Partner Didn't Hear From His DC's Yesterday

[Anonymous]

My partner has four dc's with two ex wives and all but one is a young adult. I felt bad for him bc not one reached out to him on Father's day. I make sure to celebrate him with our dc but think he must be hurt that his other dc's don't acknowledge the day. We don't see them much and would hate to make it a thing on the rare occasion he does see them but wonder if I should drop a hint to them that it isn't very nice.

[Anonymous]

The man has three baby mamas and you think he’s Father of the Year? LOL. Two abandoned moms don’t make for lots of reasons to celebrate Father’s Day. Hope he at least provides.

[Anonymous]

They don’t “acknowledge the day” because “we don’t see them much.” What do you expect? They aren’t close, so why should they make a pretend show of things on Father’s Day? Real dads/good fathers get celebrated. Sperm donors do not. Have a great Monday, OP.

[Anonymous]

Qs: How often does he reach out to his own kids? Does he call them regularly, like weekly or monthly? Does he reach out on holidays (not Father's Day)? Does he reach out on their birthdays?

If he doesn't maintain a strong relationship with them, then I can see why they would ignore him on Father's Day. If he does maintain a strong relationship, then, yes, I would send a quick text to them and let the kids know that their dad would appreciate hearing from them.

[Anonymous]

Not your business. Make him feel special any way you want but clearly if none of kids reached out to him, he’s the problem.

[Anonymous]

Father’s Day doesn’t seem to be as much of a production as mothers day. I forgot to wish my own father a happy Father’s Day until late in the day. It also sounds like your DH wasn’t always around if he’s had 3 families over the years, so adult kids are less likely to think about it.

I definitely would not say anything. If it bothers your DH then he can mention it.

[Anonymous]

If he were a good father, he would see them often and would be in touch with them regularly.

He has two ex-wives and four kids with those women, AND kids with you? Yeah, with that track record and the fact that you said “we don’t see them much,” sounds like he’s a pretty awful dad. Like, you actively chose to have a relationship and a kid with a man who has two ex-wives and four kids from prior relationships?

[Anonymous]

You call him your “partner,” so you’re not married, but you have a kid together? Hmm. Why do you think it is that he married the other mothers of his kids, but not you? Do you think if he does propose, on your wedding day, will he add “This time, for REAL for real” when he says his vows?

Doesn’t sound like he’s a dad. If he doesn’t see his kids much and has created two broken homes/broken vows twice, why would anyone celebrate him?

[Anonymous]

Lol! If he doesn’t see them much and has two busted up families, do you think maybe they don’t view him as a great father?

I find it hard to believe this post is genuine.

[Anonymous]

The man is not in touch with his four kids from two previous divorces, and he has a kid with you.

Oh please, please do reach out to those kids that he is not close to, as his third “partner,” and chide them for not being very nice. Then report back!

But give me a 10 minute warning so I can make popcorn.

[Anonymous]

Father's Day doesn't have to be kids reaching out to their dads. In fact, it's a good day for dads to reach out to their kids - being the grownup and all - that should be obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My partner has four dc's with two ex wives and all but one is a young adult. I felt bad for him bc not one reached out to him on Father's day. I make sure to celebrate him with our dc but think he must be hurt that his other dc's don't acknowledge the day. We don't see them much and would hate to make it a thing on the rare occasion he does see them but wonder if I should drop a hint to them that it isn't very nice.

Is that you, Melania?

[Anonymous]

He’s obviously not a stellar dad if he abandoned family after family to start a new one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The man has three baby mamas and you think he’s Father of the Year? LOL. Two abandoned moms don’t make for lots of reasons to celebrate Father’s Day. Hope he at least provides.

This.

[Anonymous]

Do not reach out. Not your family, not your business. It could have been an oversight or there could be baggage there of which you are unaware. It always made me very uncomfortable when my stepmother would ask me to ask my siblings to call my dad more often. She didn’t meet him until he was 60+. She had no idea what happened in the years before she came on the scene.