Haven’t read the replies but I’d do the c section for sure! I had to have a planned c section with my second and was nervous about it, but recovery was very straightforward. |
C-section 100%.
Make sure you have someone around at all times for the first few weeks (6?) -- you will not be able to lift much or move easily on your own after the surgery. |
That recovery sounds horrible OP. I am also “against” c sections for me, I don’t care what anyone else does. In your case I would gladly sign up for a planned c-section. The recovery sounds much easier than your tailbone ordeal. |
I reallllly don’t want a c section scar so I’d go vaginal |
C/S scar is much better IMO than potential pelvic floor damage, loose vaginal muscles, prolapse, etc. And it's her third child and would be her third vaginal delivery so there is a higher risk of that. Small scar >>>> messed-up s** life for the rest of your life. And I say that as someone who had a vaginal delivery and chose that over a C-section. I turned out ok but wouldn't risk it again. |
I have had two c-sections and a badly bruised tailbone from falling down the stairs. So. Much. More. Pain with the bruised tailbone. Like tenfold. My c-sections--one after laboring and one scheduled--were both a piece of cake. One thing to note--because you said "even if you can't feel anything ..." I just want you to know that while there is zero pain during the surgery, you can 100% feel a lot of pulling, pushing, tugging and it was super weird and unsettling for me the first time because I had not expected it. I think if you go in knowing, it will not be bad--I did not mind at all with my second--but it really freaked me out the first time. |
One of my aunts fell and broke her tailbone in her 40s and it has had a really serious impact on her quality of life as she has gotten older. Go with the c section. |
Obviously the c-section. Perhaps time to rethink being against c-sections. |
+1 and PP already had a vacuum delivery. Chances of lasting pelvic issues and/or risk to baby would make this decision pretty easy, I'd think! BTW, I'm a PP who had a section and my scar is all but invisible: it looks gnarly for the first year but fades to a thin line plus I'd have to shave to notice. |
What? Have you had a c section? The rule is to not lift anything heavier than the baby, but that’s it. Once you’re out of the hospital, you can (and should) walk around the neighborhood, etc. OP, scheduled c sections are so chill. The recovery is predictable and overall easy. I’d go with a c over a difficult vaginal any day. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure or anything. But honestly, with kids at home and a new baby, recovering from a C section will be way easier. |
I've had two c-sections because of breech babies that wouldn't turn and two easy recoveries. I get that people are scared of major surgery, but I also think what people are most scared of with major surgeries is general anesthesia and you don't have that with a c-section. It's just an epidural or nerve block and you're awake and aware of everything that is going on the whole time. I also think people who have challenging recoveries from c-sections are primarily people who had emergency c-sections and therefore other complications. A planned c-section is much easier on your body because you haven't been through labor, or had other issues.
I have never had a broken tailbone, so I can't compare, but would not hesitate to recommend a planned c-section to anyone. |
This happened to me too, but it was because the epidural gave me a panic attack. OP and her spouse should advocate against that. It's not common. It didn't happen to me with my first child, even though I had a panic attack with the epidural with her too. |
I have had both and the broken tail bone was a longer recovery. It took nearly a year for all of the pain to go away. The most intense pain was the first few months, and then it was an occasional and random pain if I set a certain way.
The C-section hurt and was inconvenient, but healed and my recovery really only took six weeks. But I have a pretty nasty scar and the scar tissue caused a shelf belly. If I had to choose, I think I would choose the broken tail bone. |
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You poor woman! I’ve had two vaginal births and am 3.5 weeks away giving birth to my third and last (isn’t it a relief to know this is it!). If I’d had two broken tail bones with my first two I would do the c-section. |