How would know if a man is bi?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

I think it’s that we know the degrading and disgusting things these gay men do to each other (or want to do to each other) which is such a turn-off. I mean, just, ewww!

Isn’t most of it the same stuff we do with men or want to do with men?

No, it's obviously not. Lots of women view "A" as taboo and unacceptable for them. It's the main way gay men have sex. It's also inherently riskier in terms of STDs whereas lesbian sex is less risky than hetero sex in that respect.

Where are you getting this "statistic"? Ass, both in a penetrative sense and in an eating sense, isn't nearly as "taboo" as you're trying to make it, and plenty of women enjoy this (including gay women, which might surprise you). It's also not "the main way" gay men have sex, just A way.

You might have a minor argument re: STI risks, but most people old enough to have anal sex are aware of this and can choose to take precautions. All sex carries some risk, and the difference here isn't the major dealbreaker you're trying to make it out be.

NP. Um, yes it is.

"Girls" over a decade ago says otherwise, but go off.

It is wild you are using an intentionally provocative HBO show about young women in NYC as a reflection of general sexual attitudes. Do you think sibling incest is actually fine now because of Game of Thrones?

These shows includes sex like this BECAUSE it's taboo -- it makes headlines and gets people talking specifically because people find it shocking. You would also likely be surprised to discover how few people have actually even seen the show Girls, much less the episode you are talking about.

So, not to shame anyone for their kinks (I'm very live and let live in terms of what consenting adults want to do behind closed doors) but the vast majority of women have ZERO interest in anal sex, continue to find it taboo, and are not interested in a relationship with someone who wants it.

PP's point seems to be that, whatever the intention, this topic made it into mainstream discourse quite some time ago. Younger generations aren't as uptight about this supposed taboo as you seem to be.

It's fine to like what you like and dislike what you don't. You don't need to create some unsubstantiated "statistics" about "the vast majority of women" to back your point. And to the extent that surveys have been done, the pp is correct: anal/assplay isn't the taboo it used to be.

Sorry you're upset by that.

No one is upset, were' speaking factually. You can't assure that anal sex is no longer taboo when it is in fact still taboo for most women. The majority of women have never had anal sex, and among those that have, it is often not repeated. Anal sex in hetero couples is almost always initiated by the man. Women who have tried anal sex also tend to be confined to a narrow demographic group -- upper income women in their 20s who are coupled but not religious. That's not most women. It's some women.

So anal sex may have lost its taboo for a subset of heterosexual women. It has not lost its taboo for other hetero women. As long as anyone finds it taboo, it's still taboo, especially when that taboo still exists for the majority of heterosexual women.

Watching Marnie get her ass eaten out on an episode of Girls doesn't magically change that.

Are you pulling these "statistics" from your ass? Does that count as assplay?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

I think it’s that we know the degrading and disgusting things these gay men do to each other (or want to do to each other) which is such a turn-off. I mean, just, ewww!

Isn’t most of it the same stuff we do with men or want to do with men?

No, it's obviously not. Lots of women view "A" as taboo and unacceptable for them. It's the main way gay men have sex. It's also inherently riskier in terms of STDs whereas lesbian sex is less risky than hetero sex in that respect.

Where are you getting this "statistic"? Ass, both in a penetrative sense and in an eating sense, isn't nearly as "taboo" as you're trying to make it, and plenty of women enjoy this (including gay women, which might surprise you). It's also not "the main way" gay men have sex, just A way.

You might have a minor argument re: STI risks, but most people old enough to have anal sex are aware of this and can choose to take precautions. All sex carries some risk, and the difference here isn't the major dealbreaker you're trying to make it out be.

NP. Um, yes it is.

"Girls" over a decade ago says otherwise, but go off.

It is wild you are using an intentionally provocative HBO show about young women in NYC as a reflection of general sexual attitudes. Do you think sibling incest is actually fine now because of Game of Thrones?

These shows includes sex like this BECAUSE it's taboo -- it makes headlines and gets people talking specifically because people find it shocking. You would also likely be surprised to discover how few people have actually even seen the show Girls, much less the episode you are talking about.

