are they progressing in school? Does their sleeping/eating/management of anger seem ordinary? Do they live with you? Do they have to? Is it a financial necessity? |