What’s the e best financial decision you’ve ever made?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't view marrying or how many kids you have as being "financial decisions." Silly and wholly unhelpful answers. OP's question is what decisions did you make with your money?

The best decisions that we made with our money were (1) to fully fund retirement accounts from the start and aggressively and (2) take advantage of the DC area's top public school and state university systems and not throw your money away on private schools.

Then you don't understand how life decisions impact your bottom line. You're either young or stupid.

Not only am I neither of those things, I'm also rich.

All I'm saying is that I don't think that's what OP was asking.

Sure you are, my friend. I believe you.

There's one troll who is going through every thread today on an angry projecting tirade. She is not rich, enlightened, open-minded. I also doubt she has kids. If she does, they def don't love her.

OP's question is posted in the "money and finance" section. It isn't "trolling" to interpret OP's post as seeking advice relating to actual financial decisions.

So many of you are coming off as 1950s housewives. Marry well? Really? It's embarrassing.

Actually “marrying well” is definitely part of the equation when discussing best financial decisions. It’s not, however, to mean marry for money. Instead, it’s meant to be select a long-term good partner. If you don’t, it will be expensive in the long run. Ever hear of picking a bad business partner?? Same with life partner, if you put into a financial context…

And this is why men still rule the world. They're out there making the actual financial decisions that bring in the money, while women are interpreting questions like -- what's the best financial decision you ever made? -- to mean find yourself the right husband.

If you can't see the difference, well, you're thinking like a very traditional woman.

Wow, how are you able to discern the gender of those who post? Are you basing it on sterotypes? I’m male and I posted the response billed above. It’s because I married a wonderful wife, who shares the same financial values, and as it turned out: she earns far more than I do and is way ahead of me in terms of financial literacy. Why would you ever be surprised by that?

You're thinking like a woman.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't view marrying or how many kids you have as being "financial decisions." Silly and wholly unhelpful answers. OP's question is what decisions did you make with your money?

The best decisions that we made with our money were (1) to fully fund retirement accounts from the start and aggressively and (2) take advantage of the DC area's top public school and state university systems and not throw your money away on private schools.

Then you don't understand how life decisions impact your bottom line. You're either young or stupid.

Not only am I neither of those things, I'm also rich.

All I'm saying is that I don't think that's what OP was asking.

Sure you are, my friend. I believe you.

There's one troll who is going through every thread today on an angry projecting tirade. She is not rich, enlightened, open-minded. I also doubt she has kids. If she does, they def don't love her.

I honestly feel like its you who is antiquated. Did you just put down your Betty Freidan book or something? I feel like I married well. A stable life partner who has supported me, even when we switch primary breadwinner roles, he is loyal, kind a great father. and has allowed me to advance my career when I wanted to, off ramp when I wanted to, followed me to different corners of the world. There's nothing 1950s about my version of having Married Well. But there is a bra burning 1960s mentality to your interpretation of it.


OP's question is posted in the "money and finance" section. It isn't "trolling" to interpret OP's post as seeking advice relating to actual financial decisions.

So many of you are coming off as 1950s housewives. Marry well? Really? It's embarrassing.

Actually “marrying well” is definitely part of the equation when discussing best financial decisions. It’s not, however, to mean marry for money. Instead, it’s meant to be select a long-term good partner. If you don’t, it will be expensive in the long run. Ever hear of picking a bad business partner?? Same with life partner, if you put into a financial context…

And this is why men still rule the world. They're out there making the actual financial decisions that bring in the money, while women are interpreting questions like -- what's the best financial decision you ever made? -- to mean find yourself the right husband.

If you can't see the difference, well, you're thinking like a very traditional woman.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't view marrying or how many kids you have as being "financial decisions." Silly and wholly unhelpful answers. OP's question is what decisions did you make with your money?

The best decisions that we made with our money were (1) to fully fund retirement accounts from the start and aggressively and (2) take advantage of the DC area's top public school and state university systems and not throw your money away on private schools.

