does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?

[Anonymous]

What's cringe to me are all the terrible assumptions being spouted in this thread about boys/girls/men/women, dating, the implications of a 60/40 split vs. 50/50, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD wants school that skews male. You also have to look at str8/gay ratio to see your dating options.

They are all STEM schools...RIT, RPI, etc. that are like 75% male and 25% female.

LOL yeah and WPI--she is interested, now how social are these guys? we have to visit. She is tired of the girl drama at her public school and kind of over it.I am glad she has a good foundation with same sex friendships--very important part of the maturation process.

Which guys? There is a huge range. Take WPI: they have sports teams, so you have athletes; they have some fraternities, so you have some frat boys (though I'm told the frats there are not stereoptypical); they have ROTC, so you have military inclined young people; they have a lot of theater and music groups so you have a lot of artsy kids mixing in; and so on. What I have found is that the girls really band together in a supportive way when there are fewer of them. The few sororities they have are more socially supportive than exclusionary. Plus at an engineering school, the women have found the STEM girls who are their "people" in a way that doesn't always happen in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's cringe to me are all the terrible assumptions being spouted in this thread about boys/girls/men/women, dating, the implications of a 60/40 split vs. 50/50, etc.

I am seeing thee assumptions being played out in my str8 40 something never married female friends who really wanted kids but choose not to do adoption or sperm bank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents need to bar their boys from screens, laziness, and junk food.

Boys should be working out, working hard, playing outside, and studying. It’s our own fault that so many boys suck. Say no to screens and don’t let your boy be a loser.

How about we make sure our boys are not judgmental like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD wants school that skews male. You also have to look at str8/gay ratio to see your dating options.

They are all STEM schools...RIT, RPI, etc. that are like 75% male and 25% female.

OP here. We've been touring these types of schools as my daughter wants to study engineering. There are a lot of men but frankly, not men that most girls want to date. We were at Georgia Tech this weekend and my daughter (who honestly is not picky about boys) probabably saw a dozen boys that she found attractive. The rest appeared super, super geeky and odd. I'm married to a geek (so I appreciate geeks) but this was next level.

The odds are good but the goods are odd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents need to bar their boys from screens, laziness, and junk food.

Boys should be working out, working hard, playing outside, and studying. It’s our own fault that so many boys suck. Say no to screens and don’t let your boy be a loser.

WTF?? Okay then…
Parents need to bar their girls from social media, including Tik Tok and Snap, IG Reels; villainizing those who think differently or don’t agree with them, and midriff shirts.

Girls should be focused on their mental health, growing a sense of humor, and being more authentic to themselves. It’s your own fault that so many girls suck. Say no to victim hood and don’t let your girl be so smug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a real problem without an easy solution, and the gender imbalance is going to cause a lot of consequences through young women’s lives. But in the short term, colleges need to find ways to shrink the gam. Even if it means admitting boys with lower grades and qualifications and offering generous financial aid.

bfifget strow baker Aren’t you assuming that *your* daughters will get onto the schools “where the boys are” and only someone else’s kid will be rejected from college to make way for the boys your daughter chants to date? What if it goes the other way? Let us know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a real problem without an easy solution, and the gender imbalance is going to cause a lot of consequences through young women’s lives. But in the short term, colleges need to find ways to shrink the gam. Even if it means admitting boys with lower grades and qualifications and offering generous financial aid.

bfifget strow baker Aren’t you assuming that *your* daughters will get onto the schools “where the boys are” and only someone else’s kid will be rejected from college to make way for the boys your daughter chants to date? What if it goes the other way? Let us know.

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[Anonymous]

I thought girls ruled the world. Why would they be worried about going to school with fewer men? Wouldn’t that be a good thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought girls ruled the world. Why would they be worried about going to school with fewer men? Wouldn’t that be a good thing?

Because that is a critical age developmentally and normal socializing/dating is a part of it. Especially for kids who were too busy to have a normal social life in HS and might finally have that chance in a residential college setting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately K-12 is taught by majority female and boys struggle more. Because of this, they burn out and aren’t interested in college. The problem needs to be fixed at that level. Make it more enjoyable for boys, not just sit all day and take notes.

