Does anyone have any knowledge on the dating scenes in these metros?
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Anonymous
| I’m graduating with a biostatistics masters degree, traveling this summer, then looking for a job. I’m in my late twenties and am looking to settle down. I want to meet a guy I can eventually marry and have a kid or two, while I work preferably in the tech or healthcare field. However, I am drawn to walkable cities that are moderately artsy and close to the outdoors or have lots of city parks. Looking mainly into Seattle, Portland, San Francisco, San Diego, and Denver. Do any of these draw men more interested in starting families than others? Or do any of you know about the dating scenes for these towns? Or any others you would recommend? I’m into bearded nerdy, liberal men but not the polyamorous or casual type. |
Anonymous
| Are you from the east coast? I live on the west coast now, grew up in the Midwest, and spent my single years back east. If you are not from here, it will be a big change. I didn’t date out here but my younger friends all find the dating scene to be a challenge if they did not go to college here or grow up here. I live in Seattle now. It looks good on paper but it’s hard to build a social life from the ground up if you’re not from here or if you don’t have kids in school. There are a lot of men who move here for tech jobs and it is more work hard/hide at home than work hard/party hard. There are a lot of bearded, libertarian men but the bearded + liberal crowd skews older or moves to more affordable outlying areas. It’s also a city of neighborhoods and so livable apartment buildings are very scattered amongst SFHs and expensive high rises- there aren’t huge areas of young, single people. |
Anonymous
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consider college towns in outdoorsy areas. so like, eugene instead of portland. madison instead of chicago. boulder instead of denver. davis, ca instead of san francisco.
although san diego is amazing and i'd live there just because it's magic. |
Anonymous
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I live in Denver and previously lived in SF. I love Colorado so I am biased but there are cute park neighborhoods, great outdoors, and a budding art scene (although less established than SF). Some neighborhoods are walkable but Denver is not as walkable as bigger East Coast cities and the public transportation system isn’t great. Lots of transplants here and tons of young people looking to date and make friends. People in general are very laid-back and friendly and value work life balance. There are lots of good guys available to date and settling down and getting married is common, people seem to marry earlier then on the coasts.
I found it harder to make friends in San Francisco and it seemed like, though lots of new people were always moving to SF, lots of people were also moving away. I was not a fan of the dating scene; lots of guys with big egos and people didn’t seem interested in settling down at all. SF is very expensive so it’s harder to make a good living. Most people were settling down very late 30s/early 40s once they felt like they could finally afford having a child. I have never lived in San Diego so take this with a grain of salt but I get the impression from friends that lived there that there are lots of beautiful people but it skews young and it can be a little bit of a party city. |
Anonymous
| I went to grad school in Portland and there’s a lot of people dating but they don’t seem to settle down and move quickly as my DC friends did. Maybe because apartments are so expensive here? |
Anonymous
| I thought this was about finding dates on the Red Line. |
Anonymous
| San Diego dating scene is full of fu*k boys looking for casual sex and nothing more. It’s soul crushing here… |
Anonymous
| Denver and then Seattle. Seattle has more introverts so might take more effort but it’s easy to navigate with good public transportation. San Diego would be my third recommendation but it can be a shallow place. I don’t know about SF but I’ve heard from a lot of single women, it’s a tough place to date. Portland where I’m from originally is a difficult dating scene for heterosexual women and the city hasn’t been doing well in the pandemic with crime and homelessness. |
Anonymous
| San Diego is a great city, but I hates dating there. It trends shallow and can be pretty transient. It also has a strong military culture, which usually aren’t bearded liberals. |
Anonymous
| For someone into statistics to ask this question…..this board is ridiculous |
Anonymous
love is an art, not a science my friend. statistics, logic, it all goes out the window when the heart (and loins) are involved. |
Anonymous
| Google Seattle Freeze. Portland isn't much better. I grew up around those parts. People aren't unkind, they just keep to themselves and their small circle of old friends. Newcomers are looked at as outsiders. |
Anonymous
Eugene? Bwahahahah! Too funny. I lived there for years. It is full of hippies and alternative types with lots of odd body modifications, strange lifestyle habits and far left of the left political opinions. I used to shower and brush my hair and wear clean clothes. I had a guy walk up to me and ask if I was a Republican. I asked why he thought this. He said, well, you always look clean. That's Eugene. Fun town, but I wouldn't want to date a townie there. |
Anonymous
Sadly, women who have shotgun weddings by getting knocked up by men who make 100K+ get results. DC has bearded nerdy liberal men. |
Anonymous
| People are people everywhere. |