How important is your birthday to you?

[Anonymous]

On a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is you don't care at all and 10 is you expect plans weeks in advance, fancy dinner and gifts and a call from everyone you know before noon on the day, where do you fall?


I'd say maybe a 1 for myself I do expect a call or text from family and birthday wishes from my DH. But that's it. Birthdays were pretty big until I was 25 like I still made plans to do stuff , but that has fizzled out for Mr in my 30s.

Just wondering if this is typical

[Anonymous]

Zero.

[Anonymous]

1.

Usually my parents and brother remember to call. My husband is 50/50 on remembering and I expect even less of my kids.

If I want something I treat myself.

[Anonymous]

For me, maybe a 1. For my DH, if someone remembers it is a 10 of appreciation. If no one remembers, he might be a little sad (I am assuming) but he would never say anything.

[Anonymous]

1. Definitely 1.

[Anonymous]

1 or 2 -- I expect a text from my family, maybe a present or two if they found something I might like. If we're free I might use it as an excuse to get dim sum?

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised people rate it so low. I’m about a 3 (want to go out for dinner, but it doesn’t have to be fancy; want dessert, but it doesn’t have to be a birthday cake) and always assumed I was at the low end of the spectrum.

[Anonymous]

I say a 6. I don't need casual friends or colleagues to do anything. But my best friend or my significant other, yes. I expect them to acknowledge and if logistics work out, to have dinner with me, drinks, or something. And they feel the same way about their birthdays so it works for my circle.

[Anonymous]

When I was younger, birthdays were very important to me.

Especially those important milestones - like turning eighteen + twenty-one‼️

But now in my 50’s, I can take or leave my birthday so my answer would be a 1.

I would feel bad if NO ONE called me on my birthday > however I do not need any presents 🎁 because I usually will purchase anything that I want for myself.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been 0-1 most of my life. I’ve had some great birthday celebrations, but they weren’t important to me.

However, now that my kids are old enough to be aware about celebrating birthdays, it is important to me that my DH organizes with them to make birthday cards. We do the same for his birthday, Mother’s Day, and Father’s Day. The kids and I bake together a lot so we baked my birthday cake this year. It was a lot of fun.

[Anonymous]

3, I guess, but mostly in that I give myself permission to indulge in selfish things for the day. I will go shopping, take the dogs on a hike, go to my favorite lunch spot, etc. I ask my husband to make my favorite dessert, but otherwise I happily do my own thing.

[Anonymous]

to me personally? 10. I always spend the day alone, doing something I enjoy. Sometimes I go on a solo trip around that time. I have zero expectations that anyone else (including my family) will acknowledge it, and I'm seldom disappointed. This year I got several texts from family, which surprised me because it's so so rare.

[Anonymous]

Milestones in general are very important to me. These are the things your life is made of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Milestones in general are very important to me. These are the things your life is made of.

I disagree, in my opinions there are many things to enjoy about life but forcing celebrations on certain days leads to heightened expectations which lead to failures and disappointment.

[Anonymous]

Zero. It’s just a day that I happen to have been born. Could have been any number of days in that general period of time so Nothing dramatic about the one it happened to be. Everyone else has one too. I get acknowledging milestone ones, but even then I don’t think it needs to be on the exact day if it means disrupting the rest of life. Celebrate when it’s convenient.