Anyone marry a commitment phone?

[Anonymous]

How long did you date? How did you end up eventually getting married?

[Anonymous]

My H is fully committed to his phone. He stares longingly at it all day, laughs with it over shared jokes, is even more sexually intimate with it than he is with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long did you date? How did you end up eventually getting married?

Don't do it.

[Anonymous]

You can’t and shouldn’t pressurize anyone into a life long commitment, they have to want it. You should move on or stay without expectations.

[Anonymous]

Your virtual life is not your real life. I'd keep phones at a distance.

[Anonymous]

I just left my former phone after 5.25 years, which is longer than most but shorter than others. Am I a commitment phone? I admit, it was an upgrade though, my phone is way more attractive is in much better shape.

[Anonymous]

I’ve known my whole life I wanted to be married to a commitment phone. As a child, I would spend hours perfecting a string-soupcan phone. I went through flip phones through my high school years. There was a Blackberry in my college years that will always hold a special place in my heart. It wasn’t until I met my iPhone 6 that I found what I was looking for. Sure, it’s not as fancy as the newer models with all their camera lenses. But my 6 is committed to me and I’m committed to it. 📱❤️

[Anonymous]

I did, and it’s been mixed. We dated 7 years. I kept saying I wanted to get married and start trying for kids and he would be like me too, just not yet. For years. One day I said this is what I want, right now, if you don’t feel the same way, I’m done. I literally walked out the door. It was the first time I meant it— I didn’t care which way he went I just wanted an in or out. He picked in and we got married 4 months later. He was in his late 30s at that point. 2 years later when I was pregnant I discovered he was sleeping with his intern (classic, I know). He seemed to be having a scared of growing up freak out, and we went to counseling. I didn’t want to be alone with my newborn so I stayed with him.

Here’s the weird thing though — he actually grew up after that. To my knowledge he hasn’t cheated again,
6 years later. He isn’t possessive of his phone or computer and has no free time, so I think he hasn’t. He’s a good, commuted father. He pulls his weight in the house. We’re happy together.

So I guess tl;dr is it’s possible but may be a long road.

[Anonymous]

The answer is no. Stop wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

Are you a woman?

I would move on. Men are really assertive in getting who they want, and committing, when they are sure. If you have to wait around for them to put a ring on your finger, chances are they will never be truly committed and head over heels in life.

This doesn’t always hold true but I wouldn’t waste your time and get more emotionally invested on the off chance that this guy is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a woman?

I would move on. Men are really assertive in getting who they want, and committing, when they are sure. If you have to wait around for them to put a ring on your finger, chances are they will never be truly committed and head over heels in life.

This doesn’t always hold true but I wouldn’t waste your time and get more emotionally invested on the off chance that this guy is different.

I’m going to add that when I saw the title of this post, I thought you meant somebody who just generally has a hard time to committing to anything. DH is like this. He is constantly changing his mind about what he wants: to do, with everything from his job to landscaping. But within a month of dating me he said he wanted to marry me. He said that was the only thing he has ever been 100% sure about in life.

I think I was a catch but it’s not like *all* the guys were lining up for me. It was just that after dating a lot of women, DH found what he wanted. And I don’t think my story is unique.

[Anonymous]

I dated one and advise against it. Mine would flip whenever I tried to get it to open up, and the sex wasn't the great because it it's short, nubby antenna.

[Anonymous]

I hooked up with a burner

[Anonymous]

I won’t marry him because of his intense love affair with his iPhone. Stop the scroll (and touch my booty already).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did, and it’s been mixed. We dated 7 years. I kept saying I wanted to get married and start trying for kids and he would be like me too, just not yet. For years. One day I said this is what I want, right now, if you don’t feel the same way, I’m done. I literally walked out the door. It was the first time I meant it— I didn’t care which way he went I just wanted an in or out. He picked in and we got married 4 months later. He was in his late 30s at that point. 2 years later when I was pregnant I discovered he was sleeping with his intern (classic, I know). He seemed to be having a scared of growing up freak out, and we went to counseling. I didn’t want to be alone with my newborn so I stayed with him.

Here’s the weird thing though — he actually grew up after that. To my knowledge he hasn’t cheated again,
6 years later. He isn’t possessive of his phone or computer and has no free time, so I think he hasn’t. He’s a good, commuted father. He pulls his weight in the house. We’re happy together.

So I guess tl;dr is it’s possible but may be a long road.

This sounds horrible. Why did you date him so long? You should have known.