What happens if they're not accepted anywhere?

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Anonymous wrote:She does community college and applies again for the sophomore year.

She's a straight-A student. We're not looking for Ivy League, but I'd be pissed if it came to this, to put it mildly.

I didn’t get into UC Berkeley initially so went to community college and transferred. It’s honestly not a big deal and I saved a ton of money. She will be ok “if it came to this”.

An xlnt plan . . .in California. It's a much more popular and sensible route there. My relatives all did it. It is not as accepted a route here in DCUM land. The California system developed differently. Almost all of my public classmates went to the community college, Cal States (not available anywhere else - as in a 3 tier system) and a few in the UC system. Very few had family resources to go SLAC/private.

There was (for me) an eye-opening story how the UVA admissions office looks at transfers from community colleges. While only one article, it did cause me to reconsider my views on the utility of a community college as a stepping stone to a 4-year school.

Can you share the article

Link is in the comment at 10/13/2023 12:18

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When the rejections started rolling in my for DC, it propelled her to start applying to schools with later application deadlines. She got into one, got a good merit scholarship, and is doing really well/is happy there (CU Boulder).

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Anonymous wrote:If it were my kid, I'd say, "humor me ... I need this. I need for you to apply to a few more schools. Pick 3 from this list." I would, already, have a list. At this point, schools that you think might be a good fit. And you know you can afford. Downplay you went to much effort. But on the contrary, I think it is imperative to have taken this chore seriously.

You're not saying they have to go. I do think it's ok to recognize that this whole process is stressful to parents. And lessening our stress is a reasonable ask. As parents, we each have thresholds so we feel like good-enough parents. For many of us, one of those is, that the student gets into college.

Why, so many commas?

It's kind of like, Tom Hiddleston, when he impersonated Christopher Walken...
1:37-2:11 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFhhPDcPNvI

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Anonymous wrote:When the rejections started rolling in my for DC, it propelled her to start applying to schools with later application deadlines. She got into one, got a good merit scholarship, and is doing really well/is happy there (CU Boulder).

This is an encouraging story. Can you share what kind of merit she got? My son really likes Boulder but I heard their aid is sucky, and he’d need it to choose Boulder over UMD.

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Anonymous wrote:She takes a year off and tries again. I don't think that college is the panacea that it once was. There are alternative paths out there and lots of ways to still have a wonderful life without it.

How does this work? If she takes a year off, can she still use the same recommendations from the prior year?