Great relationship with bio mom

[Anonymous]

My SD is getting married in Dec. All of the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. But she’s 25 so we all keep our thoughts among ourselves. Bio mom texted me this morning “want to help me find a MOB dress for the sh!tshow”. So we’re off to go shopping together.

[Anonymous]

Yikes! I guess bio mom doesn’t have a great relationship with her DD.

[Anonymous]

I'm sad for your SD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes! I guess bio mom doesn’t have a great relationship with her DD.

It’s not bad. Why would you infer that they don’t have a good relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

[Anonymous]

“Bio mom?” She’s her MOM, period, not her bio mom. The woman didn’t put her up for adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Bio mom?” She’s her MOM, period, not her bio mom. The woman didn’t put her up for adoption.

Valid point. I apologize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.

When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.

When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.

I mean the 2 people (mom and dad) that were a part of the original conception and birth of the child who is getting married. How am I overstepping?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

You’d be thrilled even if your daughter was marrying an obviously inappropriate person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.

When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.

I mean the 2 people (mom and dad) that were a part of the original conception and birth of the child who is getting married. How am I overstepping?

Ok, so the real parents have spoken. And the daughter is 25. An adult. Your job is to follow the lead of the real parents. End of story.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.

When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.

I mean the 2 people (mom and dad) that were a part of the original conception and birth of the child who is getting married. How am I overstepping?

Ok, so the real parents have spoken. And the daughter is 25. An adult. Your job is to follow the lead of the real parents. End of story.

And I am. When did I ever say I was not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sad for your SD.

Why?

Because she's not being supported by her family. I'd be thrilled if my DD25 were getting married. Your SD isn't a child.

Would you? No matter what? I didn’t provide any context as to why the parents in her life think this is a bad idea. We have shared our concerns about the life she is building for herself and pointed out the discrepancies between what she says she wants and what she’s marrying. Her mom and dad expressed it to her once and that was the last time it was mentioned. The parents are allowed to have their own thoughts about the likely success of this marriage. It doesn’t mean that it is constantly shared with her. Being supportive of her is different than agreeing with her.

When you say her “mom and dad” do you mean her real mom or do you mean you? You are overstepping.

Omfg. She said bio mom and everyone jumped all over her. Now she’s saying mom and you’re criticizing her.

Op, this forum is hard on stepmoms. Lots of bitter ex wives who like to criticize them and tell them they are dirt. Move on.