So, not to shame anyone for their kinks (I'm very live and let live in terms of what consenting adults want to do behind closed doors) but the vast majority of women have ZERO interest in anal sex, continue to find it taboo, and are not interested in a relationship with someone who wants it.

PP's point seems to be that, whatever the intention, this topic made it into mainstream discourse quite some time ago. Younger generations aren't as uptight about this supposed taboo as you seem to be.

It's fine to like what you like and dislike what you don't. You don't need to create some unsubstantiated "statistics" about "the vast majority of women" to back your point. And to the extent that surveys have been done, the pp is correct: anal/assplay isn't the taboo it used to be.

Sorry you're upset by that.

No one is upset, were' speaking factually. You can't assure that anal sex is no longer taboo when it is in fact still taboo for most women. The majority of women have never had anal sex, and among those that have, it is often not repeated. Anal sex in hetero couples is almost always initiated by the man. Women who have tried anal sex also tend to be confined to a narrow demographic group -- upper income women in their 20s who are coupled but not religious. That's not most women. It's some women.

So anal sex may have lost its taboo for a subset of heterosexual women. It has not lost its taboo for other hetero women. As long as anyone finds it taboo, it's still taboo, especially when that taboo still exists for the majority of heterosexual women.

Watching Marnie get her ass eaten out on an episode of Girls doesn't magically change that.

Are you pulling these "statistics" from your ass? Does that count as assplay?

No she’s not. That’s most women experience in my circle. I tried A and had men give me rimming and stick a finger in there. It’s just not an erotic zone for many women and I felt absolutely nothing.
This pointless sex act also carries high medical risks for me. Not necessarily STDs, but the men who did these things got my puss$y cross contaminated with gut bacteria . It took several weeks of antibiotics to treat. I don’t want to be on antibiotics all the time it’s unhealthy. Read Diddy’s trial - his poor GF had chromic antibiotic resistant infections.
P…y is sterile and men who like anal are not particular hygiene concerned
It is what it is I’m not being phobic

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

I think it’s that we know the degrading and disgusting things these gay men do to each other (or want to do to each other) which is such a turn-off. I mean, just, ewww!

Isn’t most of it the same stuff we do with men or want to do with men?

No, it's obviously not. Lots of women view "A" as taboo and unacceptable for them. It's the main way gay men have sex. It's also inherently riskier in terms of STDs whereas lesbian sex is less risky than hetero sex in that respect.

Where are you getting this "statistic"? Ass, both in a penetrative sense and in an eating sense, isn't nearly as "taboo" as you're trying to make it, and plenty of women enjoy this (including gay women, which might surprise you). It's also not "the main way" gay men have sex, just A way.

You might have a minor argument re: STI risks, but most people old enough to have anal sex are aware of this and can choose to take precautions. All sex carries some risk, and the difference here isn't the major dealbreaker you're trying to make it out be.

NP. Um, yes it is.

"Girls" over a decade ago says otherwise, but go off.

It is wild you are using an intentionally provocative HBO show about young women in NYC as a reflection of general sexual attitudes. Do you think sibling incest is actually fine now because of Game of Thrones?

These shows includes sex like this BECAUSE it's taboo -- it makes headlines and gets people talking specifically because people find it shocking. You would also likely be surprised to discover how few people have actually even seen the show Girls, much less the episode you are talking about.

So, not to shame anyone for their kinks (I'm very live and let live in terms of what consenting adults want to do behind closed doors) but the vast majority of women have ZERO interest in anal sex, continue to find it taboo, and are not interested in a relationship with someone who wants it.

PP's point seems to be that, whatever the intention, this topic made it into mainstream discourse quite some time ago. Younger generations aren't as uptight about this supposed taboo as you seem to be.

It's fine to like what you like and dislike what you don't. You don't need to create some unsubstantiated "statistics" about "the vast majority of women" to back your point. And to the extent that surveys have been done, the pp is correct: anal/assplay isn't the taboo it used to be.

Sorry you're upset by that.

