Jen Hatmaker

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Something criminal perhaps?

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To leave your wife and children for another woman after so many years, if true, to really pull that trigger makes him a true outlier. And it is disturbing.

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Previous poster, i recognize she filed. I imagine she felt she had little choice.

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Well i am sure it is all getting very real for him and his new partner now....hope she's worth it because he lost his reputation

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Anonymous wrote:How about some sort of serious financial mismanagement? A blogger I used to read left her husband when she found out he had completely tapped all their accounts to support a gambling habit. That would explain the quick filing before he could do more damage.
Complete speculation.

I don't even know who these people are but was going to say this... Financial or sexual infidelity.

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It’s sad. Real sad. But, I met her years ago 2008ish, before she was anywhere close to where she is now. She always struck me as just wayyy over the top. A little too full of herself, if you ask me. He was also a little too sappy for my taste. But, I observed them both change over the next 3 or so years. He became a little more of an outlaw type. Just look at his change physically over the past 10 yrs. He’s sort of like Jesse James lite... maybe her success, and his lack of it, drove him into a deep area where he felt as if he were lacking. It truly did seem as if it were all about her. So, perhaps he found someone who gave him the attention he wanted/needed. Just a guess. Oh, and by the way, she wrote the book “7”, which is about living in excess etc. well, she left that all behind. She drives a top of the line Range Rover and spares no expense on herself.... let’s be real. She’s made everything about her. Not an excuse to cheat by any means (if that did indeed happen), but there’s more to it than him allegedly stepping out. She’d drive me bat shit crazy. Her larger than life earrings and her subtle lisp and over exaggerating everything is just too much for me.

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I’ve been married 20+ years and don’t feel like she filed because of an affair or his sexuality. Many times in those cases, couples will at least work on saving the marriage before moving to divorce. My guess is that it’s something criminal (child abuse, theft, underage porn, etc.) - especially since it appears that the kids have all taken her side quickly. I think it would have taken something really major to file for a divorce so quickly with such a long marriage. Just my two cents!

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Maybe it’s sex addiction. Multiple hook ups with people, Ashley Madison type stuff. She found stuff on his computer. It’s more than just an affair.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s sad. Real sad. But, I met her years ago 2008ish, before she was anywhere close to where she is now. She always struck me as just wayyy over the top. A little too full of herself, if you ask me. He was also a little too sappy for my taste. But, I observed them both change over the next 3 or so years. He became a little more of an outlaw type. Just look at his change physically over the past 10 yrs. He’s sort of like Jesse James lite... maybe her success, and his lack of it, drove him into a deep area where he felt as if he were lacking. It truly did seem as if it were all about her. So, perhaps he found someone who gave him the attention he wanted/needed. Just a guess. Oh, and by the way, she wrote the book “7”, which is about living in excess etc. well, she left that all behind. She drives a top of the line Range Rover and spares no expense on herself.... let’s be real. She’s made everything about her. Not an excuse to cheat by any means (if that did indeed happen), but there’s more to it than him allegedly stepping out. She’d drive me bat shit crazy. Her larger than life earrings and her subtle lisp and over exaggerating everything is just too much for me.

I don't know her, but I think some people don't understand that just because she is so incredibly charming, yet down to earth and relatable and quirky and funny, doesn't mean that is who she is behind closed doors. Just because he appears a certain way doesn't mean that's who he is. Some people are really good at carving out a persona and some people are truly that wonderful. It just seems like she has an almost cult like following and many are probably ready to show up at his home with pitchforks. If he abused a minor or did something truly horrible, I'll join them. However, I am reserving judgment. I have found her IG posts leading up the divorce melodramatic and over the top. How about just saying "Legally, I am not allowed to share details yet." Otherwise, if legally she can, just spit it out. You made your fortune selling yourself and your family. You don't get to do thought control and control what people are going to assume. Spit it out, or take a break from social media and stop profiting.

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Anonymous wrote:To leave your wife and children for another woman after so many years, if true, to really pull that trigger makes him a true outlier. And it is disturbing.

What are you talking about. That is fairly common--especially when men hit middle age/50. And, it is awful.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been married 20+ years and don’t feel like she filed because of an affair or his sexuality. Many times in those cases, couples will at least work on saving the marriage before moving to divorce. My guess is that it’s something criminal (child abuse, theft, underage porn, etc.) - especially since it appears that the kids have all taken her side quickly. I think it would have taken something really major to file for a divorce so quickly with such a long marriage. Just my two cents!

Arnold Schwarzenegger's kids all jumped immediately to their mom's side after his affair and kid with the housekeeper. They wouldn't even talk to him for a year or so. One of his son's still barely talks to him.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To leave your wife and children for another woman after so many years, if true, to really pull that trigger makes him a true outlier. And it is disturbing.

What are you talking about. That is fairly common--especially when men hit middle age/50. And, it is awful.

It is awful but statistically i think more couples stay together after affairs than men actually leaving to be with their ap. I could be wrong but i recall reading this is the less common outcome. I will look into if true.

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It looks like between 3 and 5% of affairs result in second marriages and about 25% of spouses leave the marriage for the ap. So i guess it is not outlier behavior but 75% of marriages don’t end as a result of the affair.

https://www.divorcesource.com/blog/when-marriages-begin-as-affairs/

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Anonymous wrote:It’s sad. Real sad. But, I met her years ago 2008ish, before she was anywhere close to where she is now. She always struck me as just wayyy over the top. A little too full of herself, if you ask me. He was also a little too sappy for my taste. But, I observed them both change over the next 3 or so years. He became a little more of an outlaw type. Just look at his change physically over the past 10 yrs. He’s sort of like Jesse James lite... maybe her success, and his lack of it, drove him into a deep area where he felt as if he were lacking. It truly did seem as if it were all about her. So, perhaps he found someone who gave him the attention he wanted/needed. Just a guess. Oh, and by the way, she wrote the book “7”, which is about living in excess etc. well, she left that all behind. She drives a top of the line Range Rover and spares no expense on herself.... let’s be real. She’s made everything about her. Not an excuse to cheat by any means (if that did indeed happen), but there’s more to it than him allegedly stepping out. She’d drive me bat shit crazy. Her larger than life earrings and her subtle lisp and over exaggerating everything is just too much for me.

Well let's face it, it often gets very hard in a marriage if the woman is highly successful and he feels overshadowed. It's a real dynamic. I am no high profile writer but I know when my husband strayed emotionally it was during my heaviest involvement with my work when I was near the top of my game. We worked through it and he acknowledged he felt "lonely" but honestly, i felt lonely too for years when he overworked, i just did not have the same need for external validation from the opposite sex my husband had. A lot of these men seem very emotionally hungry. It's sad. But seems like a common pathway to an affair for men

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve been married 20+ years and don’t feel like she filed because of an affair or his sexuality. Many times in those cases, couples will at least work on saving the marriage before moving to divorce. My guess is that it’s something criminal (child abuse, theft, underage porn, etc.) - especially since it appears that the kids have all taken her side quickly. I think it would have taken something really major to file for a divorce so quickly with such a long marriage. Just my two cents!

Arnold Schwarzenegger's kids all jumped immediately to their mom's side after his affair and kid with the housekeeper. They wouldn't even talk to him for a year or so. One of his son's still barely talks to him.

Yeah. This situation seems similar.