Beach house/houseguest etiquette: go poop in *your* bathroom, not the powder room

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also how bad is your diet that you just head to the neighbor's for an evening soiree and might need to take a full blown dump?

Many of us have our morning coffee, use the bathroom, and then go on with our day. Evenings out do not involve random shits.

Consider looking into nutrition as a general matter!

+10000 agree

Most healthy people have daily poops like clockwork. We know when it's going to happen, because it happens at the same time every day. And honestly, it shouldn't even smell if you're eating plenty of roughage. Nor should it take more than 1 minute or 2.

Wake up, get coffee, poop. 30-45 minutes later, I poop again. Both at home in the morning before work. There are rarely random shits unless there's something really wrong with me, in which case I'm inclined to stay home anyway.

Many of us don't take a drug every morning that spurs our shits.

Agree. Why are people normalizing coffee poops? As if this is the human routine.

If it isn't clear by now, DCUM is full of OCD anal retentives. They can't tolerate any deviation from a fixed routine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello! If you are sharing a beach house with family/friends, and you have a room or rooms with your family’s own bathroom, don’t poop in the powder room/don’t tie up the powder room. The powder room—usually near the kitchen/on the main level—is for washing hands or a quick pee. It is not for you to sit there and grunt and drop a load while others are waiting to wash hands/quickly pee, and then have to smell your stench.

This also goes for when you are a houseguest. In my home, guests have the entire lower level to themselves—full bath, full bedroom with queen-size bed, private sitting area with TV. THAT is where you go to poop, don’t use the powder room on the main level for this purpose.

I said what I said.

What if you can't get to that bathroom in time. I've had a colocystectomy and sometimes you only have time to get to the closest bathroom. I think you have serious problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello! If you are sharing a beach house with family/friends, and you have a room or rooms with your family’s own bathroom, don’t poop in the powder room/don’t tie up the powder room. The powder room—usually near the kitchen/on the main level—is for washing hands or a quick pee. It is not for you to sit there and grunt and drop a load while others are waiting to wash hands/quickly pee, and then have to smell your stench.

This also goes for when you are a houseguest. In my home, guests have the entire lower level to themselves—full bath, full bedroom with queen-size bed, private sitting area with TV. THAT is where you go to poop, don’t use the powder room on the main level for this purpose.

I said what I said.

What if you can't get to that bathroom in time. I've had a colocystectomy and sometimes you only have time to get to the closest bathroom. I think you have serious problems.

Then why are you vacationing if you haven't recovered enough not to have diarrhea on the floor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello! If you are sharing a beach house with family/friends, and you have a room or rooms with your family’s own bathroom, don’t poop in the powder room/don’t tie up the powder room. The powder room—usually near the kitchen/on the main level—is for washing hands or a quick pee. It is not for you to sit there and grunt and drop a load while others are waiting to wash hands/quickly pee, and then have to smell your stench.

This also goes for when you are a houseguest. In my home, guests have the entire lower level to themselves—full bath, full bedroom with queen-size bed, private sitting area with TV. THAT is where you go to poop, don’t use the powder room on the main level for this purpose.

I said what I said.

What if you can't get to that bathroom in time. I've had a colocystectomy and sometimes you only have time to get to the closest bathroom. I think you have serious problems.

Then why are you vacationing if you haven't recovered enough not to have diarrhea on the floor?

Going to the bathroom to relieve yourself is hardly the same thing as having diarrhea on the floor. Quit being dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also how bad is your diet that you just head to the neighbor's for an evening soiree and might need to take a full blown dump?

Many of us have our morning coffee, use the bathroom, and then go on with our day. Evenings out do not involve random shits.

Consider looking into nutrition as a general matter!

+10000 agree

Most healthy people have daily poops like clockwork. We know when it's going to happen, because it happens at the same time every day. And honestly, it shouldn't even smell if you're eating plenty of roughage. Nor should it take more than 1 minute or 2.

Wake up, get coffee, poop. 30-45 minutes later, I poop again. Both at home in the morning before work. There are rarely random shits unless there's something really wrong with me, in which case I'm inclined to stay home anyway.

Many of us don't take a drug every morning that spurs our shits.

Maybe you should so that you don't find yourself running to the nearest bathroom at a party fouling it up, clogging the toilet, and having to wipe your diarrhea off the floor?

[Anonymous]

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I agree with OP. Houseguests with their own bathrooms should poop in their own bathroom. I think most of us would appreciate the privacy.