No one is upset, were' speaking factually. You can't assure that anal sex is no longer taboo when it is in fact still taboo for most women. The majority of women have never had anal sex, and among those that have, it is often not repeated. Anal sex in hetero couples is almost always initiated by the man. Women who have tried anal sex also tend to be confined to a narrow demographic group -- upper income women in their 20s who are coupled but not religious. That's not most women. It's some women.

So anal sex may have lost its taboo for a subset of heterosexual women. It has not lost its taboo for other hetero women. As long as anyone finds it taboo, it's still taboo, especially when that taboo still exists for the majority of heterosexual women.

Watching Marnie get her ass eaten out on an episode of Girls doesn't magically change that.

Are you pulling these "statistics" from your ass? Does that count as assplay?

The PPs comments do match the best stats we have on the issue except the women most likely to have had anal sex are older than their 20s. More like 30s to early 40s. You can Google for exact numbers but that's a decent summary.

Demographics really do matter a lot. There are generational factors at play too. Sexual activity is down across the board among Gen Z. Young Gen X and elder millennials are and were the most sexually active group, so it makes sense you'd also see them reporting higher rates of specific sex acts.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine told me after we were married.

Mine told me after I said I wanted a divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

I think it’s that we know the degrading and disgusting things these gay men do to each other (or want to do to each other) which is such a turn-off. I mean, just, ewww!

Isn’t most of it the same stuff we do with men or want to do with men?

No, it's obviously not. Lots of women view "A" as taboo and unacceptable for them. It's the main way gay men have sex. It's also inherently riskier in terms of STDs whereas lesbian sex is less risky than hetero sex in that respect.

Where are you getting this "statistic"? Ass, both in a penetrative sense and in an eating sense, isn't nearly as "taboo" as you're trying to make it, and plenty of women enjoy this (including gay women, which might surprise you). It's also not "the main way" gay men have sex, just A way.

You might have a minor argument re: STI risks, but most people old enough to have anal sex are aware of this and can choose to take precautions. All sex carries some risk, and the difference here isn't the major dealbreaker you're trying to make it out be.

NP. Um, yes it is.

"Girls" over a decade ago says otherwise, but go off.

It is wild you are using an intentionally provocative HBO show about young women in NYC as a reflection of general sexual attitudes. Do you think sibling incest is actually fine now because of Game of Thrones?

These shows includes sex like this BECAUSE it's taboo -- it makes headlines and gets people talking specifically because people find it shocking. You would also likely be surprised to discover how few people have actually even seen the show Girls, much less the episode you are talking about.

So, not to shame anyone for their kinks (I'm very live and let live in terms of what consenting adults want to do behind closed doors) but the vast majority of women have ZERO interest in anal sex, continue to find it taboo, and are not interested in a relationship with someone who wants it.

PP's point seems to be that, whatever the intention, this topic made it into mainstream discourse quite some time ago. Younger generations aren't as uptight about this supposed taboo as you seem to be.

It's fine to like what you like and dislike what you don't. You don't need to create some unsubstantiated "statistics" about "the vast majority of women" to back your point. And to the extent that surveys have been done, the pp is correct: anal/assplay isn't the taboo it used to be.

Sorry you're upset by that.

No one is upset, were' speaking factually. You can't assure that anal sex is no longer taboo when it is in fact still taboo for most women. The majority of women have never had anal sex, and among those that have, it is often not repeated. Anal sex in hetero couples is almost always initiated by the man. Women who have tried anal sex also tend to be confined to a narrow demographic group -- upper income women in their 20s who are coupled but not religious. That's not most women. It's some women.

So anal sex may have lost its taboo for a subset of heterosexual women. It has not lost its taboo for other hetero women. As long as anyone finds it taboo, it's still taboo, especially when that taboo still exists for the majority of heterosexual women.

Watching Marnie get her ass eaten out on an episode of Girls doesn't magically change that.

Are you pulling these "statistics" from your ass? Does that count as assplay?

I like assplay… 😈

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I dated a woman who was bi in college. One day I lied to her and told her I had sex with men before. You should have seen her face. I was like I thought you would be excited we are both bi yays. Nope. She suddenly saw me differently.

