How realistic is it to separate?

[Anonymous]

In 40s, nice looking, earn a decent salary, but no family support for this woman. I was an only child so no siblings either. Husband has converted to rage issues and i feel constantly emotionally and physically disconnected. He wont listen to request for therapy (or his ED) and explodes whenever there is a situation where his authority is challenged (being a boss at work and high pressure job). He gets meaner by age and i ignore so as not to have an explosion at home for the kids-HS and MS aged but it bothers me more and more. Sure, he helps around the house and with the kids (good dad except when he explodes) but I feel he does not like me as much and has built a wall i cant break no matter how hard I try.
So, how hard is separation in reality?

[Anonymous]

You want anonymous strangers to approve something?

OK, you got it, go ahead and do it.

[Anonymous]

This ideal for separation. He's okay with the kids (yes occasional explosions, but better than what is usually described on thus forum) so shared custody should be doable.

[Anonymous]

I moved from a big family home into a 2 bedroom apartment with four kids, 45 minutes away from the life we'd built. Life was so much easier in all the ways that really mattered.

[Anonymous]

I want straight to divorce and never looked back. Life is short to be so unhappy.

[Anonymous]

The whole process is hard, but if it is what you need or want, it will be better when done. I recently divorced in my early 50s with a MS and HS kid. I earned more, but still took a financial hit. So much happier! Main reason, spouse's addiction