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My dd has had a gabb phone for the past 1.5 years (since spring of 5th grade--she is now in fall of 7th grade). It has been a good fit. I have told her that she is not getting a smartphone until 8th grade, if then.
Now, with her 13th birthday approaching, she's pushing back on this, and saying she wants a smartphone for her birthday. I don't intend to get her one (this is made easier by the fact that quite a few kids in her social circle don't have them)... but all the same I would like to find some way to be responsive to her feelings, short of granting what she's requesting. One thought I had was to get a Pinwheel phone, which won't accommodate internet browser or social media but which will allow parent to add other apps from a curated list--this way she could have other things she's expressed interest in (google maps, spotify, calendar, mindfulness apps, kindle app, etc). I am interested to hear from anyone who has tried a Pinwheel. What is your experience--pros, cons, anything else you'd care to share? I am NOT asking for people's opinion about whether I should get my daughter a smartphone, I'm well informed as to the pros and cons and I don't want to have that debate here. Thank you! |
| Does she want those apps? If not just stick with what she already has. |
Sorry just saw she expressed interest int them. I still would stick with what you already have, it’s doubtful The Pinwheel will scratch the itch. |
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Hi. Both my kids have pinwheel phones (11 & 13)
What 8noove about them is that I have total (and simple user friendly) control over when their phones are in what mode. For example, I’ve programmed the phones to be shut off at 9pm. I can also program the phones to allow certain apps at certain times. My kids have a school day mode where they can receive texts from only me and can use Remind; but they cannot chat with friends or use Spotify. Those things become available at 3:30. All of this is customizable and intended to grow with your child. They are Samsung phones so they don’t look like a kid phone with has been key in fitting in with peers. Also like that I can approve/ monitor contacts and text and call history. I generally don’t, but recently my son got into trouble and I decided to go back through his phone and it was quite helpful. The pinwheelmplatform occasionally needs to be updated and reloaded but I would 100% recommend it. And if you decide it’s not for you, then just remove the pinwheel platform and run it as an Android smartphone. |
This is extremely helpful. This is all very appealing. Thank you so much! |
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Thanks OP!
Right there with you. We just got second tween his own Gabb phone. The newest ones are some sort of Samsung model designed for Gabb. As a Samsung, it seems somehow "more acceptable" at school. Gabb works great! Will check out Pinwheel next. Holding out against a smart phone for as long as possible because its horrible to see what these phones are doing to other kids in this generation. |
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If you are planning to get her a phone in 8th grade, do you want to get another piece of hardware now that she will replace in 11 months?
What about a tablet? She can use all those apps on a tablet but only when she has wifi, so there are some automatic brakes on usage. |
OP here. When she gets a smartphone, I could use the Pinwheel for her younger sibling. But to be honest, although I'm hardly in the "money is no object" category, I am willing to spend extra money here given that there are mental health issues at stake (some of which are particular to my anxious and slightly compulsive kiddo - not judging others). In that context, buying 11 months of time for her to ease her way into use of a device like this, and 11 months of time to gain just a bit more maturity and a stronger sense of self... Is worth it to me (and cheap compared to the costs--financial and otherwise-- of mental health issues). simply put, I don't want instagram and internet in her pocket just yet (and yes I know iphones have parental controls, and I also know kids who get around them). We have an ipad, and I agree 1000% with your logic. If I don't get the Pinwheel I'll continue to offer that as an alternative. |
Insta is toxic for teens: “ Depression, lower self-esteem, appearance anxiety and body dissatisfaction are all associated with Instagram use. One study examined the frequency of Instagram use, and found it was linked with all of these negative outcomes." |
Here is the source, cited in a Forbes article: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2021/10/05/heres-how-instagram-harms-young-women-according-to-research/?sh=747da796255a |
| Pinwheel does have good phones, and you are able to enable play store on them in case you want to add more apps that are not on the approved list. |
Hi OP, Please take a look - even a brief look - at this science ( especially the graph on page 5): https://sapienlabs.org/wp-content/uploads/202...llbeing-Outcomes.pdf I would put off getting your child a phone for as long as possible. If they really need it, buy them a flip-phone. |