"Situationship"

[Anonymous]

So my 19 year old taught me this new word for a dating relationship that results from two similar people/age/background being thrown together that is not really serious or likely to last. He explained that "in your day, you might have called it a summer fling type relationship"

And now I am trying to determine if his 24 year old brother is in a "situationship" or a "relationship"? All in fun, I promise - no stalking - but I really like her and I am trying not to get too attached if nothing serious is going on.

They are both in a pretty remote location together, with a few other young adults - son says they are "dating" and it was clear they shared a room when we visited. He brought her along to dinners when we visited, but not for the daytime activities. But when he calls to chat, he doesn't really talk about her.

What other clues might you look for?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't look for clues. I take things as the kids present them to me, and I'm kind to their dates but don't get attached emotionally at all. I like to give my kids their space. They are adults and I'm sure don't want people trying to define relationships they themselves may not have defined yet.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes situationships last. Look at Sandy and Danny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So my 19 year old taught me this new word for a dating relationship that results from two similar people/age/background being thrown together that is not really serious or likely to last. He explained that "in your day, you might have called it a summer fling type relationship"

And now I am trying to determine if his 24 year old brother is in a "situationship" or a "relationship"? All in fun, I promise - no stalking - but I really like her and I am trying not to get too attached if nothing serious is going on.

They are both in a pretty remote location together, with a few other young adults - son says they are "dating" and it was clear they shared a room when we visited. He brought her along to dinners when we visited, but not for the daytime activities. But when he calls to chat, he doesn't really talk about her.

What other clues might you look for?

I'll be respectful to whatevership it is and at whatever stage. If they take someone seriously, their future plans would be inclusive. "I may move there." vs "We may move there."

[Anonymous]

I vs We is the biggest clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes situationships last. Look at Sandy and Danny.

[Anonymous]

Future together plans, nailed down - trips, attending weddings

[Anonymous]

Great word.
If married people are staying together for the kids and one or both intends to bail once kids are gone, is that a situationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great word.
If married people are staying together for the kids and one or both intends to bail once kids are gone, is that a situationship?

Its just a hardship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes situationships last. Look at Sandy and Danny.

Yea but they were hopelessly devoted.

[Anonymous]

Toss up. I’ve seen summer internship “situationships” go the distance. I’ve also seen people get their hearts broken.

[Anonymous]

Young situationships can evolve, mature marriages may devolve, there are no guarantees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great word.
If married people are staying together for the kids and one or both intends to bail once kids are gone, is that a situationship?

Its just a hardship.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Imho its just another way to minimize the long commitment while maximizing the immediate benefit. If its a relationship, its a relationship. If its a hook up, its a hook up, no need to wrap sterling silver with gold.