If you had a family history of very early secondary infertility, WWYD as a young adult
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Anonymous
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If your mother had you at 21 and then couldn't have a second, despite trying in her mid 20's, and undergoing many rounds of IVF,
and your great grandmother had one at 18 and then continued to try/hope for a second until menopause. What would you do in your 20's? Choose to have your first very early? Freeze your eggs early on? |
Anonymous
| I would not take that information as a deciding factor, especially the great grandmother piece. I’d go about my life. |
Anonymous
I wouldn’t choose to start trying before you’re actually ready to have a kid. I did that, got pregnant right away, and I had a kid probably too early in life. That’s not something you can reverse! 
I’d look into freezing eggs and save up for IFV, and I would start trying maybe a year before you’d ideally like to have a kid. But this is obviously a really personal and tough decision! I wish you luck. |
Anonymous
| What makes you think infertility is genetic? What is the evidence and research? |
Anonymous
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Infertility is absolutely genetic in many cases. This is a well researched fact. Know what age your mother and or older sisters went through menopause. Know that fertility declines to zero 8-10 years before full menopause.
I knew that my mother went through menopause in her early 40s. I didn’t realize that would mean I would be completely infertile by 30. My sister had her kids at 27 and 29 and we didn’t realize at the time that she was probably near the end of her fertility. We used donor eggs and it has worked out great. I wouldn’t have kids before I was ready. Just be prepared to use donor eggs and move forward with your life. |
Anonymous
I'm pretty sure her mother tried donor eggs. |
Anonymous
| I’d see a reproductive endocrinologist, get my hormone levels tested, and see what they recommended. Likely I would want to freeze at least 40+ eggs while still young. |
Anonymous
| I'm one of those with family history of earlier menopause. I had a hard time even in my late 20s, when supposedly I had plenty of time. My daughter is only 2, but I might initiate a conversation about egg freezing around the time she graduates college, but that's 20 years from now- who knows what advances will be made by then. |
Anonymous
| My sister had early menopause (around age 30) whereas I had my last in my 40’s (totally natural surprise). You never know. |
Anonymous
| I’d definitely see an RE and get a baseline view of where you stand. Then depending on what they suggest, I’d freeze eggs (as many as I could afford). |
Anonymous
| How do you know it’s your mom and not dad? Ours was male factor at 27. We still had 3 babies though with infertility treatments. |
Anonymous
| I was in your shoes with my mom and aunts having issues conceiving and early menopause too. My grandmother got married very young so I can't base it off of her. I had my baseline labs tested at age 25. Results were borderline poor and we were getting married soon so decided to try right after the wedding and it took a good while. Now pursuing IVF for baby #2. Had I not been engaged, then definitely egg freezing and maybe freezing embryos with a donor too. |
Anonymous
Citation please. |
Anonymous
It’s not me, but in what case of the mom they learned in the process of infertility treatment, in the case of the great grandparent they don’t know of course. It could be a coincidence. |
Anonymous
If I can google it and come up with dozens of results, then so can you. It’s so irrefutable that it doesn’t take a lot of looking, but here you go: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4259396/ https://accessmedicine.mhmedical.com/content.aspx?bookid=1094§ionid=61904709 https://biomedres.us/pdfs/BJSTR.MS.ID.001984.pdf https://jhu.pure.elsevier.com/en/publications/genetic-basis-of-male-and-female-infertility https://www.actamedicainternational.com/article.asp?issn=2349-0578;year=2015;volume=2;issue=2;spage=149;epage=154;aulast=Singh |