Please remove shoes sign- Rude?

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Why is being without shoes uncomfortable for them? Do they have untreated fungus? Do they neglect their hygiene and stink to high heaven? Have you had your last pedi appointment a year ago? What is the issue here?

I can't imagine wearing shoes (that are not slippers or flip flops) all day. I'm lucky in how much I can get away in a casual work environment, but even wearing super comfortable shoes all day I want them off in the evening.

Why can't you find something comfortable enough that you don't mind wearing it? Can't you afford well-constructed shoes? Do you have corns or bunions from cheap brands?

Whatever. Next time I'm on a plane next to someone who's decided to go barefoot, would you please change seats with me?

Ha-ha, so stinky feet it is, PP. You know there are remedies for that, right?

Washing the feet of the person next to me on the plane? I don't think they'd want a stranger touching their feet.

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Not rude. We wear shoes at home. I always wear nice socks and slip on shoes when I visit someone’s home just in case.

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I think if you live in a country where the culture is to take off shoes, it's fine to expect people to take their shoes off. But if you are living in a country where that is not the cultural tradition, it is not polite to expect people who are not your own family or very intimate friends to take their shoes off.

Many people in the US see taking off shoes in public as impolite and disrespectful of others with whom you do not have a family type relationship. Respect can equal a certain level of formality to some, and walking around shoeless equals zero formality, and thus respect to them.

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I think it’s rude. I’m also Asian and we don’t wear shoes in our house, but I don’t try to require the same of guests.

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Anonymous wrote:Asian here- Guests in our culture know to remove their shoes when visiting friends and family (especially in the winter). On occasion we have visitors who do not take them off when visiting; is it rude to ask them to take their shoes off or perhaps have a sign outside our door or unside our home? What do you do in your home?

No, its not rude. I'm white, but have several Asian friends and other friends that prefer no shoes in the house, they just ask me to remove my shoes. I will say, my one friend has a bunch of clean/new cheap socks and slippers which I think is nice, especially if its a little chilly and you have to remove shoes, its nice to not be cold.

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I'm white and if the no shoe sign is rude then count me in. I have a sign on my back door leading into the garage where I only let people enter. If by some chance someone does not do what I ask I automatically ask Do You Like To Mop ? while staring at their shoes.

I bought shoe covers for anyone needing to do some work in the house. So far no one declined to put them on.

Honestly, I don't care if someone is offended. If they are, don't come over.

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It’s rude. Expecting someone to remove shoes in your home implies an informality and familiarity that I would not be comfortable with unless you were a very close friend or relative. Shoe removal is not a common practice among native-born US citizens, except for children who are taught to ask permission before removing their shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:I think if you live in a country where the culture is to take off shoes, it's fine to expect people to take their shoes off. But if you are living in a country where that is not the cultural tradition, it is not polite to expect people who are not your own family or very intimate friends to take their shoes off.

Many people in the US see taking off shoes in public as impolite and disrespectful of others with whom you do not have a family type relationship. Respect can equal a certain level of formality to some, and walking around shoeless equals zero formality, and thus respect to them.

See I feel like if you live in an educated area and are under the age of about 50, it IS the cultural tradition to remove shoes. DH and I are white, born in the US, as are many of our friends, and the vast vast majority don't wear shoes in their home.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm white and if the no shoe sign is rude then count me in. I have a sign on my back door leading into the garage where I only let people enter. If by some chance someone does not do what I ask I automatically ask Do You Like To Mop ? while staring at their shoes.

I bought shoe covers for anyone needing to do some work in the house. So far no one declined to put them on.

Honestly, I don't care if someone is offended. If they are, don't come over.

Fine by me. You sound nuts.

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I would just put up the sign. If they don't see it, oh well. If you happen to enter at the same time, take your shoes off slowly and move over so they can see the sign. If they still don't want to take their shoes off, oh well.

We do this at my parents. I take my shoes off because it is homey for me to do it. It feels like HOME. But, my white dh doesn't do it. And I find it annoying because he tracks in shoe marks. My parents and siblings don't say anything-see we don't impose our rules onto others. But, someone will eventually say 'Don't you want your shoes off, it feels good to not wear shoes.'
Then again, my dh's whole family do NOT take their shoes off inside the house, not even their own home, and they wear it till AFTER dinner or until it's bed time. Annoying. And they wonder why the floor is so filthy. When I enter their home, I take my shoes off but realize the floor is dirtying my socks or bare feet. Yet, they make fun of me after I take my shoes off to get comfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:I would just put up the sign. If they don't see it, oh well. If you happen to enter at the same time, take your shoes off slowly and move over so they can see the sign. If they still don't want to take their shoes off, oh well.

We do this at my parents. I take my shoes off because it is homey for me to do it. It feels like HOME. But, my white dh doesn't do it. And I find it annoying because he tracks in shoe marks. My parents and siblings don't say anything-see we don't impose our rules onto others. But, someone will eventually say 'Don't you want your shoes off, it feels good to not wear shoes.'
Then again, my dh's whole family do NOT take their shoes off inside the house, not even their own home, and they wear it till AFTER dinner or until it's bed time. Annoying. And they wonder why the floor is so filthy. When I enter their home, I take my shoes off but realize the floor is dirtying my socks or bare feet. Yet, they make fun of me after I take my shoes off to get comfortable.

If your in-law's floors are dirty, there is more going on then just not taking off shoes. I have been in lots of homes where people stay dressed in their shoes, even after dinner and until bedtime, and their houses are not at all dirty because they engage in regular housekeeping.

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We have a small, 5x7 framed sign that says "please remove your shoes" and I feel fine about it. Shoes are nasty. We have a 5 year old who rolls his cars all over the floors and a 3.5 month old that will be crawling before we know it. I don't have an immaculate house, but this is at least something in my control!

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Anonymous wrote:I think if you live in a country where the culture is to take off shoes, it's fine to expect people to take their shoes off. But if you are living in a country where that is not the cultural tradition, it is not polite to expect people who are not your own family or very intimate friends to take their shoes off.

Many people in the US see taking off shoes in public as impolite and disrespectful of others with whom you do not have a family type relationship. Respect can equal a certain level of formality to some, and walking around shoeless equals zero formality, and thus respect to them.

See I feel like if you live in an educated area and are under the age of about 50, it IS the cultural tradition to remove shoes. DH and I are white, born in the US, as are many of our friends, and the vast vast majority don't wear shoes in their home.

It is not historically a US cultural tradition to remove shoes that are not visibly dirty upon entering a house. I know plenty of very well educated people under 50 who don't expect non-family-member adults to take off their shoes when visiting.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not rude at all. We live in a city and walk around a lot. I see people throwing lugies on the street, spitting, vomiting all the time. I do not want that in my house. We ask everyone to take off shoes. I guess if they don't like it they won't be back. Fine by me.

You see people vomiting all the time?! In Washington? Crikey! I'm glad I live in NYC, where I rarely see this.