“thanks for asking”

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why, but something about this phrase, especially when you’re following up with someone who has been ill or having a hard time, makes me feel really bad. It feels almost passive aggressive, like I have done something wrong.

That’s me, right? I’m weird? It’s really just a normal conversational transition, right?

[Anonymous]

Yes that’s you and you’re weird. What are they supposed to say?

[Anonymous]

I also think it’s rude.

[Anonymous]

It's weird people think this is weird. The person is trying to be nice and show gratitude for someone who shows they care.

[Anonymous]

That's an odd reaction. When I say it I'm grateful that the person was thoughtful enough to inquire about whatever is at issue. It's not a criticism at all.

[Anonymous]

I say this, but I really 100% genuinely mean it when I say it. It never occurred to me that this would offend anyone. Can someone explain why? (no, snark - serious question). I hope I haven't unintentionally offended someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this, but I really 100% genuinely mean it when I say it. It never occurred to me that this would offend anyone. Can someone explain why? (no, snark - serious question). I hope I haven't unintentionally offended someone.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with thanking someone for checking on your wellbeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's weird people think this is weird. The person is trying to be nice and show gratitude for someone who shows they care.

this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also think it’s rude.

What are they supposed to say? Maybe stop interacting with humans. You sound exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Now if you want passive-aggressive, issue a “gentle and friendly reminder.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this, but I really 100% genuinely mean it when I say it. It never occurred to me that this would offend anyone. Can someone explain why? (no, snark - serious question). I hope I haven't unintentionally offended someone.

Because it implies that no one ever asks so it’s being passive aggressive imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also think it’s rude.

What are they supposed to say? Maybe stop interacting with humans. You sound exhausting.

Just answer the question. Don’t say thanks for asking. It makes you look like you think you are very important but no one notices.

[Anonymous]

Like most words, it's all in the tone.

I say it sincerely. I also say "thank you for calling" when a friend calls to chat, because I'm happy they thought of me and called.

I will not stop sincerely thanking people just because of some trolls on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this, but I really 100% genuinely mean it when I say it. It never occurred to me that this would offend anyone. Can someone explain why? (no, snark - serious question). I hope I haven't unintentionally offended someone.

Because it implies that no one ever asks so it’s being passive aggressive imo.

So it’s passive aggressive toward people other than the asker?

Not following.

[Anonymous]

Everyone who said this to me meant it sincerely.

You guys are pathologically insecure and weird.