My SIL is super smart but she feels more comfortable in school than the real world, so she has 5 graduate degrees and a ph.d. She is book smart alright. She can balance a check book though. She is socially inept, but I love her and her children. |
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I have a Ph.D. from a top program in my field. I have two brothers who are at least as bright as me, but who stopped at a bachelor's. We were very close growing up, but for whatever reason I was more driven, conscientious, and self-disciplined. |
I don't think people with graduate degrees are automatically "smarter" than those without, however you define smart. Let's face it, there are many different types of intelligence, e.g. someone who knows a lot of facts and can synthesize them vs. someone who is gifted with high social intelligence.
But I would guess that in general those with graduate degrees have read more deeply, thought more deeply, and written more deeply about their field than those without. Notice the "in general." It's absolutely possible to be deeply read and immersed in subjects without taking courses in them. A graduate degree is just an official signal that someone has made a commitment to that type of immersion and did it in a structured manner. Years of experience working in some particular field is another type of signal. |
OP, would you go to a doctor who didn't have a medical degree?
If you were building a house would you prefer the services of a structural engineer with a BS over one with an MS? If you needed a lawyer would you go to someone without a law degree? Trying to understand your defensive question. I'm sorry if you feel other people's degrees reflect on your own career trajectory. But it really doesn't. |
It took me 12 years to get my bachelors. I hated school and was lazy. I finally got my stuff together and started over when my daughter was born. Last year, I completed my masters program. I'm very proud of my accomplishment. Considering how much I felt like people looked down on me for not having a bachelors, I'd never turn my nose up at someone for not having a masters. The only person I think I'm superior to is the old me who always gave up. |
Hahaha, I was thinking this too. I'm not smarter than you because I have a graduate degree. I have the degree because I'm smarter than you. |
Ah, now this thread makes sense. I'm not on those much and was wondering where this characterization came from. IME DC area is one of the best places to have advanced degrees because they're so common that people don't have too many weird perceptions. Back home (major Midwestern city) the standard response on finding out is "you must be SO SMART!" (Not in a friendly way either) I had 2 stock answers to defuse their discomfort. "Well, I am, but not because of that" and "having a old doesn't mean someone is smart, it means they are a stubborn MFer." Here I don't need any stock answers and its WONDERFUL. I can just be myself because people know just what it does and doesn't mean to have one. |
Sorry, on phone. Old==PhD |
I have not followed this thread but I don't think I'm smarter than you OP. My smart high point was probably HS--I noticed a lot, read more, and had a better vocab back then! My MA gave me confidence and protection though. The fact that people perceive me as more 'credentialed" means I get pushed around just a little less, which feels good as a human. I'm not saying I deserve it and I wish it wasn't that way. I did learn a little craft wise with my MA, but smarter--not really--experience has been a great teacher but my most smarts where when I was just starting out and far more curious about the world around me. |
What a pile of crock. I graduated undergrad in the mid 90s and that certainly was not the case. Young college grads might be advised to go to graduate school to stand out today (male or female) but it wasn't the case 20 years ago. |
OP here. I'd use the person most qualified and experienced for the job. But I wouldn't consider that their expertise made then innately superior to me! They just happened to study in that area, I didn't. Likewise, I'd use the most appropriately qualified person to re wire my house or re do my plumbing but I wouldn't expect them to have a graduate (or any) degree, and I would never consider my own education to be superior to their clearly useful skills. |
And I don't have the degree because in fact I'm smarter than YOU and I recognized that it has no actual utility in real life beyond the process/experience of learning. |
You have to put yourself out there to date someone; you have to sacrifice and compromise and work to be with someone long-term. You have to be willing to make sacrificies and change your life and go through physical hardships, in many cases, for children. Not everyone who wants a spouse and children is able to have them. So yes, it is an accomplishment. |
NP: You didn't mention how jealous/insecure YOU are...but it shows. |