mother's day sucks

[Anonymous]

since i started ttc back in 2006, I avoid mother's day like the plague. yesterday, was particularly difficult for me as i sat at home and learned via facebook that 2 friends are pregnant and one classmate gave birth on mother's day. my mom totally understands and doesn't bother me about it, my in-laws who are pretty insensitive people even in the best of times told my husband yesterday that I need face reality and that i can't hide under a rock for the rest of my life. my therapist said its perfectly fine for me to avoid celebrating mother's day for as long as i need too. will it ever get better? even if i become a mother, I feel like I won't ever truly appreciate mother's day for what it is.

[Anonymous]

Yesterday I finally celebrated more mothers' days as a mother than I dreaded during the TTC/IF process. You can get to "normal" once you have your family, but my first though is always about how terrible mother's day made me feel when I was trying to get pregnant.

You have every right to hide under a rock and hate mother's day. Its a pretty dumb holiday, even when you are a mother. And, check out all the posts on the general forum from first time moms who are disappointed that DH didn't rent them a pony or something yesterday.

I hope you eventually get the family you dream of and can have a mothers day that is just "normal". Big hug.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry - I was thinking about all the primary IF women yesterday. I have secondary, so it was bittersweet - I was incredibly grateful for what I have, yet with all the emphasis on motherhood was really feeling the pain of not being able to have another.

[Anonymous]

Totally been there and can relate...ttc 3 years. Last mothers day I found out my 3rd IUI had failed and my sister had a m/c that weekend. This mothers day I got my first BFP ever thanks to IVF...so you never know what a year or a few months may bring. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

Totally hear you PP......mother's day didn't bother me but finding out that classmates/friends/co-workers got pregnant (just by breathing it seemed) was so hard- it would knock the wind out of my sails every time.... and then going to the resulting baby showers, hearing all their plans.....oh man...that was really tough. I have a type A personality, and not being able to control my fertility was so frustrating. I am finally pregnant now with the help of infertility treatment (medicated IUI cycles), and I hope things will work out for you as well!!! Do whatever it takes to get through those difficult times like mother's day, etc.......if it means withdrawing into a hole during those periods than so be it. Unless someone has walked in your shoes, they really can't comprehend what your going through and have no right to judge.

[Anonymous]

Forgive my intrusion but just wanted to share an uplifting story. SIL had been undergoing fertility treatments for six years until last year, when she and BIL ran out of energy and money. On Mother's Day she told us that she is 10 weeks pregnant. The doctor says it is a miracle. It seemed that all hope was lost but now she and we are so happy. Keep hope alive!