How to start?

[Anonymous]

I need some post-divorce dating advice please. 45yo cis woman here, I just ended my 18 year marriage with my husband and want to start dating women. I've always been attracted to women and looking back have had many crushes on girlfriends, but I've only ever dated or had sex with men. I'm ready to get going with this new phase in my life but have no idea where to begin. I've always met the men i dated (including my husband) thru other people so I'm skeptical of online dating. And I'm kind of an introvert. And no, this isn't a joke post! Just an honest question posed to strangers online, as one does. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Are you in the DC area?

Online dating can suck. There are online support groups and meetups to help.

I came out in my 30s after marriage to a man and thought I would be judged by those in the lesbian community, but those fears were unfounded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you in the DC area?

Online dating can suck. There are online support groups and meetups to help.

I came out in my 30s after marriage to a man and thought I would be judged by those in the lesbian community, but those fears were unfounded.

I'm newly single as well and want to meet other queer women. What meet up groups in the DC/Maryland are should I join?

[Anonymous]

I’m in several meetups, but the ones that have had pretty consistent good turnout in DC are the Lesbian Happy Hour meetup and Dynamic Lesbians events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in several meetups, but the ones that have had pretty consistent good turnout in DC are the Lesbian Happy Hour meetup and Dynamic Lesbians events.

Any racial and age diversity in these groups?

[Anonymous]

You could go to ALOHO and meet other women. Just having friends helps immensely since they usually have other friends.

Pride is coming up next month. You could go there and you'll probably meet a lot of queer people too. Maybe even find a couple of friends. You could pin one of these to your bag if you want people to know you're not a cis ally.


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[Anonymous]

This might sound silly, but get on TikTok and start liking videos with lesbians to get that algorithm going. I feel like a lot later in life lesbians have used TikTok as a jumping off point for finding someone they like and want to date.

There are also lesbian nights (and maybe bars?) in DC. You could always go with a friend to scope out the scene.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in several meetups, but the ones that have had pretty consistent good turnout in DC are the Lesbian Happy Hour meetup and Dynamic Lesbians events.

Any racial and age diversity in these groups?

Yes! I was pleasantly surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could go to ALOHO and meet other women. Just having friends helps immensely since they usually have other friends.

Pride is coming up next month. You could go there and you'll probably meet a lot of queer people too. Maybe even find a couple of friends. You could pin one of these to your bag if you want people to know you're not a cis ally.


https://www.amazon.com/s?k=lesbian+flag+pin&crid=2CO7118U0UB0R&sprefix=lesbian+flag+pin%2Caps%2C191&ref=nb_sb_noss_1

IME showing up at ALOHO “cold” can be kind of tough. People tend to go with their friends and it can be intimidating if you are solo.
If you go to something like a Lesbian Happy Hour or an event put on my Dynamic Lesbians, I would say that is better for meeting new friends.
Go to ALOHO once you’ve got people to go with.

[Anonymous]

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