positive test after m/c...now I am terrified!

[Anonymous]

I had a m/c at 12 weeks in October. They didn't know why. It took until now to get pregnant again. I had months of trying with really messed up periods. This was the cutoff month to go back to the OB for tests to find out what was wrong. Now that the shock that I am finally pregnant again is wearing off, I am realizing I am terrified. I had one healthy pregnancy (my DS is 3) and then the m/c. Any advice on how not to freak out for the next few months. I am so afraid of going through all of this again...

[Anonymous]

I'm with you. I had a m/c in 2004 at about 8 weeks, then a healthy pregnancy. Then, got pregnant again last November and lost that over a very long 6 weeks in January and February. I am pregnant again. At about 5 weeks now. I go back to the OB for more bloodwork today to make sure the numbers are still ok.

All I can recommend is that you keep an eye on your numbers and treat yourself well. To some degree, I have come to the conclusion that if it is going to end, it is going to end. In most cases, I believe there is nothing you can do.

What that does is rob you of the joy of being pregnant. I will tell you from my first m/c and subsequent healthy pregnancy that there came a point that I did let myself believe. It was somewhere in the 2nd tri, when I was weeks past the timing of my first m/c. I expect that will happen again in this pregnancy if I get that far.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

anyone who miscarried feels exactly the same way. We think twice as to who / when we share information and walk on eggshells until we hit all of those milestones - hear the heatbeat, get past the 1st trimester, ...

there is no magic bullet to help you, I wish there was. All I can say is that there are many woman who are in the same boat and all know how you feel. Here is a hug from 1 of them today.

[Anonymous]

I feel the exact same way. Miscarried at 8 weeks in Jan. I am now pregnant and don't feel at all excited about it. In fact, I am up half the night worrying. I think and hope that it will be get better after I hear a heartbeat. I just don't trust my body anymore.

[Anonymous]

It is hard; I know. I had a m/c in December at about 6 weeks. Cycles messed up for a bit. Pregnant again and almost 8.5 weeks. I actually decided NOT to get my numbers checked earlier bc I knew it would only cause stress to have to wait a couple days between tests to see if they were going up. My first ultrasound is tomorrow and I'm terrified. I thought that once I got past 6 weeks, I would feel more confident, but I didn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:anyone who miscarried feels exactly the same way. We think twice as to who / when we share information and walk on eggshells until we hit all of those milestones - hear the heatbeat, get past the 1st trimester, ...

there is no magic bullet to help you, I wish there was. All I can say is that there are many woman who are in the same boat and all know how you feel. Here is a hug from 1 of them today.

And another one from me. This poster summed it up perfectly. No magic bullet, just one day at a time. Best wishes!

[Anonymous]

12:10 here. Had my appt today, and there was a strong heartbeat and it's measuring 2 days ahead of where I thought I was. What an emotional morning. I don't think I could believe I was even pregnant again until I saw the hb. I know I'm not out of the woods yet, but it's a huge relief that everything is OK thus far. Being pregnant after a m/c is scary ... I'm sorry you have to go through the fear.

[Anonymous]

I had a m/c between my first two and am now pregnant for the 4th time ( 15 weeks ! )All I can say is let yourself grieve the loss of your baby and try and celebrate your new pregnancy. It is NOT easy so take each day at a time. Every time I went to the bathroom and even now after a successful pregnancy, I expect to see blood. Once you get past your milestones, you'll feel more confident. Treat yourself well - it's hard to have the extra hormones and have the emotions that go with pregnancy. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12:10 here. Had my appt today, and there was a strong heartbeat and it's measuring 2 days ahead of where I thought I was. What an emotional morning. I don't think I could believe I was even pregnant again until I saw the hb. I know I'm not out of the woods yet, but it's a huge relief that everything is OK thus far. Being pregnant after a m/c is scary ... I'm sorry you have to go through the fear.

Congrats. I am 7:43 from May 7. I have finally scheduled my U/S for May 26th. The betas were doubling, but progesterone dropping. I can't wait to see that heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, PP. Good luck to you. I have heard of pregnancies that go well even with low progesterone. Best wishes.