Is it creepy to show up unannounced?

[Anonymous]

If you had a bad fight with SO. Is it creepy to show up at their place unannounced with a gift and apology?

[Anonymous]

It’s not creepy. But it might be inconsiderate.

Depends on how long you’ve been dating. What kind of gift?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not creepy. But it might be inconsiderate.

Depends on how long you’ve been dating. What kind of gift?

Can you explain how it might be inconsiderate? Dating 7 months. First big fight. I don't want it to end.

[Anonymous]

It's not creepy. But you should call or text first to see if it's ok.

[Anonymous]

So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

What was the fight about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.

Fight was not about being controlling or overbearing. I told SO I wanted to end things in the heat of the moment, now they are not taking my calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.

Fight was not about being controlling or overbearing. I told SO I wanted to end things in the heat of the moment, now they are not taking my calls.

That doesn’t sound like a good dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.

Fight was not about being controlling or overbearing. I told SO I wanted to end things in the heat of the moment, now they are not taking my calls.

That doesn’t sound like a good dynamic.

No it's not. Which is why I want to break it, and apologize.

[Anonymous]

You’re impulsive. You said something you didn’t mean and now you want to go to her home when she clearly doesn’t want to speak to you.

Given what you said, you need to let her open the door to resuming the relationship. If she’s blocking you, you know where you stand. If she wanted to hear and apology from you she would take your call.

[Anonymous]

If you can't show up unannounced at the home of the person you've been dating for 7 months, you must not have had a close relationship. That you would even think it's creepy or inconsiderate makes me thing something is "off" about your relationship in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.

Fight was not about being controlling or overbearing. I told SO I wanted to end things in the heat of the moment, now they are not taking my calls.

I mean to me that relationship is over. I would not trust you anymore and you ended it, so it is over.

[Anonymous]

Not creepy but maybe not a good idea just yet? I dunno, hard to say. it could go well, it could go badly, maybe think of it as a Hail Mary.

[Anonymous]

It could be very awkward, since presumably they now consider themselves single and who knows what they are doing.