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Anonymous wrote:How would know if a man is bi? Are there tell-tell signs?

An anal exam is the best way to find out.

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Anonymous wrote:How would know if a man is bi? Are there tell-tell signs?

Pillow talk about adding another guy for a 3some is how I learned my husband has bisexual tendencies. He hasn't acted on it yet to my knowledge, but I suspect he would if the opportunity were to present itself. Unlike many, I find it both sexy and attractive that he's comfortable with himself talking about his fantasies. We have yet to invite another man into our sex life, but I wouldn't rule it out.
My husband is mine, and he knows that and appreciates me being open and supportive. I want him to be equally supportive of me if the shoe were on the other foot.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you catch him in the act or you gets HIV because he was getting railed by some dude, you will never know.

My roommate in college was secretly bi. He is married now and I assume his wife isn't aware else she wouldn't have married him.

You are a bigot. HIV is not a “gay disease” you fool.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

I think it’s that we know the degrading and disgusting things these gay men do to each other (or want to do to each other) which is such a turn-off. I mean, just, ewww!

Isn’t most of it the same stuff we do with men or want to do with men?

No, it's obviously not. Lots of women view "A" as taboo and unacceptable for them. It's the main way gay men have sex. It's also inherently riskier in terms of STDs whereas lesbian sex is less risky than hetero sex in that respect.

Where are you getting this "statistic"? Ass, both in a penetrative sense and in an eating sense, isn't nearly as "taboo" as you're trying to make it, and plenty of women enjoy this (including gay women, which might surprise you). It's also not "the main way" gay men have sex, just A way.

You might have a minor argument re: STI risks, but most people old enough to have anal sex are aware of this and can choose to take precautions. All sex carries some risk, and the difference here isn't the major dealbreaker you're trying to make it out be.

NP. Um, yes it is.

"Girls" over a decade ago says otherwise, but go off.

It is wild you are using an intentionally provocative HBO show about young women in NYC as a reflection of general sexual attitudes. Do you think sibling incest is actually fine now because of Game of Thrones?

These shows includes sex like this BECAUSE it's taboo -- it makes headlines and gets people talking specifically because people find it shocking. You would also likely be surprised to discover how few people have actually even seen the show Girls, much less the episode you are talking about.

So, not to shame anyone for their kinks (I'm very live and let live in terms of what consenting adults want to do behind closed doors) but the vast majority of women have ZERO interest in anal sex, continue to find it taboo, and are not interested in a relationship with someone who wants it.

PP's point seems to be that, whatever the intention, this topic made it into mainstream discourse quite some time ago. Younger generations aren't as uptight about this supposed taboo as you seem to be.

It's fine to like what you like and dislike what you don't. You don't need to create some unsubstantiated "statistics" about "the vast majority of women" to back your point. And to the extent that surveys have been done, the pp is correct: anal/assplay isn't the taboo it used to be.

Sorry you're upset by that.

No one is upset, were' speaking factually. You can't assure that anal sex is no longer taboo when it is in fact still taboo for most women. The majority of women have never had anal sex, and among those that have, it is often not repeated. Anal sex in hetero couples is almost always initiated by the man. Women who have tried anal sex also tend to be confined to a narrow demographic group -- upper income women in their 20s who are coupled but not religious. That's not most women. It's some women.

So anal sex may have lost its taboo for a subset of heterosexual women. It has not lost its taboo for other hetero women. As long as anyone finds it taboo, it's still taboo, especially when that taboo still exists for the majority of heterosexual women.

Watching Marnie get her ass eaten out on an episode of Girls doesn't magically change that.

Are you pulling these "statistics" from your ass? Does that count as assplay?

