broke up with ex of 8 yrs and single 2 yrs now feel stronger than before?

[Anonymous]

After breaking up with my ex on bad terms and never speaking again I felt vulnerable and still dependent on him. I felt like I needed someone close for advice and support. I felt very scared by myself but 2 years later without him and I feel more risky. I want to get out and do things and try new things without relying on sound advice. I also deleted dating apps and feel okay being single, 40, and childless but I do sometimes get a longing maybe my biological nature tapping in. I feel like I need a family sometimes but I also like being independent. Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

After a going-nowhere relationship and a few years to rediscover yourself, it seems very normal that you feel better.

[Anonymous]

You're 40, imagine being 50, or even 60, as a childless woman with no close relationships. It's okay tho, you will have plenty of independence.

[Anonymous]

For an emotionally health person, yes, it is normal. You are content and happy on your own, open to meeting someone who is a good fit for your life and priorities, but not desperately chasing down a partner because you know you can be happy either way.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that you wasted your 30s. I tell my young female friends to not do that.

[Anonymous]

I was 40 and single. At 41, I realized that I didn't want to be childless. I pursued IVF on my own with donor sperm. It was the best decision I could have made. I would suggest perhaps figuring this part out of your life with a therapist so you are really listening to your heart.