Do men get turned off by women who earn significantly more than they do?

[Anonymous]

Can they men weigh in on this please, my husband says yes, I think that he is wrong.

[Anonymous]

I did not. I would not have married my wife if I did.

[Anonymous]

I've been outearning my husband our whole married life. I didn't care at first, I'm used to living on less than my friends, and don't need alot of bling. But then we had kids and I started resenting him for not making more, because times were extremely hard....savings depleted, no family help, maternity leave cut short, etc. All the stress was on me to get the bills paid. I was angry for a long time, but tried hard to make the best of things and keep truckin. But what do you know, now he is outearning me. He didn't have a problem with making less before, but it did bother him when I would get financially stressed and he felt like he wasn't good enough for me. I'm glad we stuck it out through the hard times....now things are blissful.

[Anonymous]

There are men that do. There are men that don't.

I know my husband would be disgusted with me if he found that I was selling myself short just so that I would earn less than he does.

[Anonymous]

What if the woman earns three times as much?

[Anonymous]

My husband wouldn't be, it's his dream to be a stay at home dad. He married the wrong lady for it, unfortunately...

[Anonymous]

I make more than my husband. He doesn't care - he says it all goes in the same pot - so what does it matter where it comes from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if the woman earns three times as much?

Yes, even then. Lawyer married to non-lawyer; doctor married to non-lawyer, etc.

[Anonymous]

For years, my husband made a little more than I did. For the last five years, I've made a lot more than he does. It doesn't bother us one bit. We share everything. My husband isn't into the whole "look how good a provider I am, my wife doesn't have to work" thing, and I'm not the staying home type anyway, so I guess we're well matched in that area.

[Anonymous]

Not any man that I'd want to be married to. Pre-kids, I brought home $200k and my husband loved it! Why wouldn't he?

[Anonymous]

I made $60K while DH made $25K. He switched careers and began entry level while I was already mid-level at the time. I am PP 10:31. Then he was laid off and became a SAHD for awhile. It was financially stressful, but nice to have dinner cooked, laundry done, and peace of mind knowing DC was with a parent instead of a daycare. Now he's a little over $60K.

[Meconbear]

Depends on the man. Really insecure ones would be totally turned-off.

My husband, on the other hand, regularly fantasizes (jokingly) about me going back to a firm on partner track so that he can quit his job (he's an attorney and makes 3x as much as me) and become a history professor.

[Anonymous]

I can't wait for the day that my wife makes partner so I can become a kept man.

But seriously, my wife made more than me last year. I'm both grateful and proud of her.