Moved and feeling unstable
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Anonymous
| Just moved into a new house in another state and am completely discombobulated. What are some things I should do to feel more stable here? Anyone do this before? |
Anonymous
| Get your kids involved in activities and find activities for you and DH as well. Friends and community has always been the best way to ground yourself. |
Anonymous
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I read the book "This is Where You Belong" by Melody Warnick. It wasn't groundbreaking (I had been living in the same place for a while) but it probably has some helpful categories to think about, especially for new arrivals.
If you want to hear about it in a podcast, there's an episode of "By the Book" that explores it. https://www.stitcher.com/show/by-the-book/episode/this-is-where-you-belong-200208925 |
Anonymous
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(Here's Warnick's list of things to do:
Walk more. Buy local. Get to know your neighbors. Do fun stuff. Explore nature. Volunteer. Eat local. Become more political. Create something new. Stay loyal through hard times.) |
Anonymous
| Humans tend to feel grounded in a routine. Marry that to your new location. I would find one neighborhood place and become a regular there. Make is a routine that matches place. A coffee shop, a nail salon, a restaurant or pizza place, or even a grocery store. Visit daily or the same day each week. Build familiarity. |
Anonymous
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Np here. I like the comment about routine. You can even start small. A favorite place to park when you go to the grocery store.
A familiar walk around the neighborhood. Maybe make a deal with yourself, that when presented with the opportunity, you're going to speck to one new person each time. |
Anonymous
| OP what state did you move to? Are the people friendly to try and make friends with? |
Anonymous
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We made several big moves in the past five years. I would say that it's normal to feel unstable to some degree for about six months or so, even longer in some instances. Work on getting the house how you like it, plan dinners that make you feel at home, plan movie nights. Get out into the community and see what's on offer.
There is no rushing this stage. You'll get through it when you get through it. Help yourself, though, by establishing some familiar routines. |
Anonymous
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First, don't rush. Relax.
Do things your interested in to meet like minded people. When you do what you want you are enthusiastic and that attracts people. |