There is a youtube video from many years ago that indicates why girls are doing better in school than boys. Don't hate the source, just listen to the message.
What ever happened to letting "boys be boys?" Take these two cases: In one, a seven-year-old boy was sent home for nibbling a Pop Tart into a gun. In another, a teacher was so alarmed by a picture drawn by a student (of a sword fight), that the boy's parents were summoned in for a conference. In short, boys in America's schools are routinely punished for being active, competitive, and restless. In other words, boys can no longer be boys.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFpYj0E-yb4&pp=ygUacHJhZ2VyIFUgcHJvYmxlbSB3aXRoIGJveXM%3D

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a real problem without an easy solution, and the gender imbalance is going to cause a lot of consequences through young women’s lives. But in the short term, colleges need to find ways to shrink the gam. Even if it means admitting boys with lower grades and qualifications and offering generous financial aid.

I have two daughters. I don't have sons. We raised our daughters to be smart, self-sufficient.

I absolutely want this problem to be resolved because I want my daughters to have their pick of equals in the dating/marriage department. Flame away, but I don't want my daughters to choose to be gay because there are no suitable men to date.

Look at what happened to the black community over the years. Many of their men are not suitable for dating/marriage. So while the women may have babies with them, the men practically abandon their families leaving the women to raise kids in a single parent household. Look at all the problems that is creating. Serious long term damage to the black community because their men are not up to snuff.

I know there has been lots of criticism in the past on all the emphasis there is for girls and their appearance but I think there should be an emphasis to boys on their appearance as well. Put an emphasis on how boys can take care of their appearance, not get addicted to video games, all that stuff. Start building boys up in a healthy way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a real problem without an easy solution, and the gender imbalance is going to cause a lot of consequences through young women’s lives. But in the short term, colleges need to find ways to shrink the gam. Even if it means admitting boys with lower grades and qualifications and offering generous financial aid.

I have two daughters. I don't have sons. We raised our daughters to be smart, self-sufficient.

I absolutely want this problem to be resolved because I want my daughters to have their pick of equals in the dating/marriage department. Flame away, but I don't want my daughters to choose to be gay because there are no suitable men to date.

Look at what happened to the black community over the years. Many of their men are not suitable for dating/marriage. So while the women may have babies with them, the men practically abandon their families leaving the women to raise kids in a single parent household. Look at all the problems that is creating. Serious long term damage to the black community because their men are not up to snuff.

I know there has been lots of criticism in the past on all the emphasis there is for girls and their appearance but I think there should be an emphasis to boys on their appearance as well. Put an emphasis on how boys can take care of their appearance, not get addicted to video games, all that stuff. Start building boys up in a healthy way.

Getting an equally educated . attractive and social husband as you should not be just for the elite, because how things are going in todays world it will be equally hard getting a good man as it is getting into a good college. The supply demand chain is way off. There are also more gay men than women so that doesnt help the math equation. I see in my kids HS so many girls that came out "bi or gay" are now dating guys, while many guys who are going as str8 come out gay in college or post college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a real problem without an easy solution, and the gender imbalance is going to cause a lot of consequences through young women’s lives. But in the short term, colleges need to find ways to shrink the gam. Even if it means admitting boys with lower grades and qualifications and offering generous financial aid.

I have two daughters. I don't have sons. We raised our daughters to be smart, self-sufficient.

I absolutely want this problem to be resolved because I want my daughters to have their pick of equals in the dating/marriage department. Flame away, but I don't want my daughters to choose to be gay because there are no suitable men to date.

Look at what happened to the black community over the years. Many of their men are not suitable for dating/marriage. So while the women may have babies with them, the men practically abandon their families leaving the women to raise kids in a single parent household. Look at all the problems that is creating. Serious long term damage to the black community because their men are not up to snuff.

I know there has been lots of criticism in the past on all the emphasis there is for girls and their appearance but I think there should be an emphasis to boys on their appearance as well. Put an emphasis on how boys can take care of their appearance, not get addicted to video games, all that stuff. Start building boys up in a healthy way.

Choose to be gay because there are no “suitable” men? That doesn’t make any sense. Plus, I thought homosexuality was biological. Or has all the recent rhetoric been wrong and we can choose it after all (if we have nobody else decent to be with)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought girls ruled the world. Why would they be worried about going to school with fewer men? Wouldn’t that be a good thing?

Because that is a critical age developmentally and normal socializing/dating is a part of it. Especially for kids who were too busy to have a normal social life in HS and might finally have that chance in a residential college setting.

If that’s the case, they should stop with the male bashing.