So you let your tween/teen swim with a pad?

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Anonymous wrote:i can't believe anyone would wear a pad in a public pool. that is disgusting.

I can't believe a mom can't teacher her child how to put a tampon in. FFS

Ok, not the PP, but how would you suggest teaching your daughter to put a tampon in - beyond describing the process, watching video tutorials, and looking at pictures/diagrams? Let's hear your suggestions since you seem to be extremely smug and sanctimonious in insisting any girl should be able to use tampons. Thanks.

It’s already been suggested. You take her tou the gynecologist or her care giver. As a former public health nurse in sexual health, I’ve actually helped girls with this.

I’m sorry, but hygiene is an important skill, and menstruation lasts a long time in a woman’s life. We should be so far par this “delicate condition” mentality, it confuses me when a girl has to sit out because, for whatever reason, the available tools are not in her grasp (tampons, cups, the pill).

I’ll be honest, I suspect most of the girls that “won’t” or “can’t”use tampons come from families where the word period and /or mentruation is still spoken in hushed tones, or given some cutsie name and shrouded in guilt and shame. That, or it’s the families where the mother knows so little about her own body that she believes you can lose a tampon, and that wearing a tampon has nothing to do with virginity.

That’s a bunch of bulls**t. We are very, very open in my family - and I’m not squeamish in the least. But my 11 year old really hated putting on a tampon; she tried it once and stated she never wanted to do it again. She just wasn’t ready. Your rigidity and judgment would make you a f-ing horrible nurse.

I don’t believe for a second that someone that horrible is any sort of nurse. Or maybe that’s why she’s a “former” nurse.
In addition, no one should be putting a tampon in a child but the child herself. Not a parent, not a doctor. If she can’t figure it out yet, it’s not worth the potential issues that could cause.

I’m the Gyno who commented earlier and I want to be clear, we do NOT insert for someone. I never said that and I don’t want that misinformation on here!

I do have a plastic model in my office that can be used for demonstration and practice.

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Absolutely not. So unhygienic.

I hated tampons- still do, and didn't really use one until I was 18 or so, and only when absolutely necessary, like when going on a beach vacation.

In my teens, I just simply did not swim when I had my period. Full stop. 1 week a month without swimming was fine. We even had a swimming pool in my backyard, but I never ever used it while wearing a pad. Just no.

Also, if she never wants to wear a tampon for normal use, that's fine, don't pressure her. They just don't agree with some people. They make me nauseous and give me headaches, and I had something like toxic schock once (fever, etc). You can get through life sticking with pads.

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https://menstrualcupreviews.net/period-swimwear/

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Honest question. How does a tampon hold in the blood and a pad doesn’t? I would think a tampon would still leak, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question. How does a tampon hold in the blood and a pad doesn’t? I would think a tampon would still leak, right?

Are you a person with internal reproductive organs?

It's the difference between an absorbent thing inside the body and an absorbent thing outside the body.

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Tweens shouldn’t be made to feel like a failure if they are struggling to cram a plastic rod up their vagina. You are a horrible person.

My dd couldn’t get one in the first summer. There were lots of tear filled conversations through closed bathroom doors. The next summer, she figured it out pretty quickly.

OB tampons do not have a plastic rod. You insert them with your finger. Maybe girls should try them first.

The second time I got my period I was away. It was unexpected and the girls I was with only had tampex tampons. We were not near any stores where I could just run out and buy pads. I took the directions in with me to the bathroom, read and examined them carefully, took some deep breathes and figured it out. I was 12. Best thing that ever happened to me. Pads grossed me out in the end. When I had to use them I could never shake feeling "dirty", especially the first couple of days. I moved on to OB tampons pretty quickly and swore by them. Once I got over my discomfort of using my finger to insert it, I never had another problem. I realized that my discomfort had more to do with my traditional Catholic upbringing. I would encourage you to show her the smallest size of OB and go over how to put it in. I never "lost one" didn't have as many embrassing "accidents" as my friends (especially when I learned to match the different level of tampon absorbency to how light or heavy my flow was throughout my period). I never had a problem with "losing" or forgetting that I was wearing a tampon.

