Parking-lot parents

Anonymous
Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I attend actual events, as in concerts and competitions. I never attend practices. I don't think I ever attended a whole soccer game. I find them excruciatingly boring so I don't.


That’s sad.

I sit in my car for plenty of practices and don’t make every event, but just not showing up ever for one kid because you find it boring is sad.


I promise you that my kid doesn't know I'm missing when his head's underwater.


Your soccer player’s head is underwater?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?


I’m guessing the difference is you should respect the coach’s wishes and you shouldn’t assume “coaching” is code for “free babysitting.” If your kid behaves and obeys the coach, great, but not all children are that well-behaved, particularly at younger ages.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I attend actual events, as in concerts and competitions. I never attend practices. I don't think I ever attended a whole soccer game. I find them excruciatingly boring so I don't.


That’s sad.

I sit in my car for plenty of practices and don’t make every event, but just not showing up ever for one kid because you find it boring is sad.


I promise you that my kid doesn't know I'm missing when his head's underwater.


Your soccer player’s head is underwater?


Oh, I'm sorry, didn't realize this thread was specifically about soccer (because it's not).
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?


I’m guessing the difference is you should respect the coach’s wishes and you shouldn’t assume “coaching” is code for “free babysitting.” If your kid behaves and obeys the coach, great, but not all children are that well-behaved, particularly at younger ages.


PP's kid is in high school. Insane to think a parent needs to manage them.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I attend actual events, as in concerts and competitions. I never attend practices. I don't think I ever attended a whole soccer game. I find them excruciatingly boring so I don't.


That’s sad.

I sit in my car for plenty of practices and don’t make every event, but just not showing up ever for one kid because you find it boring is sad.


I promise you that my kid doesn't know I'm missing when his head's underwater.


Your soccer player’s head is underwater?


Oh, I'm sorry, didn't realize this thread was specifically about soccer (because it's not).


I responded to a poster who specifically said they had attended all the competitions, but never attended an entire soccer game, implying that they had multiple kids and just ignored one.

If you have never once seen your kid swim an entire race, then that's relevant. If you sometimes miss some races, that's totally reasonable. Just like it would be reasonable to say "I attend some but not all of my kids' soccer games".
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I attend actual events, as in concerts and competitions. I never attend practices. I don't think I ever attended a whole soccer game. I find them excruciatingly boring so I don't.


That’s sad.

I sit in my car for plenty of practices and don’t make every event, but just not showing up ever for one kid because you find it boring is sad.


I promise you that my kid doesn't know I'm missing when his head's underwater.


Your soccer player’s head is underwater?


Oh, I'm sorry, didn't realize this thread was specifically about soccer (because it's not).


I responded to a poster who specifically said they had attended all the competitions, but never attended an entire soccer game, implying that they had multiple kids and just ignored one.

If you have never once seen your kid swim an entire race, then that's relevant. If you sometimes miss some races, that's totally reasonable. Just like it would be reasonable to say "I attend some but not all of my kids' soccer games".


There is one parent at each of her meets. Neither of us watch practice. Who cares? DS doesn't.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I attend actual events, as in concerts and competitions. I never attend practices. I don't think I ever attended a whole soccer game. I find them excruciatingly boring so I don't.


That’s sad.

I sit in my car for plenty of practices and don’t make every event, but just not showing up ever for one kid because you find it boring is sad.


I promise you that my kid doesn't know I'm missing when his head's underwater.


Your soccer player’s head is underwater?


Oh, I'm sorry, didn't realize this thread was specifically about soccer (because it's not).


I responded to a poster who specifically said they had attended all the competitions, but never attended an entire soccer game, implying that they had multiple kids and just ignored one.

If you have never once seen your kid swim an entire race, then that's relevant. If you sometimes miss some races, that's totally reasonable. Just like it would be reasonable to say "I attend some but not all of my kids' soccer games".


There is one parent at each of her meets. Neither of us watch practice. Who cares? DS doesn't.


How is that related to what I responded to which is a parent saying they had never once watched a kid's game? If you had never once watched a race it would be relevant, but that doesn't apply to you.

Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?


My HS soccer player's coach asked me and a couple of moms to help manage the parents because they weren't actually playing. We told them to sit in their cars.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?


My HS soccer player's coach asked me and a couple of moms to help manage the parents because they weren't actually playing. We told them to sit in their cars.


lol
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?


My HS soccer player's coach asked me and a couple of moms to help manage the parents because they weren't actually playing. We told them to sit in their cars.


Oh, please. If this is true, what a terrible coach.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?


My HS soccer player's coach asked me and a couple of moms to help manage the parents because they weren't actually playing. We told them to sit in their cars.


Oh, please. If this is true, what a terrible coach.


Please tell me you have a better comprehension of humor and irony in real life.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Meh. I don’t believe that coaches just want you to drop off. My kindergartener’s soccer coach specifically asked me and a couple moms to help manage the kids when they weren’t actually playing.


That's weird, my HS soccer player's coach doesn't ask that. I wonder what the difference is?


I’m guessing the difference is you should respect the coach’s wishes and you shouldn’t assume “coaching” is code for “free babysitting.” If your kid behaves and obeys the coach, great, but not all children are that well-behaved, particularly at younger ages.


You are infuriatingly stupid.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Does everything that parents do have to be something that defines them and makes them a "type" of parent? "Parking lot parents" "daycare parents" "working parents" "private school mom" "public school moms."

Someone sitting in her car during a practice is just a mom sitting in her car for a variety of reasons. Do we really need to call her a "parking lot mom"?



This is Washington DC.

Here, we put people into different baskets.

We separate people by race. We define them by employment. We categorize them by “SES.” We divide them by BIPOC or merely white. We need to know: LGTBQIA++ or not? (or an ally?).

No surprise then, parents are helicopter, or tiger, or lawnmower, or Bro Dad, or absent.

To answer your question: yes: here in the DMV, we will label you.

Now answer the question: are you a parking lot parent or not?


Not sure who you mean by "we" but I am from DC and I just see people as people, not as buckets.
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