Rooming with HS best friend
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Anonymous
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DD and her HS best friend are going to the same college, would it be a good idea to room together?
They go to different HS but are very close and hang out once every few weeks, and have been good friends since 6th grade. |
Anonymous
| No they should have different roommates and that way they will meet more people. |
Anonymous
| I think yes because you don’t run the risk of a really bad roommate. |
Anonymous
| Unless you have specific concerns about this particular friend, I would let your daughter make her own decision about this. She’s not clinging to some random person she’s barely friends with out of anxiety, this is a friend she’s been close to for several years but has not been inseparable from given that they go to different schools and only see each other every few weeks. |
Anonymous
| Living with someone can really change a relationship, for the worse. |
Anonymous
| I roomed with one of my close HS friends freshman and sophomore year. Made the college transition easier. We are still very close 35 years later. |
Anonymous
| Don’t do it. |
Anonymous
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Short answer - no. Good friends don’t always make good roommates. Plus it’s typically a learning curve for everyone adjusting to college and the stakes are higher if you make mistakes when you are living with a food friend. Plus you may not get the space you need to make new friends.
IMO, if they still want to live together as freshman, they should take the roommate survey etc and see if they have compatible habits and make sure they look at and discuss whatever guidance res life has of things you should discuss/agree upon as roommates. It would be better if they think about doing this Sophomore year after they’ve had time to adjust, make new friends, and have hopefully learned how to be a good roommate and know what they are looking for in a roommate. |
Anonymous
| No. That said I have no faith in the whole roommate thing and wish they could just put everyone in singles |
Anonymous
| Hahaha. I did this. Our relationship never recovered. |
Anonymous
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We are in a similar situation. However, the girls are not best friends only good acquaintances. They had some classes together in 9th and 12th grade and are both introverts. Their majors are completely different, so they would meet enough other people to connect with and then there are always the hallmates.
I did suggest, as someone else already mentioned too, to fill out the roommate survey and then compare what they each filled in before putting each other's name down. |
Anonymous
Same. |
Anonymous
Tritto. |
Anonymous
| I did it and we are still best friends 15 years later. We lived together all 4 years of college, were in each other’s weddings, are god parents to each other’s kids, and travel to meet up often. Not always a recipe for disaster. |
Anonymous
| I didn’t and I’m glad, because my friend left the school after freshman year, and it was good that I already knew other people. |