My seventh grader and I are colluding to be lazy and not get stuff done

[Anonymous]

I am new to homeschooling. Just started this year. I am homeschooling one child with ASD and a normal IQ. The other kids go to a brick and mortar school.

At the beginning of the year, he would be up and ready to go at 8am when I got home from dropping the other kids off. I would make us breakfast while he got started on his math, and we would go from there. We were usually done by 1pm or so and spent the afternoon reading outside. Fast forward… …Today, he was still asleep when I got home from dropping the kids off at school at 8am. I told him that he could sleep until 9am and went to watch the new episode of The Gilded Age. At 9am, he said he was still tired and asked if he could just read something for school in bed. I told him tff he at was find and sat in his room reading my own book while he read social studies. We finally got going for the day around 10am. Then he was done at 1pm to eat lunch before a tutoring session at 2pm. The other kids finish school at 3:15.
I used to have these notecards with assignments for the day, and we had to get through all of them. We are falling so far behind in grammar, and he isn’t practicing piano like he was. We also don’t have time to do fun stuff.

I need to do a hard reset. If it was just me, I could do it, but I’m not sure how to get my som on board. (Especially since I have been right in there with him getting lazier and lazier.)

[Anonymous]

Do you have a list of what must be done by end of the “school year”? I’d suggest having one and if it’s not done, you’ll have to continue school into summer which will impact the whole family.

My kid is 11 and always been homeschooled. We didn’t really start actual school until he was 7, so we are in year 4. I certainly won’t pretend that we don’t have occasional lazy days and we are definitely in the category of “relaxed homeschoolers”, but it’s like anything — eating well, cleaning, brushing your teeth, exercising — you just have to keep up good habits. As the parent, i am responsible for doing my best for my kid. And that includes encouraging good habits and enforcing as needed.

[Anonymous]

I'd suggest having him get up with the other kids, and at least initially, going with you to drop off the other kids. After a week, I'd switch to getting him up with the others, but he can stay behind IF he's eating breakfast and getting ready for the day. He should be ready to start by the time you get back.