Then you don't understand how life decisions impact your bottom line. You're either young or stupid.

Not only am I neither of those things, I'm also rich.

All I'm saying is that I don't think that's what OP was asking.

Sure you are, my friend. I believe you.

There's one troll who is going through every thread today on an angry projecting tirade. She is not rich, enlightened, open-minded. I also doubt she has kids. If she does, they def don't love her.

My husband says all that time that I'm the best decision he's ever made. I outearn him. I think he's the best decision I've ever made. He's outearned me early in our careers, been a stable and loyal husband, a great father, partner, we have the same values and goals. He also supported me when I off ramped, and when my career took off and he followed me to other countries. All of this has been a boon to our NW and financial position. There is nothing 1950s about my version of I Married Well. But there is a bra burning 1960s version of your interpretation of it. Put down the Betty Freidan book. Its 2022.



I honestly feel like its you who is antiquated. Did you just put down your Betty Freidan book or something? I feel like I married well. A stable life partner who has supported me, even when we switch primary breadwinner roles, he is loyal, kind a great father. and has allowed me to advance my career when I wanted to, off ramp when I wanted to, followed me to different corners of the world. There's nothing 1950s about my version of having Married Well. But there is a bra burning 1960s mentality to your interpretation of it.


OP's question is posted in the "money and finance" section. It isn't "trolling" to interpret OP's post as seeking advice relating to actual financial decisions.

So many of you are coming off as 1950s housewives. Marry well? Really? It's embarrassing.

Actually “marrying well” is definitely part of the equation when discussing best financial decisions. It’s not, however, to mean marry for money. Instead, it’s meant to be select a long-term good partner. If you don’t, it will be expensive in the long run. Ever hear of picking a bad business partner?? Same with life partner, if you put into a financial context…

And this is why men still rule the world. They're out there making the actual financial decisions that bring in the money, while women are interpreting questions like -- what's the best financial decision you ever made? -- to mean find yourself the right husband.

If you can't see the difference, well, you're thinking like a very traditional woman.

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Wow replies are getting deleted left and right.

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I woould love to see everyone who posted above also now post "the worst financial decisions you've ever made?"

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Anonymous wrote:I woould love to see everyone who posted above also now post "the worst financial decisions you've ever made?"

Okay, I'll bite: bought a timeshare. Took 4 years to unload. Never used it. Pure stupidity.

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Investing in 401k from the first job even when it was $25 per paycheck to start.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't view marrying or how many kids you have as being "financial decisions." Silly and wholly unhelpful answers. OP's question is what decisions did you make with your money?

The best decisions that we made with our money were (1) to fully fund retirement accounts from the start and aggressively and (2) take advantage of the DC area's top public school and state university systems and not throw your money away on private schools.

Then you don't understand how life decisions impact your bottom line. You're either young or stupid.

Not only am I neither of those things, I'm also rich.

All I'm saying is that I don't think that's what OP was asking.

Sure you are, my friend. I believe you.

There's one troll who is going through every thread today on an angry projecting tirade. She is not rich, enlightened, open-minded. I also doubt she has kids. If she does, they def don't love her.

OP's question is posted in the "money and finance" section. It isn't "trolling" to interpret OP's post as seeking advice relating to actual financial decisions.

So many of you are coming off as 1950s housewives. Marry well? Really? It's embarrassing.

Actually “marrying well” is definitely part of the equation when discussing best financial decisions. It’s not, however, to mean marry for money. Instead, it’s meant to be select a long-term good partner. If you don’t, it will be expensive in the long run. Ever hear of picking a bad business partner?? Same with life partner, if you put into a financial context…

And this is why men still rule the world. They're out there making the actual financial decisions that bring in the money, while women are interpreting questions like -- what's the best financial decision you ever made? -- to mean find yourself the right husband.

