Teens sharing car

[Anonymous]

I have twins and just bought them a car (old, reliable, not fancy.) They will be getting their licenses in the next few months. How did you handle kids sharing a car? Who gets it when? Are siblings responsible for picking each other up? How to share gas costs?

[Anonymous]

Give them $50 each week on tank fillup day. Let them figure out the rest, if they can’t do that peacefully then they don’t drive.

[Anonymous]

Our twins have a car. Basically, we just became a 3-car household for 4 people. My husband works from home, and his car is often available. They can use their bikes to get to many places -- school, soccer practice, gym, etc. We pay for all gas, so they just have a copy of our credit card in their wallets for that purpose.

[Anonymous]

Elizabeth and Jessica Wakefield can work it out themselves. If they can’t, the car is taken away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Elizabeth and Jessica Wakefield can work it out themselves. If they can’t, the car is taken away.

[Anonymous]

They share and figure it out on their own. If there's fighting or refusal to pick up a sibling, they lose their car privileges.

It's worked well so far. We pay for one gas fill up per week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Elizabeth and Jessica Wakefield can work it out themselves. If they can’t, the car is taken away.

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[Anonymous]

We pay for gas so that’s not an issue. Jobs take precedence. If you want the car, you can take your sibling to work. For social conflicts, they have to work it out or ask to use one of the other cars. We actually have THREE sharing one car this summer and it mostly works out fine. It is sometimes funny to see one of the kids walk out to the driveway and then come back in and say, “where’s the car?” We just laugh and say, “you should have worked that out with your brother/sister!” 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Elizabeth and Jessica Wakefield can work it out themselves. If they can’t, the car is taken away.

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You clearly didn’t read the Sweet Valley High books.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We pay for gas so that’s not an issue. Jobs take precedence. If you want the car, you can take your sibling to work. For social conflicts, they have to work it out or ask to use one of the other cars. We actually have THREE sharing one car this summer and it mostly works out fine. It is sometimes funny to see one of the kids walk out to the driveway and then come back in and say, “where’s the car?” We just laugh and say, “you should have worked that out with your brother/sister!” 😂

So what if that "where's the car" asking kid needed the car to get to their job? Do you take privileges away from the other driver who took the car earlier? Or is it just the first one out of the house gets the car? Sounds like a good way to get teens motivated to wake up early!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We pay for gas so that’s not an issue. Jobs take precedence. If you want the car, you can take your sibling to work. For social conflicts, they have to work it out or ask to use one of the other cars. We actually have THREE sharing one car this summer and it mostly works out fine. It is sometimes funny to see one of the kids walk out to the driveway and then come back in and say, “where’s the car?” We just laugh and say, “you should have worked that out with your brother/sister!” 😂

So what if that "where's the car" asking kid needed the car to get to their job? Do you take privileges away from the other driver who took the car earlier? Or is it just the first one out of the house gets the car? Sounds like a good way to get teens motivated to wake up early!

DP, but seriously? If you have a job and need the car to get there and back, you let people know your schedule in advance. That’s part of the responsibility of having a job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We pay for gas so that’s not an issue. Jobs take precedence. If you want the car, you can take your sibling to work. For social conflicts, they have to work it out or ask to use one of the other cars. We actually have THREE sharing one car this summer and it mostly works out fine. It is sometimes funny to see one of the kids walk out to the driveway and then come back in and say, “where’s the car?” We just laugh and say, “you should have worked that out with your brother/sister!” 😂

So what if that "where's the car" asking kid needed the car to get to their job? Do you take privileges away from the other driver who took the car earlier? Or is it just the first one out of the house gets the car? Sounds like a good way to get teens motivated to wake up early!

DP, but seriously? If you have a job and need the car to get there and back, you let people know your schedule in advance. That’s part of the responsibility of having a job.

Wouldn't it be enough just to post job schedules on a family calendar, and then it is the car-taker's responsibility to check the calendar before leaving with the car?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We pay for gas so that’s not an issue. Jobs take precedence. If you want the car, you can take your sibling to work. For social conflicts, they have to work it out or ask to use one of the other cars. We actually have THREE sharing one car this summer and it mostly works out fine. It is sometimes funny to see one of the kids walk out to the driveway and then come back in and say, “where’s the car?” We just laugh and say, “you should have worked that out with your brother/sister!” 😂

So what if that "where's the car" asking kid needed the car to get to their job? Do you take privileges away from the other driver who took the car earlier? Or is it just the first one out of the house gets the car? Sounds like a good way to get teens motivated to wake up early!

DP, but seriously? If you have a job and need the car to get there and back, you let people know your schedule in advance. That’s part of the responsibility of having a job.

Wouldn't it be enough just to post job schedules on a family calendar, and then it is the car-taker's responsibility to check the calendar before leaving with the car?

Good. ness. The point is that this is a problem for the kids to work out and solve (including what works best for them!) not the parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We pay for gas so that’s not an issue. Jobs take precedence. If you want the car, you can take your sibling to work. For social conflicts, they have to work it out or ask to use one of the other cars. We actually have THREE sharing one car this summer and it mostly works out fine. It is sometimes funny to see one of the kids walk out to the driveway and then come back in and say, “where’s the car?” We just laugh and say, “you should have worked that out with your brother/sister!” 😂

So what if that "where's the car" asking kid needed the car to get to their job? Do you take privileges away from the other driver who took the car earlier? Or is it just the first one out of the house gets the car? Sounds like a good way to get teens motivated to wake up early!

DP, but seriously? If you have a job and need the car to get there and back, you let people know your schedule in advance. That’s part of the responsibility of having a job.

Wouldn't it be enough just to post job schedules on a family calendar, and then it is the car-taker's responsibility to check the calendar before leaving with the car?

Good. ness. The point is that this is a problem for the kids to work out and solve (including what works best for them!) not the parents.

I understand your point of view. But I was just commenting on the original 06:05 PP that stated "Jobs take precedence." That is not fully releasing the decision-making to the kids; that is declaring a parental rule and expecting the kids to abide by it during their car sharing.