Do you dislike your friends at times?
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Anonymous
| I have friends that get on my nerves at times or they have personality traits that I dislike, but I still socialize with them. Sometimes I don't even like them, but I can have fun with them doing an activity every few weeks. Is that par for the course? Do you sometimes dislike things about your friends but hang with them anyways? Do I need better friends? |
Anonymous
| Yes I have a friend that can say some pretty ignorant things which come across as mildly racist and homophobic. She also doesn’t recognize how privileged her family is. However, overall I think she is well intentioned, but sometimes I go off seeing her for a week or 2 if she says something ignorant. |
Anonymous
| Of course. No one is perfect. |
Anonymous
And this is the right answer. I think people somehow forgot what friends are and what they are for. |
Anonymous
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I pretty much dislike everyone, all the time now.
Blame trump. He created this. |
Anonymous
| Yes: but not homophobic or racist stuff (people who that would not be my friends - for long at least!) but more like stuff that siblings/roommate/spouses do that annoy me. A little loud after a drink or two, always runs 10 minutes late, goes on and on venting about a family member... stuff I hope others tolerate in me, since I know I can be weird/quirky/annoying! |
Anonymous
| No, because my circle is so small I've only kept decent people. However my relatives can be like this, definitely. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely! I’ve especially had a hard time with them the past 18 months or so. My mom died last year and I made a major career change around the same time. I went through so much and have changed so much that it can be difficult to relate to them. They can be incredibly immature at times. I don’t want to listen to them complain about a TV show not being on or the shoes they want being too expensive when I had to watch my mom die from cancer at age 60. Most of them don’t work at all or have very part-time jobs, so they don’t get that I don’t want to talk on the phone at 10:00 at night or can’t make to lunch on a Thursday. Additionally, there is so much going on in this country and in the world but all they can talk about is Masked Singer and comic books. Grow up, already! |
Anonymous
| I think it depends how often you're annoyed with them and how often you see them. Occasional annoyance, NBD. But if you're consistently irritated with them or find yourself complaining about them, what's the point? One of the best parts of someone who is a good friend vs. family is that you can choose your friends. |
Anonymous
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For some reason this reminds me of the statistic that lesbians are the most likely people to get divorced.
It's because women have such unreasonable high expectations of relationships. And humans just fail to meet those expectations time and time again. There is no way an average guy thinks this way about his friends, but probably most women, including myself, do. I think, and I mean this gently, you should look in the mirror and work on being less reactive and invested in the personalities of your friends. If you "need" them less you can just enjoy them. I mean, most people kind of suck. So we should try to overlook flaws that aren't abusive, or racist or really bad. The happiest people are the most chill about this kind of thing. |
Anonymous
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There are some character traits I can roll with and some I can not.
Close friends I can spend a lot of time with before we irritate each other. Mid-range friends, even less time. And then I have a few friends I try to only see in big groups or for short periods of time. But the majority of my friends ARE my friends because I can spend a lot of time with them having fun. If we aren't having fun, we aren't gonna hang out that much. |
Anonymous
Ehh I don't think this is just about being a woman. Maybe lesbians are better at MOVING on from a bad relationship that m/f partners. I know gay men married to each other who HATE each other. That's not preferable to me. |
Anonymous
| Yes. I have a good friend who is a lot of fun, but can be really selfish and thoughtless. A contractor working on her home died (not in her home), and she complained about the fact that, when the deceased contractor's spouse called to tell her, the spouse "didn't consider how stressed it would make her to hear that." |
Anonymous
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Like all relationships in our lives - friendships are never perfect.
There are friends that irk us on occasion by saying or doing things that simply rub us all the WRONG way. There are certain friends who you can only take in “small doses” & socialize w/on occasion. As well as those that you can see more often and are just much easier to be around. Some friendships simply run their course while others you simply outgrow organically. |
Anonymous
| Yes, especially on social media. |