Good luck to your daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised that so many young girls, and perhaps their mothers, are so uncomfortable with their own bodies that they can't figure out how to use a tampon and/or how to teach their daughters how to use a tampon.

I would direct you to 20:12 and 20:23. This has already been discussed. Plenty of women who are completely comfortable with their own bodies and with using tampons have tried helping their daughters, but it's not always easy or possible. Not sure why you can't grasp that.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here’s and I agree, as much as it sucks! She has her period a full seven days, about three of them on the heavier side. Aargh!!

Just to add - I didn’t use tampons until I lost my virginity between freshman and sophomore year in college. Hopefully the easier applicators will help my DD master tampons sooner.

honestly this is silly. It's not 1700. A slim tampon is MAYBE 20% the size of a hard penis. Plenty of virgins use them - like, all girls in early teens.

Still hurts the hymen in many teens.

Once. Get over it.

Tweens shouldn’t be made to feel like a failure if they are struggling to cram a plastic rod up their vagina. You are a horrible person.

My dd couldn’t get one in the first summer. There were lots of tear filled conversations through closed bathroom doors. The next summer, she figured it out pretty quickly.

I think anyone who decides to "cram a plastic rod" up their own vagina is a horrible person. It is obscene to me that, knowing the plastic crisis of our oceans, women still feel entitled to use and discard multiple "plastic rods" each month simply because they are too squeamish to touch their own bodies or risk a little blood on their hand.

Doesn't it make you feel horrible to think of those plastic applicators floating in the ocean, or washed up on beaches (I've seen tampon applicators on beaches)? How obscenely selfish can you get?

This is what my mom told me when she gave me my first box of OB tampons (no applicator, and they are short, even in the higher absorbancies, so much easier and more comfortable to insert than the long types of tampons that come encased in plastic applicators.

I cannot believe that tampons are still sold with plastic applicators. And you are a terrible person if you use them.

So then, to be clear - you don't use plastic of any kind in your life. And I'm sure you don't drive a car, ride on buses, use Uber, fly on planes, or use air conditioning. Just wanted to make sure the moron lecturing the rest of us lives a perfectly clean and environmentally friendly life. I'm sure you do, right?

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I think anyone who decides to "cram a plastic rod" up their own vagina is a horrible person. It is obscene to me that, knowing the plastic crisis of our oceans, women still feel entitled to use and discard multiple "plastic rods" each month simply because they are too squeamish to touch their own bodies or risk a little blood on their hand.

Doesn't it make you feel horrible to think of those plastic applicators floating in the ocean, or washed up on beaches (I've seen tampon applicators on beaches)? How obscenely selfish can you get?

This is what my mom told me when she gave me my first box of OB tampons (no applicator, and they are short, even in the higher absorbancies, so much easier and more comfortable to insert than the long types of tampons that come encased in plastic applicators.

I cannot believe that tampons are still sold with plastic applicators. And you are a terrible person if you use them.

So then, to be clear - you don't use plastic of any kind in your life. And I'm sure you don't drive a car, ride on buses, use Uber, fly on planes, or use air conditioning. Just wanted to make sure the moron lecturing the rest of us lives a perfectly clean and environmentally friendly life. I'm sure you do, right?

That's always a silly argument. Nobody can say, "Don't do A!" unless they also don't do B-Z? Lots of things are a menace to the environment -- including plastic applicators. If you use them, then ok, you use them; but it would be better for the environment if you didn't, and it's a comparatively easy fix. (Unlike, for example, structuring your life so that you never, ever go anywhere in a car).

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I think anyone who decides to "cram a plastic rod" up their own vagina is a horrible person. It is obscene to me that, knowing the plastic crisis of our oceans, women still feel entitled to use and discard multiple "plastic rods" each month simply because they are too squeamish to touch their own bodies or risk a little blood on their hand.

Doesn't it make you feel horrible to think of those plastic applicators floating in the ocean, or washed up on beaches (I've seen tampon applicators on beaches)? How obscenely selfish can you get?