However, there are always situations where your guests will use your powderroom to poop. What is it is a dinner guest?

My solution is to have Poo-Pourri in all bathrooms. It really works. My kids have taken it to beach week as well as their college dorms too. No one wants to be known as the person who produces the stinky putrid dung!!

This stuff is tacky. Just put a candle in there or a nicer room spray.

Candle and room spray is tacky and harmful to health. Poo Pourri is a perfect solution because it works physically and not chemically. This is basically soap and essential oils and creates a physical barrier on the surface of the water to trap smells. And it is very effective and pleasant smelling (just the citrus smell though).

The other option is that people can just go to their bathrooms and poop there, or they can cultivate better gut biome. Buy people will be people and remain gross.

[Anonymous]

I group OP in the same category as people who put nice looking hand towels in the powder room but actually don't want anyone to use them--they're just for decoration.

[Anonymous]

I am just here to reiterate that the people I find most shocking on these threads are those who pretend that there are no societal norms around bathrooms and they are just now hearing these crazy ideas in their 40s. Do you roll into the stall next to your boss and take a huge dump while chit chatting about the morning's marketing meeting? I am fascinated. If you do this, please clarify whether you are a man (this seems more culturally "normal" according to how my husband describes men's bathrooms).

Additionally, do you fart openly under the "it's just your body" theory? Talk about your sex life with your husband openly in mixed company? Scratch random itches in the crotch area in public? Are you aware that these things are also subject to cultural norms that cause most people to seek some sort of privacy in doing them? I truly want to know whether this ignorance is feigned or real. Thanks for the (anecdotal) data!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just here to reiterate that the people I find most shocking on these threads are those who pretend that there are no societal norms around bathrooms and they are just now hearing these crazy ideas in their 40s. Do you roll into the stall next to your boss and take a huge dump while chit chatting about the morning's marketing meeting? I am fascinated. If you do this, please clarify whether you are a man (this seems more culturally "normal" according to how my husband describes men's bathrooms).

Additionally, do you fart openly under the "it's just your body" theory? Talk about your sex life with your husband openly in mixed company? Scratch random itches in the crotch area in public? Are you aware that these things are also subject to cultural norms that cause most people to seek some sort of privacy in doing them? I truly want to know whether this ignorance is feigned or real. Thanks for the (anecdotal) data!

Only a sizeable number of WASPs don't follow these norms. No other race, no other culture will behave in such uncivilized and inconsiderate manner and not be shamed by others. IMHO based on my anecdata.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just here to reiterate that the people I find most shocking on these threads are those who pretend that there are no societal norms around bathrooms and they are just now hearing these crazy ideas in their 40s. Do you roll into the stall next to your boss and take a huge dump while chit chatting about the morning's marketing meeting? I am fascinated. If you do this, please clarify whether you are a man (this seems more culturally "normal" according to how my husband describes men's bathrooms).

Additionally, do you fart openly under the "it's just your body" theory? Talk about your sex life with your husband openly in mixed company? Scratch random itches in the crotch area in public? Are you aware that these things are also subject to cultural norms that cause most people to seek some sort of privacy in doing them? I truly want to know whether this ignorance is feigned or real. Thanks for the (anecdotal) data!

Are you suggesting that women should repress bodily functions more than we already do? Strive to be more like dolls who don’t have physical needs? You’re appalled that someone poops in a public bathroom? What if there’s an empty stall between the woman and her boss, is that okay then? What if she’s mid poop and her boss comes into the stall beside her. Should she hold it in until boss exits? Why aren’t you more critical of men for doing these things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just here to reiterate that the people I find most shocking on these threads are those who pretend that there are no societal norms around bathrooms and they are just now hearing these crazy ideas in their 40s. Do you roll into the stall next to your boss and take a huge dump while chit chatting about the morning's marketing meeting? I am fascinated. If you do this, please clarify whether you are a man (this seems more culturally "normal" according to how my husband describes men's bathrooms).

Additionally, do you fart openly under the "it's just your body" theory? Talk about your sex life with your husband openly in mixed company? Scratch random itches in the crotch area in public? Are you aware that these things are also subject to cultural norms that cause most people to seek some sort of privacy in doing them? I truly want to know whether this ignorance is feigned or real. Thanks for the (anecdotal) data!

The only thing I would add is while pooping you do not engage in idle chit chat or any chat. Sometimes farts escape and unless you are 12 no big deal. Talking about sex is not appropriate unless you know your company.

