Consequences for hitting sibling

[Anonymous]

What do you guys use at home? Kids are 5-10.

[Anonymous]

Go to your room and don’t come out until you can be around people without hitting them.

[Anonymous]

No one else has this issue? Or no one uses consequences?

[Anonymous]

I have twin girls and one of them is a hitter. It happened maybe three times in the span of a few weeks about two years ago (they were 6). I was so frustrated that she continued to do it after consequences like going to her room, etc. so I told her we needed to try something else. I asked her what consequence she thought would be fair and would keep her from doing it again, and she said no TV or iPad for a week. (They do not have access to iPads all the time but generally get a few hours over the course of a week, one day after school during the week and then some time on the weekends depending on what we're doing, and TV is about the same). So now that's the consequence. It works, but not perfectly. When she sees red she still has a hard time controlling herself but it has gotten better as she has gotten older.

[Anonymous]

Umm..a lecture on how to dodge faster next time? "Remember to leave no visible marks!" "Not the face!" "Could you cut your nails?" "Well, you did that and he hit you. What did you think was going to happen?" "If you don't stop it, I'm going to pinch all three of you." (note: my pinches are lame). "Go to your rooms and I want to hear nothing for the next 30 minutes."

[Anonymous]

The hittee gets to hit the hitter. Sometimes the hitter needs to know how it feels.

[Anonymous]

Both kids go to time out. Kids need to learn not to push someone over the edge as well as not go over the edge.

Also my kids have a “safe word” because rough housing can sometimes just get out of hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm..a lecture on how to dodge faster next time? "Remember to leave no visible marks!" "Not the face!" "Could you cut your nails?" "Well, you did that and he hit you. What did you think was going to happen?" "If you don't stop it, I'm going to pinch all three of you." (note: my pinches are lame). "Go to your rooms and I want to hear nothing for the next 30 minutes."

Ahahah I love it! This is me too… my 3 year old son occasionally hit both his older sisters… they occasionally hit back, but usually don’t.
I just punish all of them

[Anonymous]

Who hit who? That matters..

[Anonymous]

They get hit back. You don’t get to be a bully and not know what it feels like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both kids go to time out. Kids need to learn not to push someone over the edge as well as not go over the edge.

Also my kids have a “safe word” because rough housing can sometimes just get out of hand.

So, basically you don't want to deal with it. Stop letting your kids rough house and supervise them if things are that bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm..a lecture on how to dodge faster next time? "Remember to leave no visible marks!" "Not the face!" "Could you cut your nails?" "Well, you did that and he hit you. What did you think was going to happen?" "If you don't stop it, I'm going to pinch all three of you." (note: my pinches are lame). "Go to your rooms and I want to hear nothing for the next 30 minutes."

Wow

[Anonymous]

It’s biscuits and gravy to me

[Anonymous]

Going to your room does nothing.

[Anonymous]

It depends. Did the "victim" start the fight, and the hitter escalated? Or was the hitting truly unprovoked?