This is what my mom told me when she gave me my first box of OB tampons (no applicator, and they are short, even in the higher absorbancies, so much easier and more comfortable to insert than the long types of tampons that come encased in plastic applicators.

I cannot believe that tampons are still sold with plastic applicators. And you are a terrible person if you use them.

So then, to be clear - you don't use plastic of any kind in your life. And I'm sure you don't drive a car, ride on buses, use Uber, fly on planes, or use air conditioning. Just wanted to make sure the moron lecturing the rest of us lives a perfectly clean and environmentally friendly life. I'm sure you do, right?

That's always a silly argument. Nobody can say, "Don't do A!" unless they also don't do B-Z? Lots of things are a menace to the environment -- including plastic applicators. If you use them, then ok, you use them; but it would be better for the environment if you didn't, and it's a comparatively easy fix. (Unlike, for example, structuring your life so that you never, ever go anywhere in a car).

Are you the PP? You know, the one who called anyone who uses plastic applicators "a terrible person"? If so, no one is taking you seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:to offer a different perspective-- I can well remember the day when I was 12, and I got my period right before swim team practice. I tried to use a tampon and just could not. That whole summer I wore a pad in my speedo to practice. Nobody could tell. Its not like its that much blood- its not like it went everywhere. Seriously- ITS FINE. It is not different than having a tiny cut with a bandaid.

that was gross of you.

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It's very individual. I wore tampons almost from the beginning. One of my daughters wore tampons with no problem at all. My other daughter could not wear them. She simply cannot relax her muscles enough to allow insertion without pain. And she swears she can feel them even when they are correctly positioned. She is 24 years old and wears pads. She hates tampons. I've heard other women say the same.

You don't need to teach your daughter how to insert a tampon beyond very basic instruction. Girls are capable of reading directions and figuring it out. But you never swim with a pad. That's just gross.

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Anonymous wrote:I also am amazed how much ignorance is being displayed on this thread. Here is another link reflecting that typical menstrual flow is between 6-8 t (3 t to at T) so that is the same as the other link. When somebody gives a link you call them a troll and not a woman. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/heavy-periods/

Bwahahaha!

Any woman who has ever had a period knows that is a crock of nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:PP cited one fact from the report, but out of context. She should have included the sentence next to it, too.

In a randomly selected group of premenopausal women, the most common amount of menstrual flow (measured in a laboratory from all collected tampons and pads) was about two tablespoons (30 ml) in a whole period (1;2). However the amount of flow was highly variable—it ranged from a spot to over two cups (540 ml) in one period!

Pre menopausal.

OPs daughter is a teen

Premenopausal means before menopause. That would include teens.

Per the article (because reading seems to be an issue here, although people love to cite stuff)

Refers to women from menarche until perimenopause. Before perimenopause was understood, this term described any menstruating woman.

No, "premenopausal" is the term used when you're in your 40s and your hormones are just starting to whack out as your body begins the descent into menopause.

Op's kid is a teen.

Are there men posting on this thread bc there are some really inaccurate responses that couldn't possibly be from a woman.

But, but, but...they identify as women! And they read a news article!

So of course, real, actual, period suffering women cannot know how much blood actually comes out of their bodies...because, well, they read about it.

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Anonymous wrote:PP cited one fact from the report, but out of context. She should have included the sentence next to it, too.

In a randomly selected group of premenopausal women, the most common amount of menstrual flow (measured in a laboratory from all collected tampons and pads) was about two tablespoons (30 ml) in a whole period (1;2). However the amount of flow was highly variable—it ranged from a spot to over two cups (540 ml) in one period!

Pre menopausal.

OPs daughter is a teen

Premenopausal means before menopause. That would include teens.

Per the article (because reading seems to be an issue here, although people love to cite stuff)

Refers to women from menarche until perimenopause. Before perimenopause was understood, this term described any menstruating woman.

No, dumbass.

Premenopausal means middle age women whose periods are wacky because they are getting ready to go into perimenopause.

For example (since you obviously are not a woman) a period during that time can be anywhere from a light spotting to soaking through a super absorbant tampon plus a pad every couple of hours. It can vary from month to month. Then comes all the other stuff, then finally your period stops.