However. Using the bathroom for what it was created is ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just here to reiterate that the people I find most shocking on these threads are those who pretend that there are no societal norms around bathrooms and they are just now hearing these crazy ideas in their 40s. Do you roll into the stall next to your boss and take a huge dump while chit chatting about the morning's marketing meeting? I am fascinated. If you do this, please clarify whether you are a man (this seems more culturally "normal" according to how my husband describes men's bathrooms).

Additionally, do you fart openly under the "it's just your body" theory? Talk about your sex life with your husband openly in mixed company? Scratch random itches in the crotch area in public? Are you aware that these things are also subject to cultural norms that cause most people to seek some sort of privacy in doing them? I truly want to know whether this ignorance is feigned or real. Thanks for the (anecdotal) data!

Are you suggesting that women should repress bodily functions more than we already do? Strive to be more like dolls who don’t have physical needs? You’re appalled that someone poops in a public bathroom? What if there’s an empty stall between the woman and her boss, is that okay then? What if she’s mid poop and her boss comes into the stall beside her. Should she hold it in until boss exits? Why aren’t you more critical of men for doing these things?

Literally just collecting info from people who seem to not only not live by these norms, but also to be utterly aware of them. Oh, I find men disgusting, but acknowledge that the norms surrounding their bathrooms seem to differ. Pooping at the airport in anonymity is a lot different than intentionally hitting the work bathroom with the boss and unloading a number 2 (let's put aside the surprise attack you suggest). I am not saying you should not do that--I am just wondering who has no cultural barrier to it in 2022 in the United States--a totally unscientific research collection process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just here to reiterate that the people I find most shocking on these threads are those who pretend that there are no societal norms around bathrooms and they are just now hearing these crazy ideas in their 40s. Do you roll into the stall next to your boss and take a huge dump while chit chatting about the morning's marketing meeting? I am fascinated. If you do this, please clarify whether you are a man (this seems more culturally "normal" according to how my husband describes men's bathrooms).

Additionally, do you fart openly under the "it's just your body" theory? Talk about your sex life with your husband openly in mixed company? Scratch random itches in the crotch area in public? Are you aware that these things are also subject to cultural norms that cause most people to seek some sort of privacy in doing them? I truly want to know whether this ignorance is feigned or real. Thanks for the (anecdotal) data!

The only thing I would add is while pooping you do not engage in idle chit chat or any chat. Sometimes farts escape and unless you are 12 no big deal. Talking about sex is not appropriate unless you know your company.

However. Using the bathroom for what it was created is ok.

Are you a man or a woman? And you poop in the work bathroom while other people are in there--just avoid chatting while doing so? Thanks for the response!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just here to reiterate that the people I find most shocking on these threads are those who pretend that there are no societal norms around bathrooms and they are just now hearing these crazy ideas in their 40s. Do you roll into the stall next to your boss and take a huge dump while chit chatting about the morning's marketing meeting? I am fascinated. If you do this, please clarify whether you are a man (this seems more culturally "normal" according to how my husband describes men's bathrooms).

Additionally, do you fart openly under the "it's just your body" theory? Talk about your sex life with your husband openly in mixed company? Scratch random itches in the crotch area in public? Are you aware that these things are also subject to cultural norms that cause most people to seek some sort of privacy in doing them? I truly want to know whether this ignorance is feigned or real. Thanks for the (anecdotal) data!

My boss wants us to talk and walk with them even when they go to the bathroom. I have had to stand outside a stall while my boss takes a huge smelly loud dump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello! If you are sharing a beach house with family/friends, and you have a room or rooms with your family’s own bathroom, don’t poop in the powder room/don’t tie up the powder room. The powder room—usually near the kitchen/on the main level—is for washing hands or a quick pee. It is not for you to sit there and grunt and drop a load while others are waiting to wash hands/quickly pee, and then have to smell your stench.

This also goes for when you are a houseguest. In my home, guests have the entire lower level to themselves—full bath, full bedroom with queen-size bed, private sitting area with TV. THAT is where you go to poop, don’t use the powder room on the main level for this purpose.

I said what I said.

What if you can't get to that bathroom in time. I've had a colocystectomy and sometimes you only have time to get to the closest bathroom. I think you have serious problems.

Then why are you vacationing if you haven't recovered enough not to have diarrhea on the floor?

Going to the bathroom to relieve yourself is hardly the same thing as having diarrhea on the floor. Quit being dramatic.

Oh honey you must be the poster who finds nothing wrong with blowing out the powder room. We all think you are disgusting and talk about you behind your back.