if you get financial aid do schools expect you attend all events

[Anonymous]

Do schools want you to come to all the events and volunteer alot if they giving you financial aid. I know one family that don't go to events but what do schools expect?

[Anonymous]

No, not at all. At our school the financial aid families usually attend nothing. Frankly, it's just the wealthy who attend and hob nob with each other. We are full pay but not wealthy and wish the financial aid families would attend more because they are much friendlier. But they stay away. 🙁

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, not at all. At our school the financial aid families usually attend nothing. Frankly, it's just the wealthy who attend and hob nob with each other. We are full pay but not wealthy and wish the financial aid families would attend more because they are much friendlier. But they stay away. 🙁

How do you know who gets financial aid? Stereotype much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, not at all. At our school the financial aid families usually attend nothing. Frankly, it's just the wealthy who attend and hob nob with each other. We are full pay but not wealthy and wish the financial aid families would attend more because they are much friendlier. But they stay away. 🙁

Where is your school located? This sounds awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do schools want you to come to all the events and volunteer alot if they giving you financial aid. I know one family that don't go to events but what do schools expect?

They don’t expect anything really except they would like all parents to attend as part of the community. It is your school too and don’t separate yourself. You have every right to attend events and be involved in your kids life as anyone else. That is if you want to attend. If you don’t then don’t worry about it but please do not separate yourself.

[Anonymous]

No! No expectations different than any other family at our school (and any school where that’s not the case is deeply messed up.)

[Anonymous]

No clue which families get financial aid at our school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! No expectations different than any other family at our school (and any school where that’s not the case is deeply messed up.)

This is interesting. As a FA family, I feel a pressure to be more involved in the community than I might choose to be otherwise. I feel very aware that small but important decisions about continuing aid might be influenced by the school's desire to keep us enrolled. I'm not at all sure that it works like that, but that is how I think about it. This thinking also prevents me from opting out of events that might intimidate me but I might actually enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No! No expectations different than any other family at our school (and any school where that’s not the case is deeply messed up.)

This is interesting. As a FA family, I feel a pressure to be more involved in the community than I might choose to be otherwise. I feel very aware that small but important decisions about continuing aid might be influenced by the school's desire to keep us enrolled. I'm not at all sure that it works like that, but that is how I think about it. This thinking also prevents me from opting out of events that might intimidate me but I might actually enjoy.

Can any admission folks or anyone that is familiar share how it works?

[Anonymous]

It's "a lot", not "alot"

[Anonymous]

This doesn’t sound right. The FA families usually work very hard. The wealthy moms have a lot of free time during the day (SAHMs and household employees). So who is more likely to attend? My guess is, it’s not the parents who have a tenuous safety net, and who are at risk of losing their jobs if they go to all these events.

[Anonymous]

I do not think so. I don't know who gets financial aid, but I think the families that want to participate do, and those that don't want to don't. The school is not paying attention to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not think so. I don't know who gets financial aid, but I think the families that want to participate do, and those that don't want to don't. The school is not paying attention to that.

PS - what they ARE paying attention to is the annual fund participation. When those come, you should find a value you feel comfortable donating. It is important on the school metrics to get % of parents donating high, so it's great if a FA family donates (even something like $25). They will love you for this and it will be noticed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No clue which families get financial aid at our school.

This is the correct answer. The assumptions from PP are absurd and borderline racist.

[Anonymous]

We are an FA family and try to volunteer whenever possible - weekend events, preparation for fundraisers, etc. We are grateful to receive the aid and try to make that clear by giving time when we can. But not everyone can do that. We know another FA family where father is a mechanic and the mother works in retail, so they have to work weekends. I'm sure the school doesn't hold it against anyone. It is primarily the wealthy, SAHMs that run the volunteer events, but I assume that is because they have plenty of time to do so.