Is dinner implied when going to someone's house at 7 pm?

[Anonymous]

We were invited over by acquaintances and I don't want to offend them by asking if we'll be eating. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

I would think they would have specifically said come over for dinner.

[Anonymous]

No. Maybe be after dinner. I’d check

[Anonymous]

Just ask what you can bring. That is likely to elicit information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would think they would have specifically said come over for dinner.

+1. My family eats between 5-6. If I asked you to come at 7, it would be after dinner and cleanup.

[Anonymous]

what was the specific invitation? I think a general invitation to come over at 7:00 on x night implies dinner and an invitation to have a drink/watch a movie/gather around the fire pit implies no dinner. If they have very young kids it's less likely they will offer dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just ask what you can bring. That is likely to elicit information.

+1

Also, did the invitation specify some sort of activity? Like, come over to play pool, watch TV, for a party??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just ask what you can bring. That is likely to elicit information.

+1

Also, did the invitation specify some sort of activity? Like, come over to play pool, watch TV, for a party??

No context...

[Anonymous]

Ummm … just ask. It is not offensive unless they are weirdos. And it’s not your problem. “Hi - looking forward to seeing you! Thank you for hosting - to clarify, is this for dinner or after dinner cocktails? Either is great.” Or something along those lines. We’re all a bit out of practice in socializing because of Covid. Your hosts should have made it clear what the invite is for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ummm … just ask. It is not offensive unless they are weirdos. And it’s not your problem. “Hi - looking forward to seeing you! Thank you for hosting - to clarify, is this for dinner or after dinner cocktails? Either is great.” Or something along those lines. We’re all a bit out of practice in socializing because of Covid. Your hosts should have made it clear what the invite is for.

I agree. No need to dance around the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ummm … just ask. It is not offensive unless they are weirdos. And it’s not your problem. “Hi - looking forward to seeing you! Thank you for hosting - to clarify, is this for dinner or after dinner cocktails? Either is great.” Or something along those lines. We’re all a bit out of practice in socializing because of Covid. Your hosts should have made it clear what the invite is for.

I agree. No need to dance around the issue.

+2 Just ask. If I had to guess I’d say it’s not a dinner invitation, but clearly assumptions differ on that.

[Anonymous]

Always good to clarify.

[Anonymous]

Nope, eat before you go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would think they would have specifically said come over for dinner.

Agreed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ummm … just ask. It is not offensive unless they are weirdos. And it’s not your problem. “Hi - looking forward to seeing you! Thank you for hosting - to clarify, is this for dinner or after dinner cocktails? Either is great.” Or something along those lines. We’re all a bit out of practice in socializing because of Covid. Your hosts should have made it clear what the invite is for.

I agree. No need to dance around the issue.

Some people eat dinner later and 7pm is pre-dinner cocktails.