Annoyed by spouse talking

[Anonymous]

How bad is it that I’m frequently annoyed by my spouse not for anything in particular that they do, but mostly by what they say. So much talking, particularly about work, which I find so boring, and sometimes even obnoxious. I love them very much and they’re a great partner but often times I wish they would just stop talking or at least talk about something different. Is this normal? How do I get over this? I definitely don’t want it to be this way and also understand a lot of it might have to do with me rather than my spouse.

[Anonymous]

I think you've described most long-term marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you've described most long-term marriages.

+1
I find my youngest child this way too. Figure out a way to tune them out and pretend you are listening. I.e., he said what? How did that make you feel?..... 5 min later... that sounds so stressful. What do plan to do?.... 5 min later. That sound like a great plan what are the alternatives? .... and on and on and on

It's worked for me for 18 years of marriage and 15 years of parenting. My youngest is 6 and I swear she doesn't talk all day so she can give me a 4 hour play by play each night. It's exhausting!

[Anonymous]

I have a lifer marriage and still love my husband deeply. I really don’t want to talk with him other than brief exchanges about mundane things. I feel terribly guilty about this so I suffer through discussions about car repairs and Amazon returns and force myself to interject loving comments. Sometimes it feels like the relative that drones on in Derry girls, although he is nothing like that.

[Anonymous]

Is he working from home? If so, he seems isolated.

[Anonymous]

Talking, breathing, chewing! Yes, agreed. I'm an OP from a different thread about wanting to divorce for no goo reason. Ug.

Long term marriages are the best and the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talking, breathing, chewing! Yes, agreed. I'm an OP from a different thread about wanting to divorce for no goo reason. Ug.

Long term marriages are the best and the worst.

Yes 🤣 all of this! It’s helpful to not feel so alone.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes tell my DH to be quiet when we are different floors of the house. He just makes SO MUCH NOISE all the time.

He is good humored about it because he honestly doesn't even realize he's doing this.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I understand this feeling. My husband complains that I am boring/don't talk enough, however, he talks more than enough for both of us combined. Most of what he says he has said before 100 times, and is incredibly repetitive and boring. I'd rather spend some of that time in companionable silence.