If you can't see the difference, well, you're thinking like a very traditional woman.

DP, but no. "One spouse, one house" is gender-neutral financial advice. You're interpreting "marrying well" as finding a rich man, but I'm an upthread PP who considers marrying the right person to be one of the best decisions I've made. I outearn my DH threefold, but it's still a financial boon to be married to someone who shares your goals, works with you to accomplish them, and is stable themselves.

So your husband's decision to marry you was a financial one?

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Best financial decisions
1) got in car with a bad driver who did a triple rollover in front of a cop. Won Big Lawsuit
2) bought a coop at auction sight unseen sold for triple
3) bought a terribly overpriced classic car and got ripped off, engine, tranny and rust issues. Kept it in garage last decade with collector car insurance. Got totaled and got big pay out as went way up on value.
4) bought a house flood zone and made 50k over damage I got to keep
5) taking a job at a crazy start up leaving big four and making a lot of cash.

My best decisions are my worst decisions. I even once accidentally in a Ponzi Scheme and got out early

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My husband was able to become a big law partner because he married me. He will be the first to tell you this, and tells everyone we know this. So for him, a man, marrying me was definitely a good financial decision.

Marrying him was ironically not my best financial decision. He never expected to make partner when we met and wanted to leave law (something I supported). Mine was investing in real estate in a city that took off.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was able to become a big law partner because he married me. He will be the first to tell you this, and tells everyone we know this. So for him, a man, marrying me was definitely a good financial decision.

Marrying him was ironically not my best financial decision. He never expected to make partner when we met and wanted to leave law (something I supported). Mine was investing in real estate in a city that took off.

This is so not true. There are many, many married associates with wonderful and supportive spouses who don't make partner. Your husband made partner because he had the goods. Give him some credit.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was able to become a big law partner because he married me. He will be the first to tell you this, and tells everyone we know this. So for him, a man, marrying me was definitely a good financial decision.

Marrying him was ironically not my best financial decision. He never expected to make partner when we met and wanted to leave law (something I supported). Mine was investing in real estate in a city that took off.

This is so not true. There are many, many married associates with wonderful and supportive spouses who don't make partner. Your husband made partner because he had the goods. Give him some credit.

You are misunderstanding my point. This has nothing to do with other people and their lives. If my husband hadn't married me, he wouldn't have made partner. Our marriage helped his particular trajectory, for a variety of reasons. It's not like marrying me would have made those other associated partner. I'm not magic.

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying my spouse.

+1. You have to marry someone who is a good person, good judgment, good education, etc. Someone who is honest and trustworthy. Money and income don't matter as much as having this foundation when you're in your 20s and thinking about marrying. DH and I were in grad school/early career when we met. We did not make a lot of money, but the potential was there. Lived in a small condo in Adams Morgan, drove a Toyota Corolla. Twenty years later, annual income is just north of $2M.

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Married a stripper. Sooo regrettable

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was able to become a big law partner because he married me. He will be the first to tell you this, and tells everyone we know this. So for him, a man, marrying me was definitely a good financial decision.

Marrying him was ironically not my best financial decision. He never expected to make partner when we met and wanted to leave law (something I supported). Mine was investing in real estate in a city that took off.

This is so not true. There are many, many married associates with wonderful and supportive spouses who don't make partner. Your husband made partner because he had the goods. Give him some credit.

You are misunderstanding my point. This has nothing to do with other people and their lives. If my husband hadn't married me, he wouldn't have made partner. Our marriage helped his particular trajectory, for a variety of reasons. It's not like marrying me would have made those other associated partner. I'm not magic.

NP. I *know* that my husband would have been able to become a big law partner without me, but I definitely see couples with a different dynamic (the non-working spouse does more for than working spouse than I do). And I know that no matter how much my spouse supported me, I could never become a big law partner. We really do need to work on our imagination. We seem to have a hard time believing somebody with experience outside what we have witnessed.