No she’s not. That’s most women experience in my circle. I tried A and had men give me rimming and stick a finger in there. It’s just not an erotic zone for many women and I felt absolutely nothing.
This pointless sex act also carries high medical risks for me. Not necessarily STDs, but the men who did these things got my puss$y cross contaminated with gut bacteria . It took several weeks of antibiotics to treat. I don’t want to be on antibiotics all the time it’s unhealthy. Read Diddy’s trial - his poor GF had chromic antibiotic resistant infections.
P…y is sterile and men who like anal are not particular hygiene concerned
It is what it is I’m not being phobic

A big reason that so many men lust after your ass is that it is an erogenous zone for them because they have a prostate gland and they are imagining what it would feel like to receive. So maybe they wouldn’t resist if you strapped one on. Possibly this isn’t bi at all, but one college recently had a big public debate about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

I think it’s that we know the degrading and disgusting things these gay men do to each other (or want to do to each other) which is such a turn-off. I mean, just, ewww!

Isn’t most of it the same stuff we do with men or want to do with men?

No, it's obviously not. Lots of women view "A" as taboo and unacceptable for them. It's the main way gay men have sex. It's also inherently riskier in terms of STDs whereas lesbian sex is less risky than hetero sex in that respect.

Where are you getting this "statistic"? Ass, both in a penetrative sense and in an eating sense, isn't nearly as "taboo" as you're trying to make it, and plenty of women enjoy this (including gay women, which might surprise you). It's also not "the main way" gay men have sex, just A way.

You might have a minor argument re: STI risks, but most people old enough to have anal sex are aware of this and can choose to take precautions. All sex carries some risk, and the difference here isn't the major dealbreaker you're trying to make it out be.

NP. Um, yes it is.

"Girls" over a decade ago says otherwise, but go off.

It is wild you are using an intentionally provocative HBO show about young women in NYC as a reflection of general sexual attitudes. Do you think sibling incest is actually fine now because of Game of Thrones?

These shows includes sex like this BECAUSE it's taboo -- it makes headlines and gets people talking specifically because people find it shocking. You would also likely be surprised to discover how few people have actually even seen the show Girls, much less the episode you are talking about.

So, not to shame anyone for their kinks (I'm very live and let live in terms of what consenting adults want to do behind closed doors) but the vast majority of women have ZERO interest in anal sex, continue to find it taboo, and are not interested in a relationship with someone who wants it.

PP's point seems to be that, whatever the intention, this topic made it into mainstream discourse quite some time ago. Younger generations aren't as uptight about this supposed taboo as you seem to be.

It's fine to like what you like and dislike what you don't. You don't need to create some unsubstantiated "statistics" about "the vast majority of women" to back your point. And to the extent that surveys have been done, the pp is correct: anal/assplay isn't the taboo it used to be.

Sorry you're upset by that.

No one is upset, were' speaking factually. You can't assure that anal sex is no longer taboo when it is in fact still taboo for most women. The majority of women have never had anal sex, and among those that have, it is often not repeated. Anal sex in hetero couples is almost always initiated by the man. Women who have tried anal sex also tend to be confined to a narrow demographic group -- upper income women in their 20s who are coupled but not religious. That's not most women. It's some women.

So anal sex may have lost its taboo for a subset of heterosexual women. It has not lost its taboo for other hetero women. As long as anyone finds it taboo, it's still taboo, especially when that taboo still exists for the majority of heterosexual women.

Watching Marnie get her ass eaten out on an episode of Girls doesn't magically change that.

Are you pulling these "statistics" from your ass? Does that count as assplay?

No she’s not. That’s most women experience in my circle. I tried A and had men give me rimming and stick a finger in there. It’s just not an erotic zone for many women and I felt absolutely nothing.
This pointless sex act also carries high medical risks for me. Not necessarily STDs, but the men who did these things got my puss$y cross contaminated with gut bacteria . It took several weeks of antibiotics to treat. I don’t want to be on antibiotics all the time it’s unhealthy. Read Diddy’s trial - his poor GF had chromic antibiotic resistant infections.
P…y is sterile and men who like anal are not particular hygiene concerned
It is what it is I’m not being phobic

A big reason that so many men lust after your ass is that it is an erogenous zone for them because they have a prostate gland and they are imagining what it would feel like to receive. So maybe they wouldn’t resist if you strapped one on. Possibly this isn’t bi at all, but one college recently had a big public debate about it.

One dude once tried to tell me it’s easiest to hit G spot that way. Never experienced it though and didn’t have A with him