best to teach about color or everyone the same on God Eye's

[Anonymous]

I am a 41 Year old white male.
Do you teach your DC about seeing color?


best to teach about color or everyone the same on God Eye's?
I taught my now 14 year old DD That everyone is the same in God eyes.

but, I am only able to see her once a week and she grew up thinking differently, because of my X....

I don't want to fight about which parenting is better? Teaching about everyone being the same in God eyes? Or teaching about color>?

[Anonymous]

I don’t believe in any god(s), but I think you can do both. You can say that everyone is the same in God’s eyes but not in the eyes of many people and as a result many people treat others badly because of their skin color and we should be aware of the effect that has over generations and generations. Teach your child what is right but also the history of wrongdoing and the still very present wrongdoing. Even if we are “all the
Same” in your god’s eyes, we are not all treated the same on this Earth.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing a 14 year old would have noticed color literally and what it means in history and society by now.

Try to make it clear that you value every person regardless of color but also acknowledge reality.

[Anonymous]

How about

God see's everyone the same

But sometimes skin color does affect how people are treated by other human beings. This can lead to differences in life experiences.

If you "don't see color," you aren't doing them the favor you think you are. You will just not understand what they are talking about when they relate something that happened to them due to their color.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing a 14 year old would have noticed color literally and what it means in history and society by now.

Try to make it clear that you value every person regardless of color but also acknowledge reality.

IMO the reason she thinking differently than me is because of the mother, I taught her well, but she now has different views than I do, and not sure if they are from the mother or social media. They might not teach CRT in school, but the kids talk about thinks that they shouldn't talk about

[Anonymous]

Everyone ISN'T the same though. If everyone were the same, then I, a white woman, would ALSO get followed around in a fancy clothing store instead of only the black women. If everything were the same I would ALSO get pulled over for driving yet doing nothing wrong.

If we don't see color, we can't see racism. If we can't see racism, how will we change it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing a 14 year old would have noticed color literally and what it means in history and society by now.

Try to make it clear that you value every person regardless of color but also acknowledge reality.

IMO the reason she thinking differently than me is because of the mother, I taught her well, but she now has different views than I do, and not sure if they are from the mother or social media. They might not teach CRT in school, but the kids talk about thinks that they shouldn't talk about

Hmmm....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone ISN'T the same though. If everyone were the same, then I, a white woman, would ALSO get followed around in a fancy clothing store instead of only the black women. If everything were the same I would ALSO get pulled over for driving yet doing nothing wrong.

If we don't see color, we can't see racism. If we can't see racism, how will we change it?

White teens, especially rich white teens, also get followed around in a fancy clothing store, fwiw.

Do you see age? Or class? Or only race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing a 14 year old would have noticed color literally and what it means in history and society by now.

Try to make it clear that you value every person regardless of color but also acknowledge reality.

IMO the reason she thinking differently than me is because of the mother, I taught her well, but she now has different views than I do, and not sure if they are from the mother or social media. They might not teach CRT in school, but the kids talk about thinks that they shouldn't talk about

You may be right but DCUM isn't very receptive to this sort of idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone ISN'T the same though. If everyone were the same, then I, a white woman, would ALSO get followed around in a fancy clothing store instead of only the black women. If everything were the same I would ALSO get pulled over for driving yet doing nothing wrong.

If we don't see color, we can't see racism. If we can't see racism, how will we change it?

White teens, especially rich white teens, also get followed around in a fancy clothing store, fwiw.

Do you see age? Or class? Or only race?

Fine, is there any reason for them to follow around a middle aged lady then of any race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone ISN'T the same though. If everyone were the same, then I, a white woman, would ALSO get followed around in a fancy clothing store instead of only the black women. If everything were the same I would ALSO get pulled over for driving yet doing nothing wrong.

If we don't see color, we can't see racism. If we can't see racism, how will we change it?

White teens, especially rich white teens, also get followed around in a fancy clothing store, fwiw.

Do you see age? Or class? Or only race?

Fine, is there any reason for them to follow around a middle aged lady then of any race?

they follow a lot of people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone ISN'T the same though. If everyone were the same, then I, a white woman, would ALSO get followed around in a fancy clothing store instead of only the black women. If everything were the same I would ALSO get pulled over for driving yet doing nothing wrong.

If we don't see color, we can't see racism. If we can't see racism, how will we change it?

White teens, especially rich white teens, also get followed around in a fancy clothing store, fwiw.

Do you see age? Or class? Or only race?

Fine, is there any reason for them to follow around a middle aged lady then of any race?

they follow a lot of people

Ah, fell for it again. I should have known by OP's incoherent first message.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone ISN'T the same though. If everyone were the same, then I, a white woman, would ALSO get followed around in a fancy clothing store instead of only the black women. If everything were the same I would ALSO get pulled over for driving yet doing nothing wrong.

If we don't see color, we can't see racism. If we can't see racism, how will we change it?

White teens, especially rich white teens, also get followed around in a fancy clothing store, fwiw.

Do you see age? Or class? Or only race?

This... does not contradict PP's point? Agism and classism are also issues, albeit not the ones being discussed on this post. Different people of different races (and ages and classes) experience the world differently and we should be aware of and consider those differing experiences when we think about policies and manners and such.

And to OP -- we AREN'T all the same in God's eyes. Assuming you're Christian, please consider Matthew 23:12: "For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted."

[Anonymous]

Teach your kids to make eye contact with people, because it's what's inside a person that matters. God does not look at our outward appearance, He looks at our hearts. Good is good and evil is evil, and our outward appearance makes zero difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing a 14 year old would have noticed color literally and what it means in history and society by now.

Try to make it clear that you value every person regardless of color but also acknowledge reality.

IMO the reason she thinking differently than me is because of the mother, I taught her well, but she now has different views than I do, and not sure if they are from the mother or social media. They might not teach CRT in school, but the kids talk about thinks that they shouldn't talk about

Ivan, most of your comrades have better English. You should work on it or you won’t last in this business.

Of course, people actually living in the US are not opposed to accurately teaching the centrality of race to US history. This is because we have read primary sources, such as the cornerstone speech.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cornerstone_Speech