height issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotal but my sister and I grew up in America and I have 3 siblings who grew up in Korea. Sister and I who grew up in America are both 5'7-5'8" and weigh around 135-140ish. Sisters who grew up in Korea are 5'4" and 110ish. Brother who grew up in Korea (but was younger than all 4 sisters and who has a lot more access to food) is 6'2".

It's all the growth hormones in the US food supply. How tall are your parents, and how old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotal but my sister and I grew up in America and I have 3 siblings who grew up in Korea. Sister and I who grew up in America are both 5'7-5'8" and weigh around 135-140ish. Sisters who grew up in Korea are 5'4" and 110ish. Brother who grew up in Korea (but was younger than all 4 sisters and who has a lot more access to food) is 6'2".

It's all the growth hormones in the US food supply. How tall are your parents, and how old are you?

It's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If short women are so concerned about their child's height why didn't they marry taller? What did you think was going to happen marrying a short man?

Valid question.
It behooves us all to set expectations accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotal but my sister and I grew up in America and I have 3 siblings who grew up in Korea. Sister and I who grew up in America are both 5'7-5'8" and weigh around 135-140ish. Sisters who grew up in Korea are 5'4" and 110ish. Brother who grew up in Korea (but was younger than all 4 sisters and who has a lot more access to food) is 6'2".

We had the reverse.
My sister and I grew up in Taiwan and are taller than the siblings who were born and bred here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotal but my sister and I grew up in America and I have 3 siblings who grew up in Korea. Sister and I who grew up in America are both 5'7-5'8" and weigh around 135-140ish. Sisters who grew up in Korea are 5'4" and 110ish. Brother who grew up in Korea (but was younger than all 4 sisters and who has a lot more access to food) is 6'2".

It's all the growth hormones in the US food supply. How tall are your parents, and how old are you?

Op - I am 41. My biological parents are 5’10” (dad) and 5’4”ish (mom).

Brother (who grew up in Korea is an outlier). He is 6 years younger than me and much taller than average Asian. But he had access to more food, plus he was male, in Korea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If short women are so concerned about their child's height why didn't they marry taller? What did you think was going to happen marrying a short man?

Valid question.
It behooves us all to set expectations accordingly.

Not sure why it needs to be repeated over and over, but OP said the DH is 5’8, which is not particularly short for an American man (only slightly below average). And OP is 5’3, which again is not particularly short for an American woman (again, only slightly below average). In fact, OP and her husband are both exactly one inch below the average height, meaning they are the same height when accounting for gender (female height is ~5 inches below the male height equivalent). Since their child is a boy, his expected height would be 5’8. If he is in fact done growing (I can’t speak to that part, as I don’t know much about growth plate closure and its reliability for predicting the end of growth), he is 5 inches shorter than his average predicted height based on genetics. That is pretty significant, and worth investigating, as there might be a biological cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotal but my sister and I grew up in America and I have 3 siblings who grew up in Korea. Sister and I who grew up in America are both 5'7-5'8" and weigh around 135-140ish. Sisters who grew up in Korea are 5'4" and 110ish. Brother who grew up in Korea (but was younger than all 4 sisters and who has a lot more access to food) is 6'2".

This sounds like the height spread of my DH and his siblings who all grew up together in Michigan.

[Anonymous]

There is a lot of variation in genetic predictions, on either end. I am 5’6 (female), but genetically “should” have been much taller, as my mom is 5’9 and my dad is 6’4. It didn’t happen for some reason (I have one grandma who was only 5’0 so all those genes probably play a role).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What size are his feet? Typically there is correlation with height. When’s the last time his feet grew? My endo told me that feet grow first and then the body catches up. My son’s growth spurt happened two years after his feet growth spurt.

This is OP. This is interesting.. he wears a size 9 and half men’s shoes(which happens to be by husband’s). He went through many shoe sizes in the last one year.

He doesn’t have any underlying conditions.. just early puberty which threw us off. He eats healthy. We do not have any one under 5’7 - men on both sides of the family. Thanks to all the people who supported and gave us some great advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If short women are so concerned about their child's height why didn't they marry taller? What did you think was going to happen marrying a short man?

Valid question.
It behooves us all to set expectations accordingly.

No it isn’t valid. OP and spouse are pretty average heights. Does anyone ask this of the >6’0” men who marry the 5’0” women and expect to still have tall sons? No, no one does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If short women are so concerned about their child's height why didn't they marry taller? What did you think was going to happen marrying a short man?

Valid question.
It behooves us all to set expectations accordingly.

Not sure why it needs to be repeated over and over, but OP said the DH is 5’8, which is not particularly short for an American man (only slightly below average). And OP is 5’3, which again is not particularly short for an American woman (again, only slightly below average). In fact, OP and her husband are both exactly one inch below the average height, meaning they are the same height when accounting for gender (female height is ~5 inches below the male height equivalent). Since their child is a boy, his expected height would be 5’8. If he is in fact done growing (I can’t speak to that part, as I don’t know much about growth plate closure and its reliability for predicting the end of growth), he is 5 inches shorter than his average predicted height based on genetics. That is pretty significant, and worth investigating, as there might be a biological cause.

+100

Clearly the boy does not have tall genes, but 5’3” really would be a very unexpected outcome and is definitely worth investigating. The parental mid-point calculation for him would be 5’8” (plus or minus two inches in either direction). 5’3” is quite far off of this and this parent is correct to be concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What size are his feet? Typically there is correlation with height. When’s the last time his feet grew? My endo told me that feet grow first and then the body catches up. My son’s growth spurt happened two years after his feet growth spurt.

This is OP. This is interesting.. he wears a size 9 and half men’s shoes(which happens to be by husband’s). He went through many shoe sizes in the last one year.

He doesn’t have any underlying conditions.. just early puberty which threw us off. He eats healthy. We do not have any one under 5’7 - men on both sides of the family. Thanks to all the people who supported and gave us some great advice.

The fastest foot growth spurt for boys is usually two years prior to the peak height growth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anecdotal but my sister and I grew up in America and I have 3 siblings who grew up in Korea. Sister and I who grew up in America are both 5'7-5'8" and weigh around 135-140ish. Sisters who grew up in Korea are 5'4" and 110ish. Brother who grew up in Korea (but was younger than all 4 sisters and who has a lot more access to food) is 6'2".

It's all the growth hormones in the US food supply. How tall are your parents, and how old are you?

Op - I am 41. My biological parents are 5’10” (dad) and 5’4”ish (mom).

Brother (who grew up in Korea is an outlier). He is 6 years younger than me and much taller than average Asian. But he had access to more food, plus he was male, in Korea.

There's always an outlier in the family, I feel. I'm also Korean. My uncle, 70, is actually pretty tall for that generation - 5'8", and also one sister is like 5'4", again tall for that generation. Same for my dad - 93 who was (shrunk) 5'8". Everyone else in the family is super short, but not super short for that generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor baby has short parents and has a short son

Poor troll. Nothing better to do than sit in his basement typing nasty responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an 8 year old girl who is 5 feet tall. It profoundly affects her socially and emotionally. So much sympathy for you. We have her in therapy to talk through it and to work on self image. My approach - with advice of therapist - is to try things that become her “thing.” She is too young for tall girl team sports, so we are doing things like theater and climbing.

She can definitely do track and basketball right now.

Regardless, your family seems to be having an oversized reaction to your kid being tall.

Not everyone who is taller than average wants to play basketball or run. Team sports aren’t for everyone. At our school basketball for girls is not popular like basketball for boys.

My daughter was 4’9” at 8 years old so 5’ is.not freakishly tall.