Take the photos even if you’re fat…

[Anonymous]

It has been said before: I wish I weighed what I used to weigh when I thought I was fat. If you are in your 40s and struggling with weight and avoiding photos- stop it, just stop it. Your children/family love you and they need a photographic record of you and the memories you’ve made. I am 60 now and would love to be as chubby as I was in my forties. There are very few photos of me over the last 20 years. That is nonsense and I have made up my mind that it stops now. I am getting my hair colored every 4 weeks, maintaining a gel mani/pedi and doing my best to exercise and stay healthy. I am going to smile and if there are two chins in the photo it is too damn bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It has been said before: I wish I weighed what I used to weigh when I thought I was fat. If you are in your 40s and struggling with weight and avoiding photos- stop it, just stop it. Your children/family love you and they need a photographic record of you and the memories you’ve made. I am 60 now and would love to be as chubby as I was in my forties. There are very few photos of me over the last 20 years. That is nonsense and I have made up my mind that it stops now. I am getting my hair colored every 4 weeks, maintaining a gel mani/pedi and doing my best to exercise and stay healthy. I am going to smile and if there are two chins in the photo it is too damn bad.

I love this. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Good for you. I love looking at old pics.

[Anonymous]

Agree with this. I'm in my 30s and realized that I either look at older photos and think "oh I looked so good back then!" Or "oh I look so much better now!" Or just focus on the memories. Refusing to be in photos is self-defeating.

[Anonymous]

I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.

What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.

[Anonymous]

Good advice, OP.

I always say, if you don't like a photo of yourself, just wait 10 years!

[Anonymous]

Yeah, your kids aren't going to care that you look fat. They will care if they don't have photos with you in them.

[Anonymous]

Love this, too.

I love pictures of my laughing, robust, hearty mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.

What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.

So true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good advice, OP.

I always say, if you don't like a photo of yourself, just wait 10 years!

+1 I was so insecure about my appearance in college/grad school...now I look at pics and see a beautiful, slim, 20-something blond and wonder what she had to be insecure about. I'm sure I will feel that way about my 30-something self as well.

[Anonymous]

Thank you! My mom is obese and her attitude really affected us kids. There's just so many activities that I feel like she and the rest of us missed out on.
-no family pictures
-there's not one picture of her pregnant with me
-no pool trips ever
-she stood behind me in every photo and I remember hearing her say "suck it in" to everyone.

[Anonymous]

I just don't like my photo being taken. And I'm not fat. I just don't like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.

What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.

You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.

What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.

You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.

And even if they don’t regret it, their families are missing out on mom being part of those pictures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.

What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.

You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.

Maybe. But if you don't like your photo being taken regardless of your weight, I doubt you're going to regret avoiding photographs.