Work and Manager

[Anonymous]

I have recently (close to year) started working on a project (there are 9 teams in the project).
Just want to add that I am a woman.

My manager (she) is also in the same project but in a different team.
She manages around 20 people in the same project but are placed in different teams.
A lot of people she manages have worked with her for years. So I am relatively a new resource.

In my whole career, I am seeing such situation for the first time and not sure how to deal with it.
She calls me on my personal phone and vents out, brags, chats. Some of these topics include movies, hobbies, how she got complimented, how great she is, about someone else's (my peers) work performance in the project and so on.

She has even asked me to work on some things that are not required by my role and are not my responsibility.
If someone is not in the meeting, she will ping me separately during the meeting ask me to make a note about it and remind her later.
If she is preparing some documentation, she will ask me to work on some aspects of it.

Sometimes she has taken my idea and spoke to team as if it is her idea and never gave me the credit for it.

I am not sure if she does similar things with any of the other resources that she manages.
I am not sure if she discusses me with anyone else as she discusses about others with me.
She feels free to call or message me during or after work hours without any hesitation.
Once she called me during work hours when I was in a team meeting, and I told her that I will get back to her after my meeting. Her response was that I should multi-task.
Although I was missing out on team discussion, I had to hear her out and help her because I know she would put it in my work performance that I do not know multi-tasking.

I sometimes find it stressful to have these conversations. She is my manager and I am always trying to be respectful and within my office role.

Not sure where this is going and how to interpret this.
My salary appraisal and career are in her hands, and obviously I don't want to annoy her.
At the same time, I don't want give false praises to her and just want to be genuine.
I do not want to know or hear about my peers and their matters from my manager.
I also do not want to carry work or work related discussions to out of office hours.

Please post any advice on how to navigate this.