Help with caregiver search

[Anonymous]

So we found two potential Nannies to take the place of our beloved nanny of a year who is leaving for benefits we can’t provide. One is 24, hip, sweet, not from the most educated family, but references are overall positive. Kids seem to get along ok. Not as much experience with babies as I’d hope, but did seem doting on my daughter. One reference said she needed a lot of direction and had some trouble getting to work on time (which honestly ain’t a huge deal to us bc my husband will be working from home).

The second is a 50 yo woman who used to be a professional nanny before having kids. Now a mom of three young adults. Lives about 15 minutes away. Seems to love us. Hasn’t Nannied in many years, but is energetic, runs marathons, and seems to love kids. References were friends who had good things to say.

We have 3 kids, 9 yo girl, 4 yo boy, 1 yr old. 9 yo will be in school most of the time, 4 yo in half day preschool. Older girl prefers younger hip nanny. My son is just devastated to be losing his beloved nanny.

[Anonymous]

I would say the fifty year old but the lack of references worries me. Did she tell you names of who she worked for even if it’s twenty years or so ago? I’m still kind of leaning towards the fifty year old tho.

[Anonymous]

I’d do the 50 year old
That’s a lot To handle and she As a mom will just have the armor and poise needed
Maybe the young one can babysit sometimes

[Anonymous]

Thank you! Would you be worried if I told you that none of her children went to college and two of them live with their dad? It seems that she divirced her husband a couple of years ago and left their home, so the children stayed in their childhood home.

[Anonymous]

Are they teens? Teens are hard and often waffle back between mom and dad
You are hiring a nanny. Usually they didn’t go to college which is why they are a nanny so it’s not surprising the kids didn’t
I don’t think that reflects if she can be organized and safe.
My top concern would be asking about safety things to gauge how closely she will say watch your Kids at the park.
I’d pick based on comparing how they answer a question. Does
One seem to more closely Fit your parenting style?

[Anonymous]

I’d keep looking, OP.

[Anonymous]

I'd also keep looking. Assuming you are paying market rate for 3 kids, you should be able to generate better candidates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you! Would you be worried if I told you that none of her children went to college and two of them live with their dad? It seems that she divirced her husband a couple of years ago and left their home, so the children stayed in their childhood home.

You said "ain't" so why would it bother you that her children did not go to college as, apparently, your college education did not teach you English grammar and you can't spell "divorced.".

I am calling troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you! Would you be worried if I told you that none of her children went to college and two of them live with their dad? It seems that she divirced her husband a couple of years ago and left their home, so the children stayed in their childhood home.

You said "ain't" so why would it bother you that her children did not go to college as, apparently, your college education did not teach you English grammar and you can't spell "divorced.".

I am calling troll.

Not a troll. Just bad at typing on the phone!

[Anonymous]

I’d just pay up to keep your current nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d just pay up to keep your current nanny.

I wish we could, but she’s accepted another offer already. Also…there were times that we didn’t all mesh. So, I understand her wanting to move on. But we are very sad.

[Anonymous]

If I HAD to choose - I would most definitely select the fifty-yr old.

While she may not have had recent experience working in the Nanny field > she has been a parent and has raised her own kids.

That childcare experience supersedes Nanny experience imo as it shows she has navigated all the developmental stages of a child’s life.

It would be tough to hire a young Nanny who has not parented a child.
I prefer more wisdom + life experience.

Plus fifty is not elderly and I would like a fit, 50 yr old.
Has both energy as well as experience.

Win win. 👍🏽

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d just pay up to keep your current nanny.

I wish we could, but she’s accepted another offer already. Also…there were times that we didn’t all mesh. So, I understand her wanting to move on. But we are very sad.

Devastating for the children. For their sake, you should have put aside your differences with THEIR nanny, AND paid better. Stability is CRITICAL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you! Would you be worried if I told you that none of her children went to college and two of them live with their dad? It seems that she divirced her husband a couple of years ago and left their home, so the children stayed in their childhood home.

Definitely choose the other nanny.

[Anonymous]

Can you interview anyone else?