Best way to support 14 year old sister
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Anonymous
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My little sister is ready to come out!!
She’s scared our dad might make some jokes about it, because he’s always saying jokes about gays and he’s doesn’t like them. What’s it’s the best way to come out? Should she wait or what? She doesn’t know to say it now or when she has a girlfriend. |
Anonymous
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If she’s “ready” to come out, then she can come out.
She doesn’t have to. Plenty of people wait. I’m sorry about your dad. My parents said all kinds of stupid stuff that I think they really regret now, but affected me deeply. Dad needs to cut that $hit out. What’s the relationship like overall? |
Anonymous
| She should wait. |
Anonymous
| I think the best way to support your sister is to call your dad out on his homophobic comments, especially if Dad knows you are straight (which I’m assuming you are from your post.) |
Anonymous
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When LGBTQ+ people come out is highly personal and something we do in our own time when we're ready. Sometimes you're ready to tell some people but not others. If she wants to tell your dad then you should tell her that can be there with her and support her when she does it. Having allies, especially family is so helpful. Many of us lose our family when we come out. I know it sounds like something from a different era to kids these days but it does happen still.
The most important thing is for her to be safe and comfortable. It's a sad truth that a lot of queer kids are kicked out of their homes after coming out. If people can't accept their children and love them for who they are they shouldn't have kids. |
Anonymous
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Nothing to add, but when my child came out to me, I took a long hard look at anything I might have said in the past and honestly, had to make some changes about how I spoke. Best thing is to follow your sister's lead and wait for signs for her.
Oh, and tell your dad to F off. |
Anonymous
Pot calling kettle. |