Does your 2yo seem younger than other toddlers their age?

[Anonymous]

27mo DS still really feels like a baby compared to their cousins at that age and other kids I see at the park. In terms of physical capability and seeming to understand what's going on around him. Is this something I should be concerned about?

[Anonymous]

In my experience there's a gulf of difference between a just-turned-24-month-old and a 2.5-year-old. He probably has a huge spurt of development ahead of him.

[Anonymous]

DD is 22 months. Physically she is tiny (2nd percentile) and not as physical or coordinated as her peers. Verbally she is very advanced. Full sentences and understands everything. Because of those two things people think she’s a genius talking at 12 months old!

My point is that you really don’t know looking at a kid how old they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is 22 months. Physically she is tiny (2nd percentile) and not as physical or coordinated as her peers. Verbally she is very advanced. Full sentences and understands everything. Because of those two things people think she’s a genius talking at 12 months old!

My point is that you really don’t know looking at a kid how old they are.

Yep. I have a niece strangers would compliment for “walking so well” when she was 20 mints old bc she was so small. I have a huge kid who got “what’s wrong with him” when he spoke in one-word phrases at 19 months.

Don’t assume you can guess ages at a playground. Birth order plays a huge role too - my third seems older for his age than either of his siblings did.

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Anonymous wrote:DD is 22 months. Physically she is tiny (2nd percentile) and not as physical or coordinated as her peers. Verbally she is very advanced. Full sentences and understands everything. Because of those two things people think she’s a genius talking at 12 months old!

My point is that you really don’t know looking at a kid how old they are.

Yep. I have a niece strangers would compliment for “walking so well” when she was 20 mints old bc she was so small. I have a huge kid who got “what’s wrong with him” when he spoke in one-word phrases at 19 months.

Don’t assume you can guess ages at a playground. Birth order plays a huge role too - my third seems older for his age than either of his siblings did.

Same but with a very, very tall child. Once a woman who saw him in his T3 low rise jeans and high rise pampers said loudly, “idnuit about time he was using the potty”. He was 18 months old at the time.

[Anonymous]

It's normal, OP. There's a lot of variation. If his understanding and social awareness is fine per his doctor's assessment (mchat), no need to worry. Enjoy your sweet child. Your son will feel more like a little kid soon enough.

[Anonymous]

I think if the other 2 yo has older siblings, that can make a difference too. They might have more "skills" because they are copying an older sibling.

[Anonymous]

OP, there is never anything wrong with seeking an assessment from early intervention. If you haven't already done it, fill out the 27 month ASQ (https://www.socfc.org/SOHS/Disabilities%20Mental%20Health/ASQ/ASQ%203%2027%20Months.pdf ) If there are a lot of low scores just get assessed, which is free, and go from there.

[Anonymous]

Opposite issue here. When my DD was 2, she was wearing 4T clothes (99% for height), was the kid atop every play structure at the park, could ice skate, rode her scooter nonstop, had an insane vocabulary etc. Our issue was that because she was often seen as older, people had much higher expectations for her than what was age appropriate. I cannot even tell you how many side-eyes or audible scoffs I received in public when it looked like I had a hard core tantruming 4 or 5yo. I was called in to Montessori several times that year for behavorial issues. I acknowledged I have a feisty and strong willed daughter, but constantly had to remind her teach (who always agreed with me) that she was the youngest in her entire class (August bday).

[Anonymous]

PP here and my best friend has an 18 month old that is 2% for height and wears 9-12m clothes still (her DH is 5'6"). She really does look like this little baby running/jumping/climbing around and people just stare at her all the time. They were in an airport last week and got 4 comments in the 2.5 hours they were there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here and my best friend has an 18 month old that is 2% for height and wears 9-12m clothes still (her DH is 5'6"). She really does look like this little baby running/jumping/climbing around and people just stare at her all the time. They were in an airport last week and got 4 comments in the 2.5 hours they were there.

Adding she is still well within the fit of the infant carrier car seat so they will carry her in it from the car to the park and she will pop out and climb right up the slide and go down so it does kind of look hilarious from an outsiders perspective

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Opposite issue here. When my DD was 2, she was wearing 4T clothes (99% for height), was the kid atop every play structure at the park, could ice skate, rode her scooter nonstop, had an insane vocabulary etc. Our issue was that because she was often seen as older, people had much higher expectations for her than what was age appropriate. I cannot even tell you how many side-eyes or audible scoffs I received in public when it looked like I had a hard core tantruming 4 or 5yo. I was called in to Montessori several times that year for behavorial issues. I acknowledged I have a feisty and strong willed daughter, but constantly had to remind her teach (who always agreed with me) that she was the youngest in her entire class (August bday).

How is this helpful to the OP? Genuinely curious in your motivation in posting this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if the other 2 yo has older siblings, that can make a difference too. They might have more "skills" because they are copying an older sibling.

+1 I always get like my oldest was “behind” when she was 2. Fast forward 8 years, and she definitely isn’t at all behind her peers. And I remember other moms worrying that my 2nd kid was ahead of theirs- he wasn’t! He just had more older sibling training.

However, that said, I agree with the above poster to do the ASQ. Also, if there are behaviors that really stand out, mention them to you ped.